We tend to think of ourselves as either 'fixed' or 'broken'. The concept of living a Kintsukuroi life proposes that being broken makes us more valuable - depending on what we're using to fill int he broken spaces.
This presentation offers the concept that everyone has been hurt, emotionally wounded, or is in pain somehow. We've become experts at pretending we are 'ok', when in fact, we're not. The process of healing demand our ability to recognize our wounds and be vulnerable to the pain of healing.
5. Consequences of Using
Faulty Fillers
Incorrectly Used to Define Your
Fundamental Identity
Unhealed Wounds
Inability to move Forward
Struggle with Self-Esteem
Insupportable Relationships
6. Change the Script
Broken is Not of Your Making
Recognize the Pain of Change
Change Your Thinking => Changes Your Choices
=> Changes Your Life
7. The Kintsukuroi Life
Fear-less Living – stop worrying about what others
think
Fail Smart – re-define failure (think: pivot)
Your Environment Matters – broken vs. trash
8. The True Life of the Bowl
The true life of
the bowl began
the moment it
was dropped…
You must give up
what you are
for what you
might become.
Notas do Editor
“He jests at scars that never felt a wound.” ― William Shakespeare, Romeo and JulietAdmitting that we’re ‘broken’ in some way is a hard thing to do. It’s difficult to be vulnerable in a culturewhich values the mask of perfection, particularly Women.Broken feels shameful, painful. It is not pretty or nice. It is edgy, cracked; it rubs me and everyone else the wrong way.“I’m damaged goods” I’m not worthy – I’m not ‘normal’In the metaphor of the Kintsukuroi, we can find a path to healing and health of heart and mind. I cannot know what lives in the deep recesses of each of your hearts. But I do believe that the tender, broken parts in each of us are precious. Does this mean I would wish brokenness on each of us? Of course not. I don’t have to wish it. Brokenness comes with living. Nary a one of us is free from it.
There comes that moment in our lives when we realize that it’s not going to be ok right now. That someone we trusted hurt us, betrayed us, let us down in a significant way.Story of Eileen Rockerfeller – we judge based on outward appearances… Sadly, hugs and kisses don’t leave scars… it’s the pain we remember.
We keep thinking we have to “Get Over It’. RUBBISH. Some things we’ll never get over. “You can bandage the bleeding with food, with alcohol, with drugs, with work, with cigarettes, with sex, but eventually, it will all ooze through and stain your life. You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them” - Iyanla Vanzant, Yesterday, I Cried
We tend to define ourselves by our past. Mostly by our mistakes.
Change your thinking about your ‘brokenness’The cracks are the source of your beauty.It is through your trials, your imperfections, and your flaws that you gain your most valuable virtues. These “imperfections” are the evidence of your courage, tenacity, patience, love, and strength. They are proof of the lessons you’ve learned and the growth you’ve experienced. With each struggle, crack, and repair, you add to your beauty.Recognize the pain of change – ““Temporary, but excruciating, pain is the price of healing.” ― Vironika Tugaleva, The Love Mindset“Turn Your Wounds Into Wisdom” – Oprah Winfrey
“Our deepest wounds surround our greatest gifts.” ― Ken Page“Scars are but evidence of life," Coquette said. "Evidence of choices to be learned from...evidence of wounds...wounds inflicted of mistakes...wounds we choose to allow the healing of. We likewise choose to see them, that we may not make the same mistakes again.” ― Marcia Lynn McClure, The Whispered Kiss
We all have dysfunction. We are all broken. No matter what your status update, tweet, or smiling pictures on the mantel are saying about you, we all are beautiful masterpieces made up brokenness and bonded together with the help of authentic community.