This is the presentation that I used during my interview with Eng. Fadel Soliman. It includes the main points that I tackled دي النقاط الاساسية اللي انا ناقشتها في سياق حواري مع المهندس فاضل سليمان

1. What Pornography really is
The accumulative work of Muhammad Hazem Sherif
‘’ Many people defend pornography on the grounds
of freedom—the freedom of individuals to view and
do whatever they please. Ironically, those who
exercise that freedom end up in slavery. ‘’
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2.  Table of contents:
1st section:
A. The origins of Pornography
B. The emergence of contemporary
pornography
C. Contemporary pornography industry facts:
 Adult film performers
 Statistics
 Pornographers and their beliefs
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3.  A: The origins of pornography
‘’ pornography existed since the dawn of time where
cavemen carved their drawings onto the walls of
caves. In other words, pornography has been existent
ever since men learnt how to transform their
thoughts into depictions on walls, sands, or papers. ‘’
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4. ‘’ ancient forms of pornographic expressions were
never a societal threat or a phenomenon debated and
argued about consistently. Ancient forms of
pornographic materials included but were not limited
to wall paintings, sculptures, and statues, and more
recently postcards. ‘’
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5.  B: The emergence of contemporary
pornography:
 Hallmarks of Contemporary porn
1. Fantasy (nature)
2. Novelty (categories)
3. Brutality (actors & actresses)
4. Addictiveness (effect on consumer)
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6.  The breakthrough of contemporary porn
1. Print Magazines (1950’s)
2. VCR (1970’s)
3. Internet-Triple A engine- (1990’s)
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7.  Contemporary porn as an industry:
‘’ Contemporary pornography is a wholesome, U.S.A-
based industry with tremendous yearly-generated
revenues. It functions on portraying fantasy sexual
acts for the viewers' entertainment in exchange of
instantaneous financial transactions or endorsed
advertisements for other pornography-producing
companies. ‘’
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8. ‘’ Pornography producers innovate new types of
fantasy sex regularly to address the psyche of all
viewers possible and, in turn, receive more cash.
These fantasies have no direct or indirect relation
with intimate sexual intercourse and leads to high
levels of beliefs distortion in the minds of the viewers,
leading to an array of negative consequences. ‘’
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9. ‘’ It is claimed that the pornography industry which is
mainly located in the San Fernando Valley in Southern
California, contributed to the rise and fast
development of many online streaming technologies
with the purpose of getting the product to the
customer rather effectively. ‘’
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10. ‘’ Some give credit to the porn industry for fully creating
the ''ASACP '' which stands for the Association of Sites
Advocating Child Protection as well as the RTA label
(Restricted to Adults) that helps internet filters such as
NetNanny and K9 internet filter immediately recognize
and discontinue access to pornographic websites. ‘’
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11.  Contemporary porn in the eyes of its
consumers:
1: ‘’ Many rely on contemporary pornography as a
source of sex education in their adolescence; they
refer to it to know what to do and how to do it.
Unfortunately, it does not include scenarios of
intimacy and love; it offers naïve, fantasy-based plots
that takes sex out of context and prostitutes it for
the viewer's entertainment. ‘’
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12. 2: ‘’ Many think of pornography as a guy’s thing; a
healthy release of sexual energy to avoid fornication. ‘’
3: ‘’ Many men do not understand how women feel
about her husband consuming pornography. ‘’
4: ‘’ Many men believe that the awesome sex is porn
sex. ‘’
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13. C: Contemporary pornography industry
facts:
 Adult film performers:
‘’ I never ever met a girl in the sex industry that liked what
she does; we are all liars, we all are good actresses. Men
abuse us and we abuse them back…they abuse us and
we abuse them back. ‘’ –Shelley Lubben/former adult film
performer
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14. Prominent former adult film performers:
 Shelley Lubben
 Crissey Moran
 April Garris
 Monica Foster
 Jennifer Case
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15. Statistics
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16.  Pornographers and their beliefs:
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17. "Playboy's become a voice for the new generation
reflecting a new view of contemporary man and the world
in which he lives. Playboy is a sort of Bible." Hugh
Hefner/Playboy founder-
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18. ‘’ Do what thou wilt shall be the whole of the law.
‘’ –Aleister Crowley- (1875-1974)
‘’ I was not content to believe in a
personal devil and serve him, in the
ordinary sense of the word. I
wanted to get hold of him
personally and become his chief of
staff. ‘’
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19. ‘’ Once again the government is wasting tax dollars and
otherwise invaluable law enforcement resources to try to
force a minority view of morality on all of America. Five of
my movies have been targeted by the Federal prude
patrol. There is no indication of any crime to be alleged
except obscenity.
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20. If indicted, I will fight to protect my liberty, as well as the
liberty of the consenting adults to watch other adults
engage in lawful, consensual, and pleasurable sexual action.
Shame on the Bush department of justice, I am proud of
the movies I make and proud of those who buy and sell
those movies. ‘’ Paul F. Little/ a.k.a Max Hardcore
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21. 2nd section:
The evil power of contemporary
pornography consumption:
A. Pornography as an addiction
B. Pornography as a teacher of beliefs
C. Pornography as a relationships destroyer
D. Pornography as a source of
individualistic problems
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22. A. Pornography as an addiction:
 What is an addiction in general?
‘’ A persistent and escalating pattern of an
activity acted out regardless of negative
consequences to self and others. ‘’
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23.  Hallmarks of an addiction:
o Feeling different (addiction proneness)
o Loss of self-control
o Preoccupation with the behavior
o Negative consequences
o Temporary satiation
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24. Other hallmarks of an addiction (4Cs):
o Control inability
o Compulsion
o Cravings
o Continuity
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25.  Important remarks:
o Addictions are not habits
o Addictions create strong brain changes
that are responsible for the hallmarks
o Addictions inevitably need intervention
and help
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26.  TheBig Q: Why contemporary
pornography is addictive?
Because of:
o Its supercharged nature
o Masturbatory conditioning
o The porn relationship
o Triple A engine: internet factors
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27.  Progression of Porn addiction:
(Victor B. Cline/behavioral scientist)
o Early exposure
o Porn addiction
o Escalation
o Desensitization
o Acting out sexually
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28. B. Pornography as a teacher of beliefs:
o Implicitlearning/incidental learning
o Teachings/lies of contemporary
pornography
o Adolescents’ high vulnerability to
imitation
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29. C. Pornography as a relationships
destroyer:
 Q: Can relational sex stop porn?
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30.  Partners in pain:
o Being in the dark
o Shock of discovery
o Emotional wounds
o Trying to cope
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31. D. Pornography as a source of
individualistic problems:
 Q: What are the consequences of
contemporary porn addiction that fall on
the individual?
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32. 1. Desensitization
2. Sensitization
3. Hyperfrontality
4. Social anxiety
5. Possible PE/erectile dysfunction
6. Physical tiredness or fatigue
7. Beliefs distortion
8. Impaired life performance
9. Spiritual impairment
10. Relationships damage
11. Financial loss
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33. 3rd section:
 Healing from pornography addiction:
A. Facing the truth
B. Starting with a fresh mindset
C. Creating a porn-free zone
D. Complete commitment and respect of
limits
E. Keeping yourself motivated
F. Progressive learning from relapses
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34. A. Facing the truth
 Reality check:
I am an addict and I need to reach out
‘’ When beginning your healing the first thing
you need to know is that some battles have to
be surrendered in order for you to win the
war. ‘’ Zeyad Ramadan/Purify your gaze
program
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35. ‘’ Thoughts of I am not that addicted, I have
got this under control or let me try again might
try to fight to the surface. Just be aware of
these thoughts coming to you and accept
that this is how you have been accustomed
to fighting through the chaos of addiction. ‘’
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36. ‘’ Telling another person is a calculated risk.
Choose carefully who you tell and choose
wisely how you tell them. Telling someone
else and breaking the isolation is a
necessary, basic step. ‘’
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37. ‘’ Surrender is not something you’ve done
once and now you are free to move
forward. You will need to surrender
repeatedly on every stage of your recovery
to remind yourself of your place of slave-
hood before Allah. ‘’
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38.  B: Starting with a fresh mindset
 Never beat yourself up
 Inevitability of relapses
 Positive affirmations
 Addiction is a brain disease
 Micro goal setting
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39.  Never beat yourself up/positive
reframing:
‘’ attitudes are more important than facts ‘’
o How you deal with a relapse is important
o There is nothing positive about stifling
shame and guilt
o The addiction cycle has to be broken
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41.  Inevitability of relapses
‘’ Don't view the relapse as a failure.
Relapses are inevitable. Rather, take an
objective look at what happened and why it
happened, then see what you can learn
from it. ‘’
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42.  Positive affirmations
o The A-B-C-D-E model:
- Activating event
- Belief
- Consequence
- Dispute
- Exercise
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43.  Addiction is a brain disease
o Nora Volkow: Director of NIDA
(National institute on drug abuse)
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44.  Micro goal setting
‘’ Put micro goals that are challenging,
specific and immediate. Break down a
month into 4 milestones, each a week.
Thinking of your recovery as a one, whole
goal can be really overwhelming. ‘’
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45.  C: Creating a porn-free zone
 Breaking up with porn/clearing it out
 Accountability programs and internet filters
 Identifying your triggers
 When the wave hits
 Cultivating distress tolerance
 Self-education and awareness
 Journaling/forums
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46.  Breaking up with porn/clearing it out
‘’ Some might find it difficult to get rid of
their porn stashes because of an emotional
connection with pornography and the
medication it provides. ‘’
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47.  Accountability programs and internet
filters
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48.  Identifying your triggers
Examples of the most common triggers:
1. Being home alone
2. Vulnerable times (stress, anxiety,
boredom, depression, insecurity)
3. External factors (suggestive content in
advertisements, movies or magazines)
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49.  When the wave hits
Progression of a relapse
Porn free zone Trigger territory
Thinking about using porn Accessing porn
Using porn as an outlet
5
4
3
1 2
Relapse zone
Porn free Trigger Thinking Accessing Using porn
zone territory about using porn as an outlet
porn
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50. Reversing the relapse:
o Stop immediately
o Get away 5
o Calm down immediate
o Reach out steps
o Reaffirm
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51.  Cultivate distress tolerance
‘’ Pornography is an unhealthy coping
mechanism. In the course of recovery, one
must experiment with healthy coping
mechanisms to deal with stress such as
exercising, spirituality, going out, reaching
out for support, etc. ‘’
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52.  Self-education and awareness
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53.  Journaling/forums
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