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Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes Sarah Green based on Failure to Communicate: How Conversations Go Wrong and What You Can Do to Right Them by Holly Weeks                                                                                                                                                                                                  
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Mistake #2: We try to oversimplify the problem.If the subject of your argument were straightforward, chances are you wouldn't be arguing about it. Because it's daunting to try and tackle several issues at once, we may try to roll these problems up into a less-complex Über-Problem. But the existence of such a beast is often an illusion. To avoid oversimplifying, remind yourself that if the issue weren't complicated, it probably wouldn't be so hard to talk about
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Mistake #5: We react to thwarting ploys.Lying, threatening, stonewalling, crying, sarcasm, shouting, silence, accusing, taking offense: tough talks can present an arsenal of thwarting ploys. (Just because you're trying to move beyond the combat mentality doesn't mean your counterpart is.) But you also have an array of potential responses, ranging from passive to aggressive. Again, the most effective is to move to the middle: disarm the ploy by addressing it. For instance, if your counterpart has stopped responding to you, you can simply say, "I don't know how to interpret your silence."
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
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Ten common mistakes

  • 1. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes Sarah Green based on Failure to Communicate: How Conversations Go Wrong and What You Can Do to Right Them by Holly Weeks                                                                                                                                                                                                  
  • 2.
  • 3. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Mistake #2: We try to oversimplify the problem.If the subject of your argument were straightforward, chances are you wouldn't be arguing about it. Because it's daunting to try and tackle several issues at once, we may try to roll these problems up into a less-complex Über-Problem. But the existence of such a beast is often an illusion. To avoid oversimplifying, remind yourself that if the issue weren't complicated, it probably wouldn't be so hard to talk about
  • 4. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 5. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 6. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Mistake #5: We react to thwarting ploys.Lying, threatening, stonewalling, crying, sarcasm, shouting, silence, accusing, taking offense: tough talks can present an arsenal of thwarting ploys. (Just because you're trying to move beyond the combat mentality doesn't mean your counterpart is.) But you also have an array of potential responses, ranging from passive to aggressive. Again, the most effective is to move to the middle: disarm the ploy by addressing it. For instance, if your counterpart has stopped responding to you, you can simply say, "I don't know how to interpret your silence."
  • 7. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 8. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 9. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 10. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                       
  • 11. Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes                                                                                        Difficult Conversations: Nine Common Mistakes