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“Trauma Informed Coach” training for Integrate Training
with Joanna Harper : July 2020
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5. Baby experiences
discomfort or a need
Baby calms
trust develops
Baby plays and
interacts with mother
Baby rests
Mother picks baby up,
eye contact, talks to
and soothes baby
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Secure Attachment Cycle:
“normal child development”
© Helen Oakwater 2017
SANDY
6. I am safe
I am loved
I am cared for
I am valued
I can trust adults
I’m special
I’m okay
It’s a safe place
People love me
People care for me
There is a place for me here
I am important to them
The world is okay
ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
SANDY : Securely Attached, Normal
Development, Youngster
© Helen Oakwater 2017
BELIEFS
7. Baby plays with self or
becomes apathetic
Baby protests
even louder
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Mother does not respond
to baby’s cry or responds
inconsistently
Baby experiences
discomfort or a need
Baby gives up.
Rage &/or Apathy
develop instead of trust
Mother responds with
anger , resentment or
does not respond
Baby
rests
Disturbed Attachment Cycle
“distorted child development”
© Helen Oakwater 2017
TAMIE
8. I am in danger
I’m scared
I am not cared for
I’m small
I’m not valued
It’s a terrifying world
People are scary
Dangerous place
Threats are everywhere
Be invisible
The world is not okay
POOR ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
I’m alone
TAMIE: Terrified, Anxious,
Maligned, Insecure Emotionally
© Helen Oakwater 2017
BELIEFS
9. Baby plays with self or
becomes apathetic
Baby protests
even louder
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Mother does not respond
to baby’s cry or responds
inconsistently
Baby experiences
discomfort or a need
Baby gives up.
Rage &/or Apathy
develop instead of trust
Mother responds with
anger , resentment or
does not respond
Baby
rests
Disturbed Attachment Cycle
“distorted child development”
© Helen Oakwater 2017
TIM
10. I am not safe
I’m terrified
I am not cared for
I am unlovable
I’m ignored
I’m not valued
I’m bad
It’s a hostile world
People hurt you
Dangerous unpredictable place
There is no place for me
Nothing is important
The world is not okay
POOR ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
I’m alone
TIM:
Traumatised Infant Maltreated
© Helen Oakwater 2017
BELIEFS
11. Insecure attachments (David Howe UEA)
Childs Behavioural Characteristics
Ambivalent
hyperactivation of
attachment
coercive
passive
dependent
NEED + ANGER
Disorganised
fear/compliance
compulsive
caregiving
controlling
aggressive
RAGE + FEAR +
SADNESS
Avoidant
defended
emotions
inhibited
compliant
self sufficient
independent
ANGER + FEAR
© Helen Oakwater 2016
12. Insecure attachments (David Howe UEA)
Caregivers characteristics
Ambivalent
insensitive
under involved
inconsistent
anxious
uncertain
Disorganised
frightening
frightened
helpless
abdicates
responsibility
Avoidant
rejecting
hostile
cold
conditional
intrusive
controlling
© Helen Oakwater 2016
13. TIM sensory experience:
alone, neglected in cot
SEE
Darkness
HEAR
Shouting &
slamming
doors
TASTE
Milk
& vomit
SMELL
Sour milk
& excrement
TOUCH
Nappy rash
FEEL
Hungry
& cold
© Helen Oakwater 2016
14. TIM - Infant Perspective
One piece of sensory shrapnel
One incident of
NEGLECT
Stored in implicit memory & sensory database
© Helen Oakwater 2016
18. I am a
bad boy
No therapy or reframing
Shrapnel still inside Tim
© Helen Oakwater 2016
20. I am an
OK kid
Robust Interventions. Truth.
Reframe past. Melt trauma
© Helen Oakwater 2016
21. The Infant Perspective
One piece of sensory shrapnel
One incident of
NEGLECT
Stored in implicit memory & sensory database
© Helen Oakwater 2016
24. “The house was a bit messy”
Frequently MISMATCH between sensory life
experiences and story child is told
© Helen Oakwater 2016
25. Confusing MISMATCH of language
“The house was a bit messy”
clean untidy versus disgusting squalor
© Helen Oakwater 2016
26. 26
“The house was a bit messy”
They slept on
mattresses soaked with
urine, covered with
filthy bedding, wading
through mouldy
rubbish ankle-deep to
get through the front
door and off to school.
© Helen Oakwater 2016
28. Melting Trauma NOW
“The body keeps
the score”
BESSEL VAN DER KOLK
FEEL SAFE
INSIDE
THE BODY
© Helen Oakwater 2017
29. 1. Regulate (you & them)
2. Relate
3. Reason
Three step process
“Dysregulated children in school
will not learn”: Dr Bruce Perry
Simple
Consistent
Open
© Helen Oakwater 2017
30. Extract from WANT TO ADOPT by Helen Oakwater
© Helen Oakwater 2019
© Helen Oakwater 2019
31. Metaphor: Wall of Children Needs
6-9
3-6
1-3
0-1
-0
Prenatal
hugs
food
food
food
food
hugs
hugs
hugs
school
school
friends
run
run
friends
challenge
trust
trust
trust
books
© Helen Oakwater 2017
33. © Helen Oakwater 2017
pre
natal
0-1
18-25
12-18
7-12
1-3
3-7
Developmental needs over time
“Normal”
40. © Helen Oakwater 2017
pre
natal
0-2
17-25
12-17
9-12
2-4
4-8
Developmental needs over time
With infancy maltreatment
41. Links as discussed
Helen Oakwater YouTube
Tim in more depth: (13 minute)
Does lack of truth telling destabilise the life of a traumatised child
http://bit.ly/2I2gvrq
Playlist what lurks below the behaviour of a hurt child (Tamie, Sandy, Tim)
(6 x 10 minute professionally filmed presentation to camera and live audience) https://bit.ly/2OhMHL4
First interview with Robert logical levels + trauma (15 min) https://youtu.be/hrK9_ZPo790
Second interview with Robert logical levels + trauma + support (15 minutes)
(coaching, mentoring, guiding, teaching, sponsorship, awakening,) https://youtu.be/XazhuUAXhHg
44. FREE RESOURCES - articles, links, podcasts, etc
LEARNING PLATFORM & TOOLS
ONLINE TRAINING - various audiences
FUTURE-PROOFING - evidence & thinking
REAL and honest
EXPERTS in various fields (coaching, leadership,
communication skills, trauma, etc)
LEADING LEARNER principles
www.FABParents.co.uk
YouTube Channel: HelenOakwater
© Helen Oakwater 2019