6 Steps to triple your social confidence and meet new people. Do we need to say any more? Learn a simple 6 step process to dramatically and naturally become a more sociable person.
This is like, how to win friends and influence people in 2015.
Meet men, meet women, make friends everywhere and enjoy the process. You can do this.
6 steps to triple your social confidence and meet new people
1. 6 Steps to triple your
Social Confidence,
and meet new people.
In compliments to an article:
http://adriancahill.com/self-development/how-to-improve-social-confidence/
3. • 8 years ago I was a
complete nobody. I had
hardly any friends. I
struggled to talk to new
people, couldn’t talk to
strangers and certainly
couldn’t talk to the
opposite sex.
My sister and I on the beach with Grandad
4. • Once I learned how to improve my social
confidence, and meet new people a whole
new world opened up for me. I hope, and
know it can do the same for you!
5. 6 Steps to triple your
Social Confidence,
and meet new people.
6. 1. Talk to strangers, frequently.
Talk to everybody!
Talk to the security guard, the shop
attendants, the delivery people, people
anywhere you can. Even if its just hi.
Push yourself to say hi. Later extending this to
a question or two.
8. 2. The Best Topic in the world..
Everyone has their own story and their
favourite stories. You do to. What is your story
you like to share?
Think about that for a moment.
What’s your favourite story you love to share?
9. What’s your favourite food?
What are you interested in?
Where are you from?
You may not like to verbalise it, however you are
your favourite topic.
Everyone's favourite topic is themselves!
Now you know one of the best secrets to making
friends and rapport with people! How awesome
are you!
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11. 3. Learn to listen effectively.
Imagine if every thing that came out of your
mouth was twice as wise. How valuable would
that be?
That can actually be achieved through regular
practice of a simply concept I call,
“shut your mouth & listen first”.
Seek first to understand.
12. Most of our communication is not in the
words we say or hear.
13. Third Level Listening
First listen with your ears, to the words,
Second listen with your mind and attention. Process
what their saying.
Thirdly, listen with your heart. 100% focus on them.
The emotion, body language, and words when
processed together often have a different intent which
is missed if focused on the words.
Note: Men are from Mars & we tend to focus on the
words used and body language. Women tend to focus
(or need) more of third level listening.
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15. 4. Don’t worry about what people
think of you
Their too busy thinking about themselves
anyway!
We are suppose to be a least a little
concerned about what other people think.
That is part of Social or Cultural Intelligence.
Part of being in a tribe is behaving to tribe
norms. However we over do it far to often.
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17. 5. Laugh
The psychological and physical benefits of
laughing are often underestimated.
Laughing is one of the best ways to ease
stress, anxiety, tension, fear, trauma and the
hiccups
Encourage laughter and light heartedness in
your day.
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19. 6. Want to really gain confidence?
Go to events where you don’t know anyone,
regularly.
20. Good places to go by yourself:
•Meetup.com is loaded with networking events.
•Festivals, Expo’s (preferably places people are enjoying
themselves, not trying to sell you something).
•Fitness/Walking Groups, Dancing/Yoga/Martial Arts
classes (many of these offer free trials),
•ANY SOCIAL GROUPS YOU CAN FIND
One of the hardest things for me to do in my life, was build
up the courage to go out and try to make friends alone. 25
yrs old, coming out of a 7yr relationship, trying to make
friends and totally clueless. It was hard, but I tried hard and
regularly. You can too.
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22. Summary:
• Be the light hearted smiley guy that says hello.
• Next be the light hearted smiley guy that says
occasionally asks a question. How are you
today? How was your weekend.
• Take that side of you to new places and let it
grow!
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