1. Leħen Familji Nsara
Diċembru 2013 ● Ħarġa Nru 17
Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar
Merħba!
Il-Milied dalwaqt magħna u sena oħra waslet
fi tmiemha! Rigali, ikel u ċelebrazzjonijiet. IlMilied huwa ċelebrazzjoni tal-familja, fejn
niftakru fil-familja fqajra ta’ Ġesu’ u
nirringrazzjaw lil Alla tal-familja li tana.
Nistiednu
l-familji
tagħkom
għaċċelebrazzjoni tal-quddiesa tan-novena talMilied għall-familji nhar il-Ħadd 22 ta’
Diċembru fil-11:00am fil-knisja parrokkjali.
Nixtiequ nawguraw lill-familji tagħkom il-Milied
qaddis u sena mimlija risq, hena u barka.
Il-Kummissjoni Familja Naxxar ser tkompli bil-laqgħat ta' formazzjoni għall-miżżewġin.
Nistednukom għal-laqgħa dwar "L-intimita’ ta’ bejn il-koppja"
immexxija mill-koppja Nikol u Mary Baldacchino,
nhar is-Sibt il-11 ta’ Jannar 2014 fis-7:30pm fl-Annex tal-Knisja Parrokkjali fin-Naxxar.
Mistoqsija u risposta
Mistoqsija: Liż-żgħażagħ u adoloxxenti tallum tista’ tkellimhom?
Risposta: Jekk kelli messaġġ wieħed għall-ġenituri ta’ żgħażagħ u adoloxxenti jkun dan:
ftakru li intom għad għandkom influwenza qawwija fuq uliedkom. Tant smajna b’eżempji
ħżiena jew dik li tissejjaħ “peer pressure”, li ħafna jaqtgħu qalbhom milli jippruvaw
jinfluwenzaw lil uliedhom. Pero’ ir-riċerka tindika li ġenituri ta’ żgħażagħ u adoloxxenti
jkollhom ferm aktar influwenza fuq l-imġieba ta’ wliedhom, milli jkollhom sħabhom. Limġieba tal-ġenituri stess hi l-akbar eżempju għall-ulied. Jekk il-ġenituri juru onestà, lealtà, u
mpenn, huma qed jgħaddu messaġġ mill-aqwa lil uliedhom żgħażagħ. Jekk il-ġenituri
jagħtuhom mudell ta' żwieġ u mħabba huma qed joħolqu għal uliedhom sigurtà
emozzjonali li tgħinhom jagħmlu l-aħjar għażliet. Iż-żgħażagħ u l-adoloxxenti jirrispettaw
ġenituri ta' integrità. Huma jixtiequ li l-omm u l-missier flimkien ikunu l-mudell tagħhom.
Mistoqsija: Idea tajba li koppja li jinħabbu tassew jgħixu flimkien qabel iż-żwieġ?
Risposta: Illum ħafna żgħażagħ u anke oħrajn, mhux daqstant żgħażagħ, jaħsbu hekk. Iżda
ir-riċerka, f’pajjiżi kbar fejn din l-użanza daħħlet sew, tindika li dan mhux minnu. Naħseb li irraġuni hija li koppja qatt ma tista’ tissimula ż-żwieġ. Jaħsbu li ser jaraw kif imorru u jippruvaw
iż-żwieġ, iżda ż-żwieġ ma tista’ qatt tidħol għalih bi prova. Żwieġ tassew minnu nnifsu jitlob
impenn għal-ħajja. Meta koppja qed jgħixu flimkien mingħajr dan l-impenn jafu li kull
ġurnata wieħed minnhom jista’ jerġa’ jibdielhu u jitlaq. Avolja jekk jidher li wieħed jipprova
hija idea tajba, ir-riċerka u aktar w aktar l-iskrittura jindikaw li mhuwiex il-kas. Minkejja diversi
opinjonijiet u esperimenti soċjali ż-żwieġ nisrani jibqa’ l-aħjar mod.
Adatta minn “Q&A with Gary Chapman” awtur tal-ktieb “The Five Love Languages”.
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2. Build a Trust Reserve
Trust: Acceptance of the truth of a
statement without doubt, evidence or
investigation.
The most precious gift your spouse can give
you is his/her trust. That is, when he/she
accepts a statement of yours to be valid
without you having to provide proof.
If you prove yourself to be worthy of trust
over a period of time, you build up a "trust
reserve." This reserve gives you ultimate
freedom, and allows you to live guilt-free.
The benefit to your spouse is that he/she
can live a suspicion-free life while giving
you more trust in return. This is the sweet
spot in marriage, and only comes once a
pattern of truth has been established.
The goal for each of us should be to live
such authentic and genuine lives that we
build up trust with our spouse. We then
have to resist the temptation to take a
debit on that reserve by telling a lie to
cover our tracks. Lying always costs us, and
eats into the trust reserve. If we're wise, we'll
own up to our failures by telling the truth,
and protect whatever reserve we have left.
For example being fearful about discussing
finances and remaining silent keeps you in
the vicious cycle of financial stress.
Remember: The most precious gift your
spouse can give you is his/her trust. Don't
violate it. Keep building a trust reserve.
Encourage Your Mate
When do you perform best? When you're
encouraged or when you're repeatedly
told you can't do it, you're lousy, you're
sorry, or you'll never get it right? If you're like
most people, you perform best when you're
praised.
needs praise and encouragement to
perform at his/her best. You may be
saying, "But you don't know my spouse …
he/she really is lousy and sorry."
Well, that's debatable. What cannot be
debated, however, is that your spouse
won't become any better if you keep
putting him/her down.
Praise and encourage your mate. Give
him/her something positive to live up to,
and you just may see that mate you've
been longing to see.
Adapted from the Marriage Works! Newsletter
Marriage Pressure Points
A unique and realistic series of short
films depicting the real conflicts and
raw issues of marriage. The series
covers topics such as anger issues,
infidelity, spousal abuse, blended
families, flirting at work, intimacy issues,
etc. Each film has a positive message
and always ends with some level of
grace, mercy and/or forgiveness.
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Guess what? Your spouse is no different.
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