8. If you want to be successful you
must respect one rule:
Never lie to yourself.
~ Paulo Coelho
9. Who’s responsible?
•If your child doesn’t study?
•If your child has no manners?
•If your child is not connected to Allah?ﷻ
•If your child has no life skills?
So who must be punished?But who is punished?
11. Qualities of the Parent
1. Inspire respect & confidence
2. Demonstrate high values and moral standards
3. Communicate with understanding & respect
4. Motivate & create excitement in learning
5. Demand commitment & rigor
6. Never compromise on quality & principles
Remember: Children listen with their eyes
14. Guide not Force
1. Don’t live out your fantasies through your
children
2. They’re individuals. Not your alter ego.
3. Don’t force them to do what you couldn't do or
what you think is best for them
4. Let them realize their own potential. Not yours.
Our generation made this world – not theirs
15. Reality
1. They belong to Allah,ﷻ not to you
2. You don’t own them, you hold them in trust
3. Allahﷻ will hold you accountable for them, not
them for you
4. They are your Thawaab-ul-Jaariya
And your dua is their most powerful resource
21. New Way
1. Seek to understand them
2. Support them
3. Show them why your way is better
4. Show them WiiFM
Be prepared to work hard
22. Justice
1. Involve them in decisions that concern them
2. Seek their opinion seriously
3. Understand their fears
4. Get their buy-in to an exciting future
5. Challenge them and show the benefit
Otherwise prepare to fail
23. Teach Values first?
•Why Values?
• Inspire and motivate
• Sustain through hardship
• Provide a sense of purpose
• Create resilience
• Anchor self esteem and identity
Values can’t be legislated. They must be inculcated
25. 6 – Critical Attitudes
1. Power to envision the future
2. Courage to question & take a stand
3. Determination to set extraordinary goals
4. Tools to derive their own solutions
5. Willingness for team-work & collaboration
6. Lifelong openness to learning
Teach tools because you don’t know the future
26.
27. And remind them that…..
•Current circumstances don’t determine whether
you will succeed or fail, they only determine
where you need to start.
Courage is a factor of faith
28. To teach the child to succeed in a
future that you know nothing
about
Your challenge
31. A successful parent is one who enables
the child to leverage its strengths and
sets its feet on a path of self discovery
where s/he constantly strives to make
the world a better place.
