16. Why Consider EEs
• Promote Mourning Process
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17. Why Consider EEs
• Promote Mourning Process
• Common
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18. Why Consider EEs
• Promote Mourning Process
• Common
• Real to Observer
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19. Why Consider EEs
• Promote Mourning Process
• Common
• Real to Observer
• Need to Share
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20. Why Consider EEs
• Promote Mourning Process
• Common
• Real to Observer
• Need to Share
• Personal Growth and Affects Identity
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48. Common Responses
• Permission
• Relief
• Strengthened Faith
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49. Common Responses
• Permission
• Relief
• Strengthened Faith
• I’m Still Loved
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50. Common Responses
• Permission
• Relief
• Strengthened Faith
• I’m Still Loved
• The Body Dies,
Love Doesn’t
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51. Common Responses
• Permission • Freedom
• Relief
• Strengthened Faith
• I’m Still Loved
• The Body Dies,
Love Doesn’t
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52. Common Responses
• Permission • Freedom
• Relief • I’m Not Alone
• Strengthened Faith
• I’m Still Loved
• The Body Dies,
Love Doesn’t
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53. Common Responses
• Permission • Freedom
• Relief • I’m Not Alone
• Strengthened Faith • Advice
• I’m Still Loved
• The Body Dies,
Love Doesn’t
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54. Common Responses
• Permission • Freedom
• Relief • I’m Not Alone
• Strengthened Faith • Advice
• I’m Still Loved • Hope of Reunion*
• The Body Dies,
Love Doesn’t
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55. Common Responses
• Permission • Freedom
• Relief • I’m Not Alone
• Strengthened Faith • Advice
• I’m Still Loved • Hope of Reunion*
• The Body Dies, • Reduce Fear of
Love Doesn’t Dying*
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58. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
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59. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
• Solace?
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60. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
• Solace?
• Intuitive feeling?
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61. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
• Solace?
• Intuitive feeling?
• Encouraging?
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62. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
• Solace?
• Intuitive feeling?
• Encouraging?
• Spiritual Awareness?
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63. Test of Authenticity
• Suggestive of deceased?
• Pattern?
• Solace?
• Intuitive feeling?
• Encouraging?
• Spiritual Awareness?
• DID IT BRING PEACE?
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67. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
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68. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
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69. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
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70. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
- Understand various beliefs
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71. Using EEs in Therapy
Not for every therapist
- Open-minded
- On-going familiarity
- Understand various beliefs
- Comfortable with criticism from
scientific-oriented colleagues
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74. Therapist’s Function
• Timing of an inquiry
• Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
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75. Therapist’s Function
• Timing of an inquiry
• Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
• Relate to beliefs of mourner
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76. Therapist’s Function
• Timing of an inquiry
• Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
• Relate to beliefs of mourner
• Review message received
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77. Therapist’s Function
• Timing of an inquiry
• Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
• Relate to beliefs of mourner
• Review message received
• Pose questions
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78. Therapist’s Function
• Timing of an inquiry
• Normalizing and neutralizing any stigma
• Relate to beliefs of mourner
• Review message received
• Pose questions
• Explore choices for usage
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80. Key Questions
• What’s different?
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81. Key Questions
• What’s different?
• Who is it from?
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82. Key Questions
• What’s different?
• Who is it from?
• What is the message?
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83. Key Questions
• What’s different?
• Who is it from?
• What is the message?
• How can you use it?
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84. Key Questions
• What’s different?
• Who is it from?
• What is the message?
• How can you use it?
• Want to respond?
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85. Key Questions
• What’s different?
• Who is it from?
• What is the message?
• How can you use it?
• Want to respond?
• What do you need?
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86. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• What is the message?
• How can you use it?
• Want to respond?
• What do you need?
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87. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• Your expression of love?
• What is the message?
• How can you use it?
• Want to respond?
• What do you need?
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88. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• Your expression of love?
• What is the message?
• How to honor?
• How can you use it?
• Want to respond?
• What do you need?
Monday, March 16, 2009
89. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• Your expression of love?
• What is the message?
• How to honor?
• How can you use it?
• New goal/dream?
• Want to respond?
• What do you need?
Monday, March 16, 2009
90. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• Your expression of love?
• What is the message?
• How to honor?
• How can you use it?
• New goal/dream?
• Want to respond?
• What can you do now?
• What do you need?
Monday, March 16, 2009
91. Key Questions
• •
What’s different? Expression of love/
caring?
• Who is it from?
• Your expression of love?
• What is the message?
• How to honor?
• How can you use it?
• New goal/dream?
• Want to respond?
• What can you do now?
• What do you need?
• What have you learned?
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104. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
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105. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
• Failure to seek deeper communion
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106. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
• Failure to seek deeper communion
• Relying on questionable guidance
Monday, March 16, 2009
107. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
• Failure to seek deeper communion
• Relying on questionable guidance
• False sense of security
Monday, March 16, 2009
108. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
• Failure to seek deeper communion
• Relying on questionable guidance
• False sense of security
• Failing to perform grief work
Monday, March 16, 2009
109. Dangers
• Loss of self-reliance
• Failure to seek deeper communion
• Relying on questionable guidance
• False sense of security
• Failing to perform grief work
• Universal need for continuing bond
Monday, March 16, 2009