7. Bully Proofing versus Victim Proofing Bully Proofing Victims rely on parents, school staff and student bystanders to protect them. Parent/staff creates a victim mentality. Punishing the bullies only makes them more angry or vengeful. Victim Proofing Victims learn to solve problems on their own. Gets rid of victim mentality Defuses bullying so there is no retaliation
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At first glance, many people might think this behavior is easy to define. Their first image of bullying might be of a physically intimidating boy beating up a smaller classmate. While that can still be considered bullying today, parents need to know that bullying behaviors can be much more complex and varied than that typical stereotype. For example, harmful bullying can also occur quietly and covertly, through gossip or on the Internet, causing emotional damage. Bullying can be circumstantial or chronic. It might be the result of a situation, such as being the new student at school, or it might be behavior that has been directed at the individual for a long period of time.
Defining “Harassment” Including Harassment based on Disability The OCR (Office for Civil Rights) and DOJ (Department of Justice) has made the distinction between bullying and harassment in that when the behaviors listed below are directed at a protected class; including:
Students have protection under federal laws.
Unless it meets RIP- repeated. Intentional and power over,
A true bully is a person that has little or no empathy and is most likely a sociopath. Bully behaviors are something that most likely we are all guilty of performing at some time in our life.
Characteristic of victims: Provocative: Passive Can provoke attack Generally do not invite attack Continually irritate their peers Are often isolated ( alone) Can be ADD or ADHD May use money or brides for protection Tend to perpetuate the conflict, but never win Anxious, low self-esteem and lacking social skills May be clumsy and few social skills May have a disability- mental or physical . LD May be mislabeled as bullies Usually lack humor May carry a weapon to protect themselves Are social outcasts, such as being last picked for activities
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What to do if you are being bullied: Tell them to stop. Walk away, tell them to stop, telling adult you trust, find a safe place, stick together, find opportunities to make new friends
Does not want to come to school o Is fearful he or she will be hurt Complains of stomach aches, headaches, etc. Has other new behavior as a result of bullying The 2008-2009 Annual Safe and Drug Free Schools (SDFS) Report of 7 th and 8 th graders: 41.8% in 8 Brevard schools self reported being verbally bullied. 38.4% of those reporting being bullied in the classroom. The 2009-2010 Annual SDFS Report of 7 th and 8 th graders in 8 Brevard schools found that 57% of students self reported being verbally bullied. 40% of those reporting being bullied in the classroom. Reported in both FYS and the SDFS survey, a majority of bullying occurred in the classroom with a teacher present. (While this finding might be surprising it is note worthy to speculate that this occurs not due to teachers choosing to ignore but due to the nature of bullying as a covert behavior).
Focus on the bulling behaviors..not the bully. The 2008-2009 Annual Safe and Drug Free Schools (SDFS) Report of 7 th and 8 th graders: 41.8% in 8 Brevard schools self reported being verbally bullied. 38.4% of those reporting being bullied in the classroom. The 2009-2010 Annual SDFS Report of 7 th and 8 th graders in 8 Brevard schools found that 57% of students self reported being verbally bullied. 40% of those reporting being bullied in the classroom. Reported in both FYS and the SDFS survey, a majority of bullying occurred in the classroom with a teacher present. (While this finding might be surprising it is note worthy to speculate that this occurs not due to teachers choosing to ignore but due to the nature of bullying as a covert behavior).