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The Influence Edge
Why Influencing Skills?
Why Influencing Skills?


Influencing skills are important, even
if you don’t have clear authority.
Why Influencing Skills?


Success depends on the ability to
influence those over whom you have
no direct control.
Why Influencing Skills?


Influencing skills can help you get
information or persuade people.
Why Influencing Skills?


• Finish work faster
Why Influencing Skills?


• Finish work faster
• Reduce conflict
Why Influencing Skills?


• Finish work faster
• Reduce conflict
• Relieve stress
Why Influencing Skills?


•   Finish work faster
•   Reduce conflict
•   Relieve stress
•   Demonstrate that you’re a team player
Why Influencing Skills?


•   Finish work faster
•   Reduce conflict
•   Relieve stress
•   Demonstrate that you’re a team player
•   Be a better negotiator
Influence Situations
Influence Situations


You need information to accomplish a
goal.
Influence Situations


You need management support.
Influence Situations


You need the help of an expert.
Influence Situations


Someone resists your idea after you
presented it in a logical, rational way.
Fundamental Factors
Fundamental Factors


• Your Goal
Fundamental Factors


• Your Goal
• The Other Person
Your Goal
Your Goal


• Know who you have to influence
Your Goal


• Know who you have to influence
• Give yourself a time frame
Your Goal


• Know who you have to influence
• Give yourself a time frame
• Know what you want
Your Goal


•   Know who you have to influence
•   Give yourself a time frame
•   Know what you want
•   State the goal in positive terms
Your Goal


•   Know who you have to influence
•   Give yourself a time frame
•   Know what you want
•   State the goal in positive terms
•   Determine if someone else is
    involved
Your Goal


• Determine your mindset
Your Goal


• Determine your mindset
• Check any assumptions you are
  making
Your Goal


• Determine your mindset
• Check any assumptions you are
  making
• Look at the situation objectively
Your Goal


• Determine ways the other person
  needs you
Your Goal


• Determine ways the other person
  needs you
• Find someone who has been
  successful in a similar situation
The Other Person
The Other Person


• Determine what you can do to make
  it easier for the other person
The Other Person


• Determine what you can do to make
  it easier for the other person
• Put yourself in the other person’s
  shoes
The Other Person


• Determine what you can do to make
  it easier for the other person
• Put yourself in the other person’s
  shoes
• Try to determine the other person’s
  mindset
Fundamental Factors


After consideration of the goal and
the other person, decide what energies
would be most useful in your situation.
Push Energy
Push Energy


Push Energy is direct, forceful and
persuasive.
Push Energy


Push Energy gets people to change
their course of action.
Push Energy


Use when:
• You know what you want
Push Energy


Use when:
• You know what you want
• You have good reasons to build a
  case
Push Energy


Use when:
• You know what you want
• You have good reasons to build a
  case
• You need a more direct approach
Assert


State clearly and directly what you
want.
Suggest


Make clear suggestions that are
relevant to the situation.
Provide Rationale


Provide reasons or benefits that
interest the other person.
Identify Consequences


Identify what may happen if the other
person doesn’t do what you ask.
Pull Energy
Pull Energy


Pull Energy is inclusive and involving.
Pull Energy


Pull Energy helps the other person see
alternatives.
Pull Energy


Use when:
• You want to build a relationship
Pull Energy


Use when:
• You want to build a relationship
• You need the involvement of others
Pull Energy


Use when:
• You want to build a relationship
• You need the involvement of others
• You require additional information
Open-Ended Questions


Ask questions to gather information,
and to find out what the other person
is thinking.
Open-Ended Questions


Encourage the involvement of the
other person.
Focused Questions


Ask questions that help the other
person focus on alternatives.
Summarize


Summarize what the other person has
said, so you can clarify issues and
demonstrate understanding.
Disclose


Disclose information that helps build
trust.
Push/Pull Energy
Push/Pull Energy


Push/Pull is a blend of both Push and
Pull energies.
Push/Pull Energy


Use when:
• You need to address conflict
Push/Pull Energy


Use when:
• You need to address conflict
• You want to create breakthrough
  results
Push/Pull Energy


Use when:
• You need to address conflict
• You want to create breakthrough
  results
• You want to provide meaningful
  exchanges
Offer Incentives


Offer incentives to make it easier for
the other person to do what you are
asking.
Highlight Commonalities


Highlight goals, values and positions
that are similar and different.
Create a Vision


Create a positive vision of what might
happen if the other person does what
you want.
The Influence Edge

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