1. Bullying:Relational Aggression Bullying S behavrdatsintendD 2 cauZmNtL distress n.orfizikL harm, exists ina R/Ship n wich there's an imbalance of pwr n str, n S repEtedovrtym Grade 7 Mrs. Glasgow

2. Define: Bullying Bullying is behavior that : Is intended to cause mental distress and/or physical harm Exists in a relationship in which there is an imbalance of power and strength Is repeated over time

3. Relational Aggression Definition DsignD 2 hurt SOME1 Harms relationships w othas Tends 2b mistaken o overlooked 4 minor argumnt Designed to hurt someone Harms relationships with others Tends to be mistaken or overlooked for minor argument

4. Relationships Used as weapons Creates imbalance of power Gain control Harms self-esteem of bullied Increases social status of bully Seek revenge by bully

5. Frequency Repetitive Continuous

6. Gender Specific? No! Girls more likely Boys do participate

7. Effects Lifelong Victim & Aggressor peer

8. Relational Aggression Withholding friendship Cliques/Exclusive clubs Ignoring/excluding others Building Alliances

9. Relational Aggression Verbal insults Spreading rumors/gossiping

10. Relational Aggression Influencing Talking people into peer rejection of another child

11. Relational Aggression Cyberbullying Bullying with the use of social media

12. Relational Aggression Effects -- Victim Lower self-esteem Loneliness Anxiety/depression School attendance drops Avoid social situations Seek revenge becomes an aggressor

13. Relational Aggression Effects – Aggressive Person Loneliness Isolation Less accepted by peers Depression/withdrawal/social avoidance/anxiety Problems social as adult

15. Isolation

16. Less accepted by peers

17. Depression

18. Withdrawal

19. Social avoidance

20. Anxiety

21. Problems social as adult

22. Lower self-esteem

23. Loneliness

24. Anxiety

25. Depression

26. School attendance drops

27. Avoid social situations

28. Seek revenge

30. Physical vs. Relational Occurs in all locations Classroom Gym class Extra-curricular activities After School Sports

31. Reporting Less likely to be reported Signs Mean note in class Excluding at lunchtables Eyes that catch and narrow

32. Relational Aggressor Social butterfly Popular High self-esteem Masters of manipulation To adults student appears innocent Good reputations Positive attention from Adults Difficult for Adults to ID

33. What to do? Best-friends change Private info stays private Do not share info that can be used to hurt you DO NOT SHARE Locker combo Crushes CHOOSE FRIENDS WISELY

34. Be a Floater!! Self-worth does not equal friendships Does not exclude Not tied to one group of friends Accepted for who they are

35. Compassion Don’t be a bystander No teasing/gossip

36. Friendships Friends = same interests Friends ≠ social status

37. Actions Actions have consequences and impact on others

38. Strategies to Help: Stay calm and confident No emotion No retaliation Ignore & Walk away Internet – No response

39. Strategies to Help: Keep Records Notes Emails Texts Journal of events Verbal/Nonverbal

40. Strategies to Help: You are not a loser Relational aggressor has problems

41. Strategies to Help: Remember Definitionof RA RA’s weakness Knowledge of behavior Go to a trusted Adult Evidence

42. Strategies to Help: Counselingfor long term problems

43. The Truth About Truman School by DoriHillestad Butler A story of middle school cyberbullying as seen through the eyes of: Zebby… she just wants to tell the truth. Amr… he wants people to understand that he is just as American as anyone else. Lilly… she wants to be popular. Hayley… she IS popular. Brianna… she wants to be Hayley’s B.F.F. Trevor… he just wants to be left alone