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Relational artifacts: A companion species Michele McFarlane Monica Campbell KW Leo Chan
What kinds of people are we becoming as we develop more and more intimate relationships with machines?
"What kind of relationship is it appropriate, desirable, imaginable to have with a machine?" and "What is a relationship?"
When a robotic creature makes eye contact, follows your gaze, and gestures towards you, you are provoked to respond to that creature as a sentient and even caring other.
the pressing issue in A.I. is not the potential "reality" of a non-biological son, but rather that faced by his adoptive mother -- a biological woman whose response to a machine that asks for her nurturance is the desire to nurture it; whose response to a non-biological creature who reaches out to her is to feel attachment, horror, love, and confusion.
Psychoanalytic thought offers materials that can deepen our understanding of what we feel when we confront a robot child who asks us for love. It can help us explore what moral stance we might take if we choose to pursue such relationships.
There is every indication that the future of computational technology will include relational artifacts that have feelings, life cycles, moods, that reminisce, and have a sense of humor -- that say they love us, and expect us to love them back.
    What will it mean to a person when their primary daily companion is a robotic dog? Or their health care "attendant" is built in the form of a robot cat? Or their software program attends to their emotional states and, in turn, has affective states of its own?
People are learning to interact with computers through conversation and gesture; people are learning that to relate successfully to a computer you have to assess its emotional "state."
children describe these new toys as "sort of alive" because of the quality of their emotional attachments to the objects and because of the idea that the Furby might be emotionally attached to them.
Jen (9): I really like to take care of it. So, I guess it is alive, but it doesn't need to really eat, so it is as alive as you can be if you don't eat. A Furby is like an owl. But it is more alive than an owl because it knows more and you can talk to it. But it needs batteries so it is not an animal. It's not like an animal kind of alive.
Today's children are learning to distinguish between an "animal kind of alive" and a "Furby kind of alive." The category of "sort of alive" becomes used with increasing frequency.
So, for example, eight-year-old Laurie thinks that Furbies are alive, but die when their batteries are removed. People are alive because they have hearts, bodies, lungs, "and a big battery inside. If somebody kills you -- maybe it's sort of like taking the batteries out of the Furby."
today's children are learning to have expectations of emotional attachments to computers, not in the way we have expectations of emotional attachment to our cars and stereos, but in the way we have expectations about our emotional attachments to people.
In the process, the very meaning of the word "emotional" may change. Children talk about an "animal kind of alive and a Furby kind of alive." Will they also talk about a "people kind of love" and a "computer kind of love?"
When we are asked to care for an object, when the cared-for object thrives and offers us its attention and concern, we experience that object as intelligent, but more important, we feel a connection to it.
So the question here is not to enter a debate about whether objects "really" have emotions, but to reflect on what relational artifacts evoke in the user.
How will interacting with relational artifacts affect people's way of thinking about themselves, their sense of human identity, of what makes people special?
 a shared sense of mortality has been the basis for feeling a commonality with other human beings, a sense of going through the same life cycle, a sense of the preciousness of time and life, of its fragility. Loss (of parents, of friends, of family) is part of the way we understand how human beings grow and develop and bring the qualities of other people within themselves.
The possibilities of engaging emotionally with creatures that will not die, whose loss we will never need to face, presents dramatic questions that are based on current technology -- not issues of whether the technology depicted in AI could really be developed.
"What kinds of relationships is it appropriate to have with machines? What will loving itself come to mean?
putting artificial creatures in the role of companions to our children and parents raises the question of their moral status.
We make our technologies, and our technologies make and shape us. We are not going to be the same people we are today, on the day we are faced with machines with which we feel in a relationship of mutual affection.
By the mid-1980s, anxiety about what AI challenged about human specialness had gone beyond whether machines would be "smart" and had moved to emotional and religious terrain.
The question of human specificity and the related question of the moral equivalence of people and machines have moved from the periphery to the center of discussions about artificial intelligence. One element of "populist" resistance to the idea of moral equivalence finds expression in a number of narratives. Among these is the idea that humans are special because of their imperfections.
Statements A ten-year-old who has just played with Breazeal's Kismet says, "I would love to have a robot at home. It would be such a good friend. But it couldn't be a best friend. It might know everything but I don't. So it wouldn't be a best friend." There is resistance from the experience of the life cycle. An adult confronting an "affective" computer program designed to function as a psychotherapist says, "Why would I want to talk about sibling rivalry to something that was never born and never had a mother?"
Statements Two grownups face a child in a wall of solidarity, explaining: "We're neither software nor hardware. We're your parents." The issue is the irreducibility of human beings and human meaning. We are back to the family, to the life cycle, to human fragility and experience. We are back to the elements of psychoanalytic culture.
What of Freud? It is fashionable to argue that we have moved from a psychoanalytic to a computer culture, that there is no need to talk about Freudian slips now that we can talk about information processing errors. In my view, however, the very opposite is true.
How do we verbalize it? We must cultivate the richest possible language and methodologies for talking about our increasingly emotional relationships with artifacts. We need far closer examination of how artifacts enter the development of self and mediate between self and other.
Psychoanalysis provides a rich language for distinguishing between need (something that artifacts may have) and desire (which resides in the conjunction of language and flesh). It provides a rich language for exploring the possibility of the irreducibility of human meanings.
Never have we so needed to be able to hold many different and contradictory thoughts and feelings at the same time.
Relational Artifacts 511 Dlg

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Relational Artifacts 511 Dlg

  • 1. Relational artifacts: A companion species Michele McFarlane Monica Campbell KW Leo Chan
  • 2. What kinds of people are we becoming as we develop more and more intimate relationships with machines?
  • 3. "What kind of relationship is it appropriate, desirable, imaginable to have with a machine?" and "What is a relationship?"
  • 4. When a robotic creature makes eye contact, follows your gaze, and gestures towards you, you are provoked to respond to that creature as a sentient and even caring other.
  • 5. the pressing issue in A.I. is not the potential "reality" of a non-biological son, but rather that faced by his adoptive mother -- a biological woman whose response to a machine that asks for her nurturance is the desire to nurture it; whose response to a non-biological creature who reaches out to her is to feel attachment, horror, love, and confusion.
  • 6. Psychoanalytic thought offers materials that can deepen our understanding of what we feel when we confront a robot child who asks us for love. It can help us explore what moral stance we might take if we choose to pursue such relationships.
  • 7. There is every indication that the future of computational technology will include relational artifacts that have feelings, life cycles, moods, that reminisce, and have a sense of humor -- that say they love us, and expect us to love them back.
  • 8. What will it mean to a person when their primary daily companion is a robotic dog? Or their health care "attendant" is built in the form of a robot cat? Or their software program attends to their emotional states and, in turn, has affective states of its own?
  • 9. People are learning to interact with computers through conversation and gesture; people are learning that to relate successfully to a computer you have to assess its emotional "state."
  • 10. children describe these new toys as "sort of alive" because of the quality of their emotional attachments to the objects and because of the idea that the Furby might be emotionally attached to them.
  • 11. Jen (9): I really like to take care of it. So, I guess it is alive, but it doesn't need to really eat, so it is as alive as you can be if you don't eat. A Furby is like an owl. But it is more alive than an owl because it knows more and you can talk to it. But it needs batteries so it is not an animal. It's not like an animal kind of alive.
  • 12. Today's children are learning to distinguish between an "animal kind of alive" and a "Furby kind of alive." The category of "sort of alive" becomes used with increasing frequency.
  • 13. So, for example, eight-year-old Laurie thinks that Furbies are alive, but die when their batteries are removed. People are alive because they have hearts, bodies, lungs, "and a big battery inside. If somebody kills you -- maybe it's sort of like taking the batteries out of the Furby."
  • 14. today's children are learning to have expectations of emotional attachments to computers, not in the way we have expectations of emotional attachment to our cars and stereos, but in the way we have expectations about our emotional attachments to people.
  • 15. In the process, the very meaning of the word "emotional" may change. Children talk about an "animal kind of alive and a Furby kind of alive." Will they also talk about a "people kind of love" and a "computer kind of love?"
  • 16. When we are asked to care for an object, when the cared-for object thrives and offers us its attention and concern, we experience that object as intelligent, but more important, we feel a connection to it.
  • 17. So the question here is not to enter a debate about whether objects "really" have emotions, but to reflect on what relational artifacts evoke in the user.
  • 18. How will interacting with relational artifacts affect people's way of thinking about themselves, their sense of human identity, of what makes people special?
  • 19. a shared sense of mortality has been the basis for feeling a commonality with other human beings, a sense of going through the same life cycle, a sense of the preciousness of time and life, of its fragility. Loss (of parents, of friends, of family) is part of the way we understand how human beings grow and develop and bring the qualities of other people within themselves.
  • 20. The possibilities of engaging emotionally with creatures that will not die, whose loss we will never need to face, presents dramatic questions that are based on current technology -- not issues of whether the technology depicted in AI could really be developed.
  • 21. "What kinds of relationships is it appropriate to have with machines? What will loving itself come to mean?
  • 22. putting artificial creatures in the role of companions to our children and parents raises the question of their moral status.
  • 23. We make our technologies, and our technologies make and shape us. We are not going to be the same people we are today, on the day we are faced with machines with which we feel in a relationship of mutual affection.
  • 24. By the mid-1980s, anxiety about what AI challenged about human specialness had gone beyond whether machines would be "smart" and had moved to emotional and religious terrain.
  • 25. The question of human specificity and the related question of the moral equivalence of people and machines have moved from the periphery to the center of discussions about artificial intelligence. One element of "populist" resistance to the idea of moral equivalence finds expression in a number of narratives. Among these is the idea that humans are special because of their imperfections.
  • 26. Statements A ten-year-old who has just played with Breazeal's Kismet says, "I would love to have a robot at home. It would be such a good friend. But it couldn't be a best friend. It might know everything but I don't. So it wouldn't be a best friend." There is resistance from the experience of the life cycle. An adult confronting an "affective" computer program designed to function as a psychotherapist says, "Why would I want to talk about sibling rivalry to something that was never born and never had a mother?"
  • 27. Statements Two grownups face a child in a wall of solidarity, explaining: "We're neither software nor hardware. We're your parents." The issue is the irreducibility of human beings and human meaning. We are back to the family, to the life cycle, to human fragility and experience. We are back to the elements of psychoanalytic culture.
  • 28. What of Freud? It is fashionable to argue that we have moved from a psychoanalytic to a computer culture, that there is no need to talk about Freudian slips now that we can talk about information processing errors. In my view, however, the very opposite is true.
  • 29. How do we verbalize it? We must cultivate the richest possible language and methodologies for talking about our increasingly emotional relationships with artifacts. We need far closer examination of how artifacts enter the development of self and mediate between self and other.
  • 30. Psychoanalysis provides a rich language for distinguishing between need (something that artifacts may have) and desire (which resides in the conjunction of language and flesh). It provides a rich language for exploring the possibility of the irreducibility of human meanings.
  • 31. Never have we so needed to be able to hold many different and contradictory thoughts and feelings at the same time.