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A Researcher Blog advancing Media & Social Literacy for Girls

Our You Tube video reaching 6000+ views in one
day!
Posted on December 4, 2013

I’ve decided to make a video collage from bits of the PoU clips in You Tube (yes..very time consuming I know…) hoping
to raise awareness of the issue.
The video reached 2000+ views in the space of just a few hours thanks to retweeting and other sharing on social media
platforms. I woke up this morning and saw the viewers count at 6000+ : I am amazed!
Even if the funds in Indiegogo are not growing as fast as I wish (I know that without a specific selling point or product to
show/pre-buy crowdfunding is notoriously difficult!) I remain optimistic in the power of collective awakening about these
issues and the many emails received from supporters along with the growing number of subscriptions to the channel
are something which really spurs me to do more.
I would like to publicily thank all the lovely supporters who have written their emails: I hope you will all appreciate that I
won’t have the time to reply to each one of you as I am still managing things mostly on my own (will be soon recruiting
a team of volunteers so get in touch if you wish to help!) and need to prioritise the writing up of my thesis at this stage

Please keep sharing and don’t forget to subscribe to the blog to keep up to date with our progress and receive new
blog posts directly in your email box.
Here ‘s the video:

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tagged beauty obsession, body image, effects of media on your girls, feminism, gender equality, girls selfesteem, insecurity, media effects, media literacy, pretty or ugly, self-consciouness, self-esteem,
sexualisation, the beauty myth, unethical marketing to kids, you tube, young girls insecurity by Francesca
Morosi. Bookmark the permalink [http://mediasavvygirls.com/our-you-tube-video-reaching-6000-views-inone-day/] .
9 THOUGHTS ON “OUR YOU TUBE VIDEO REACHING 6000+ VIEWS IN ONE DAY!”

Jessica D
on December 6, 2013 at 12:49 AM said:

Great video. My mom always told me that if you can be happy with
yourself, others will be happy to be around you. I never understood why
anyone would base their own happiness on what others thought of them.
You made a great video. I hope that it makes at least one girl re-evaluate
her opinion of herself.

Andrew
on January 2, 2014 at 11:32 PM said:

I couldn’t agree more with your mom there Jessica. As a father
who is watching (and trying to teach) his girl learn and grow her
values, I can see how challenging it is for them.
You’re right – even if only one girl truly gets the message, it’s
worth it.

Gelena
on December 6, 2013 at 6:47 PM said:

Great video. I don’t want this to be my daughter in 10yrs. All those girls
are beautiful. They don’t need to be told it, they should feel it. So sad.
Change needs to happen!

Martine Costa
on December 7, 2013 at 1:45 PM said:

As parents we should really discuss to our kids that beauty on the
outside is incomparable to the inside beauty. We should teach
them the value that will help them appreciate the unseen beauty of
other people and should not compare themselves to celebrities
and other people. Each one is unique and have superior character‐
istics that they should be proud of.

Alex Moore
on December 19, 2013 at 12:30 AM said:

It’s such a hard thing to “teach” because it’s a problem
that affects people even into adulthood. It’s one of those
things that come with maturity and experience and without
experiencing it yourself it’s very hard to convince yourself.
It really is a huge shame that this is how the world exists.
On a more positive note, though, the exceptions do bring
confidence and hopefully people can be more proactive
about the issue as everyone becomes more aware that it’s
a problem!

Phil Wang
on January 4, 2014 at 2:56 AM said:

Honestly, media has such a huge influence in society and it is sad
that it is influencing many people negatively. Not just physically but
mentally. You can never believe whats real and whats fake on tv
these days. When it comes to being pretty or ugly, it is a matter of
confidence. A pretty girl can feel that they are ugly when people
are always putting her down in many aspects of her life. Whether it
be school, sports, singing, dancing, cooking etc anything that may
seem minor, every kid considers it as a failure. And these kids of‐
ten compare themselves to the people they see on tv. They see
that many actors or musicians always look pretty on tv, they seem
happy, they look like they are good at certain things but what they
don’t realize is that these people on tv are also not really good at
many things. It is just that they have many people who work hard
to make them look good on tv.
In reality not just kids but grown ups often ask themselves if they
are pretty or ugly, because they compare themselves with other
people in their age group that seem to be more happy, beautiful,
succesful etc. I personally sometimes ask myself…wow justin
bieber is only 19? I am 25, what have I done? Another example is
that I have so many beautiful girl friends and they don’t even ask,
they actually say that they think they are so ugly. And i’m like
“what?…you are gorgeus and 100 other people can vouch for
that”. But she was only asking that because shes had so many
failed relationships and she’s looking for a reason why. And I think
many girls feel the same and asking if they are pretty or ugly is just
one way they can measure themselves. In my opinion when peo‐
ple ask if they are ugly there is a lot of hidden factors that they are
associating with it that has a lot to do with their confidence being
low.

Phil Wang
on January 4, 2014 at 3:13 AM said:

I just wanted to add that I think one of the best cure for
this problem is genuine and constant praise. Not fake en‐
couragement but continuously praise her for the good
things she does. Even small things like, oh good job you
did your homework, you are so smart. It is not the best ex‐
ample but along those lines. Doing this to them at this criti‐
cal age, you will see her more confident and she will start
to blossom.Also ask her what she is interested in learning,
maybe she wants to learn to sing. Also perhaps as a par‐
ent ask you child what you want to do, like maybe she
wants to join a soccer club, learn to sing, dance, etc. Do‐
ing these things and exposing her to such activities she will
learn and build character and be surrounded with people
who are also learning. And when she gets better, this will
give her a sense of accomplishment and be even stronger.

john
on December 7, 2013 at 2:48 AM said:

It is sad state of affairs when media popular television and magazines have
left these girls to question this. Good versus evil ugly versus pretty , this is
a pressure too often forced upon youngsters and adults as well to wear
certain clothes, follow a certain style. I understand the longing to be part
of a group to be the most popular, surely to be happier not conceding to
popular culture and giving them the tools to be more confident individuals
is more important than trying and wanting to be the best. Life is what you
make of it, not the life others want to make for you.

themisterdel
on December 19, 2013 at 12:27 AM said:

Videos like that make me physically queasy. I’ve always been a guy who
sympathises with girls because my only sibling was a younger sister and
we moved around a lot – she was my best friend. This meant that most of
my other closer friends were girls, to the point that I get nervous meeting
guys, especially very “blokey” ones as often I actually hate what they do
and how they treat women. My mistrust of men and over-protectiveness
when it comes to the girls in my life was justified when recently babysitting
a friend’s 8 year-old daughter. She is cute as anything, outgoing, pretty,
smart (topping some of her classes), has some constructive hobbies, was
raised by great parents and to top it off is mature well above her age – she
actually decided to become vegetarian of her own accord. I was shocked
to find out she has massive self-esteem issues about her looks as in every
other way she seems to be a dream child that any parent would be proud
of.
She obsesses about makeup and her “monobrow” (which is minor and
less severe than my own) and it seems so out of character, it breaks my
heart. I am not sure how to help her, and her mother is of course trying to
teach her that other people’s opinions don’t matter. While it’s probably
not a guy’s fault directly I still see it as a cultural and social issue
exacerbated by the attitude of men and media outlets that are likely run by
men. It makes me a little ashamed. All I can really do is point out how
miserable my wife and I were, and how over-the-moon happy we are now.
It took us into our mid-late twenties to find that someone, but we found
them and we’re in love for who we are and the relationship is infinitely
stronger and more satisfying than any others simply because of that.
It’s tough for anyone, self-esteem wise. I had to go through my own
anxiety issues due to how I saw myself but of course now I make up for it
with what some would call misplaced confidence

but it’s only getting
tougher on kids. Especially with the internet and social media you’re really
putting yourself out there – and at least half of the people out there want
to make you feel bad whether you deserve it or not. As a recently married
man who is planning on having kids in the next few years, it makes me
sick with worry that this could happen to my own children, particularly a
daughter. Until I figure something else out it might even be that we have to
ban our future daughter/s from social networking until their late teens –
not something I look forward to explaining to them.
Sorry for the small essay here, but it’s an issue I really do care about and I
am guessing it’s rare to have men so passionate about the problem too. I
am eager pass it on to the friend I babysit for and hopefully if anything
comes up where myself or anyone else can make a difference we will be
in a position to grab it with both hands.

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Our you tube video reaching 6000+ views in one day! | media savvy girls

  • 1. Media Savvy Girls A Researcher Blog advancing Media & Social Literacy for Girls Our You Tube video reaching 6000+ views in one day! Posted on December 4, 2013 I’ve decided to make a video collage from bits of the PoU clips in You Tube (yes..very time consuming I know…) hoping
  • 2. to raise awareness of the issue. The video reached 2000+ views in the space of just a few hours thanks to retweeting and other sharing on social media platforms. I woke up this morning and saw the viewers count at 6000+ : I am amazed! Even if the funds in Indiegogo are not growing as fast as I wish (I know that without a specific selling point or product to show/pre-buy crowdfunding is notoriously difficult!) I remain optimistic in the power of collective awakening about these issues and the many emails received from supporters along with the growing number of subscriptions to the channel are something which really spurs me to do more. I would like to publicily thank all the lovely supporters who have written their emails: I hope you will all appreciate that I won’t have the time to reply to each one of you as I am still managing things mostly on my own (will be soon recruiting a team of volunteers so get in touch if you wish to help!) and need to prioritise the writing up of my thesis at this stage Please keep sharing and don’t forget to subscribe to the blog to keep up to date with our progress and receive new blog posts directly in your email box. Here ‘s the video: Safari Power Saver Click to Start Flash Plug-in This entry was posted in Resources, Campaigns and useful Links, Sexism & Sexualisation in the Media and tagged beauty obsession, body image, effects of media on your girls, feminism, gender equality, girls selfesteem, insecurity, media effects, media literacy, pretty or ugly, self-consciouness, self-esteem,
  • 3. sexualisation, the beauty myth, unethical marketing to kids, you tube, young girls insecurity by Francesca Morosi. Bookmark the permalink [http://mediasavvygirls.com/our-you-tube-video-reaching-6000-views-inone-day/] . 9 THOUGHTS ON “OUR YOU TUBE VIDEO REACHING 6000+ VIEWS IN ONE DAY!” Jessica D on December 6, 2013 at 12:49 AM said: Great video. My mom always told me that if you can be happy with yourself, others will be happy to be around you. I never understood why anyone would base their own happiness on what others thought of them. You made a great video. I hope that it makes at least one girl re-evaluate her opinion of herself. Andrew on January 2, 2014 at 11:32 PM said: I couldn’t agree more with your mom there Jessica. As a father who is watching (and trying to teach) his girl learn and grow her values, I can see how challenging it is for them. You’re right – even if only one girl truly gets the message, it’s worth it. Gelena on December 6, 2013 at 6:47 PM said: Great video. I don’t want this to be my daughter in 10yrs. All those girls are beautiful. They don’t need to be told it, they should feel it. So sad. Change needs to happen! Martine Costa on December 7, 2013 at 1:45 PM said: As parents we should really discuss to our kids that beauty on the outside is incomparable to the inside beauty. We should teach
  • 4. them the value that will help them appreciate the unseen beauty of other people and should not compare themselves to celebrities and other people. Each one is unique and have superior character‐ istics that they should be proud of. Alex Moore on December 19, 2013 at 12:30 AM said: It’s such a hard thing to “teach” because it’s a problem that affects people even into adulthood. It’s one of those things that come with maturity and experience and without experiencing it yourself it’s very hard to convince yourself. It really is a huge shame that this is how the world exists. On a more positive note, though, the exceptions do bring confidence and hopefully people can be more proactive about the issue as everyone becomes more aware that it’s a problem! Phil Wang on January 4, 2014 at 2:56 AM said: Honestly, media has such a huge influence in society and it is sad that it is influencing many people negatively. Not just physically but mentally. You can never believe whats real and whats fake on tv these days. When it comes to being pretty or ugly, it is a matter of confidence. A pretty girl can feel that they are ugly when people are always putting her down in many aspects of her life. Whether it be school, sports, singing, dancing, cooking etc anything that may seem minor, every kid considers it as a failure. And these kids of‐ ten compare themselves to the people they see on tv. They see that many actors or musicians always look pretty on tv, they seem happy, they look like they are good at certain things but what they don’t realize is that these people on tv are also not really good at many things. It is just that they have many people who work hard to make them look good on tv. In reality not just kids but grown ups often ask themselves if they are pretty or ugly, because they compare themselves with other people in their age group that seem to be more happy, beautiful,
  • 5. succesful etc. I personally sometimes ask myself…wow justin bieber is only 19? I am 25, what have I done? Another example is that I have so many beautiful girl friends and they don’t even ask, they actually say that they think they are so ugly. And i’m like “what?…you are gorgeus and 100 other people can vouch for that”. But she was only asking that because shes had so many failed relationships and she’s looking for a reason why. And I think many girls feel the same and asking if they are pretty or ugly is just one way they can measure themselves. In my opinion when peo‐ ple ask if they are ugly there is a lot of hidden factors that they are associating with it that has a lot to do with their confidence being low. Phil Wang on January 4, 2014 at 3:13 AM said: I just wanted to add that I think one of the best cure for this problem is genuine and constant praise. Not fake en‐ couragement but continuously praise her for the good things she does. Even small things like, oh good job you did your homework, you are so smart. It is not the best ex‐ ample but along those lines. Doing this to them at this criti‐ cal age, you will see her more confident and she will start to blossom.Also ask her what she is interested in learning, maybe she wants to learn to sing. Also perhaps as a par‐ ent ask you child what you want to do, like maybe she wants to join a soccer club, learn to sing, dance, etc. Do‐ ing these things and exposing her to such activities she will learn and build character and be surrounded with people who are also learning. And when she gets better, this will give her a sense of accomplishment and be even stronger. john on December 7, 2013 at 2:48 AM said: It is sad state of affairs when media popular television and magazines have left these girls to question this. Good versus evil ugly versus pretty , this is
  • 6. a pressure too often forced upon youngsters and adults as well to wear certain clothes, follow a certain style. I understand the longing to be part of a group to be the most popular, surely to be happier not conceding to popular culture and giving them the tools to be more confident individuals is more important than trying and wanting to be the best. Life is what you make of it, not the life others want to make for you. themisterdel on December 19, 2013 at 12:27 AM said: Videos like that make me physically queasy. I’ve always been a guy who sympathises with girls because my only sibling was a younger sister and we moved around a lot – she was my best friend. This meant that most of my other closer friends were girls, to the point that I get nervous meeting guys, especially very “blokey” ones as often I actually hate what they do and how they treat women. My mistrust of men and over-protectiveness when it comes to the girls in my life was justified when recently babysitting a friend’s 8 year-old daughter. She is cute as anything, outgoing, pretty, smart (topping some of her classes), has some constructive hobbies, was raised by great parents and to top it off is mature well above her age – she actually decided to become vegetarian of her own accord. I was shocked to find out she has massive self-esteem issues about her looks as in every other way she seems to be a dream child that any parent would be proud of. She obsesses about makeup and her “monobrow” (which is minor and less severe than my own) and it seems so out of character, it breaks my heart. I am not sure how to help her, and her mother is of course trying to teach her that other people’s opinions don’t matter. While it’s probably not a guy’s fault directly I still see it as a cultural and social issue exacerbated by the attitude of men and media outlets that are likely run by men. It makes me a little ashamed. All I can really do is point out how miserable my wife and I were, and how over-the-moon happy we are now. It took us into our mid-late twenties to find that someone, but we found them and we’re in love for who we are and the relationship is infinitely stronger and more satisfying than any others simply because of that. It’s tough for anyone, self-esteem wise. I had to go through my own anxiety issues due to how I saw myself but of course now I make up for it with what some would call misplaced confidence but it’s only getting
  • 7. tougher on kids. Especially with the internet and social media you’re really putting yourself out there – and at least half of the people out there want to make you feel bad whether you deserve it or not. As a recently married man who is planning on having kids in the next few years, it makes me sick with worry that this could happen to my own children, particularly a daughter. Until I figure something else out it might even be that we have to ban our future daughter/s from social networking until their late teens – not something I look forward to explaining to them. Sorry for the small essay here, but it’s an issue I really do care about and I am guessing it’s rare to have men so passionate about the problem too. I am eager pass it on to the friend I babysit for and hopefully if anything comes up where myself or anyone else can make a difference we will be in a position to grab it with both hands. Copyright © 2014 Media Savvy Girls. All Rights Reserved.