53. “People in our study were
convinced they’ve accurately
understood the tone of an e-mail
message when in fact their odds
are no better than chance.”
Nicholas Epley
University of Chicago
54. 1) Check: Purpose & Emotions
2) Clarify: What did s/he mean?
3) Create: Options for solutions
Difficult conversations
55. 1) State the specific issue
2) Share the impact on you
3) Specify the solution, incl.
(positive) consequences
Asserting yourself
I have selected these tools based on their practicability: How well they enable us to lead in this uncertain world. I have used and applied all of these…They are not about micro-managementThey are of course not the complete truths but 5 very practical things that you can do.
Logos PathosEthos Logical / FactsEmotions (Fear, Love, Hate…)Values: Good / Bad
Pick one challenging / difficult communication scenario that you Assert yourself / resolve a conflictGive criticismSolve intercultural issues / conflictsIdeally virtual
I do not want to comment on the great (!!!) energy in this room…For those of you who have not yet been to a business meetring, this is a real settingI want to zoom in on: How did people get there? With multinational organizations becoming more and more reality, chances are high that they came there by…..plane
1-2-3Früher – Heute – in der ZukuftDa – dort – hierPro / Con / Therefore…
Who has watched TED?Who has been to a TED or TEDx event?
Virtual audiences & listeners have the attention span of a squirrel…
Feedback…was it me…dramatize…do I look strange…?Then I realized…Getting close to real…Succeeding realChanging real…
This comes to the last element…in order to get all of this what I talked about right…you need to become a bit of a geekk…like him But I do think it’s wiorth it…
Fill in – what is important in terms of audience analysis Quick experiment…45 people…
Fill in – what is important in terms of audience analysis Quick experiment…45 people…
Push / Pull / Persuade…
Difficult situations…uncormfortable…stress…Scale from 1-10 – one being death; How important is that? Paul McGee.
4)
Have a difficult conversation…A & B & CA: Role…explain B: Other person…tries to play the role…tries to be rejecting…C: Observes…If most of the time virtual: Same here: do it virtual…
The result…many people hate virtual presentations…people hat listening to it and people hate giving it because they know themselves…I believe there is a difference…it is possible…but we need to learn a totally different skill set, on top of having great content of course…