CFC-Singles For Christ Unit Head Training Workshop 1- Mentoring
1.
2. is a relational experience through which one person
empowers another by sharing God-given resources
is a positive dynamic that enables people to develop
their potential
is a brain to pick, a shoulder to cry on and a kick in the
seat of pants
3. Matthew 9:37–10:8
Then he said to his disciples, “The harvest is abundant but the
laborers are few; so ask the master of the harvest to send out laborers
for his harvest.”
Then he summoned his twelve disciples and gave them authority over
unclean spirits to drive them out and to cure every disease and every
illness. The names of the twelve apostles are these: first, Simon
called Peter, and his brother Andrew; James, the son of Zebedee, and
his brother John; Philip and Bartholomew, Thomas and Matthew the
tax collector; James, the son of Alphaeus, and Thaddeus; Simon the
Cananean, and Judas Iscariot who betrayed him.
Jesus sent out these twelve after instructing them thus, “Do not go
into pagan territory or enter a Samaritan town. Go rather to the lost
sheep of the house of Israel. As you go, make this proclamation: ‘The
kingdom of heaven is at hand.’ Cure the sick, raise the dead, cleanse
lepers, drive out demons. Without cost you have received; without
cost you are to give.
4. The surest way to secure your impact on
people is to enter into an accountable
relationship with a conscious objective to
produce measurable growth.
5. COME AND SEE… (Do the first move)
COME AND FOLLOW… (Give assignments)
COME AND SURRENDER… (Do the assist)
COME AND MULTIPLY… (Role-playing)
6. Recognize What You Are Looking For.
Keep in mind, MENTORS ARE NOT …
Perfect people
Leaders who try to make you like them
Workers who want to use you to help accomplish their
goals
People who give you time out of duty and obligation.
Successes who will give you a “free ride” to fame and
fortune
7. Recognize What You Are Looking For.
Instead, MENTORS ARE …
More like caring aunts and uncles than like another
mother and father.
Those with whom we share the lows and celebrate
the highs in life …together
Those rare individuals in life who ….
Love us deeply …See our greatest potentials …Cheer us on
…Correct when needed …Teach us selflessly about life …
Become our lifelong friends …At whose funerals we weep
shamelessly …With no regard whatsoever for the clock.
8. Steps to take:
Pray consistently
Lower your standard
Be willing to sacrifice to find them
Keep your antennas up. Be on the constant
lookout for potential mentors.
10. Proverbs 20:5 – Counsel in another’s heart
is like deep water, but a discerning man
will draw it up.
Proverbs 24:26 – A straightforward answer
is as good as a kiss of friendship
Proverbs 27:17 – As iron sharpens iron, so
one man sharpens the wit of another.
11. A Checklist
• Will the mentor be an objective, lovingly honest and balanced
source of feedback for your questions?
• Will the mentor be open and transparent with their own
struggles?
• Will the mentor model their teachings?
• Does the mentor know and believe in you … one of your
cheerleaders and not your chief critic?
• Will the mentor teach as well as answer your questions?
• Is the mentor successful in your eyes?
• Will the mentor be open to two-way communication … learning
from you on occasions as well as teaching you?
• Does the mentor want to see younger people succeed in
developing their spiritual and leadership potential?
12. A. Pray – Pray For It And God Will Reveal
Him/ Her To You.
B. Examine His/ Her Potential As A Leader
And Know The Strengths And Weakness So
That You Know Where You Can Come In.
C. Indicators Of A Good Mentor-to-mentee
Relationship
• Responsiveness.
• Accountability.
13. A Checklist
• Will you be able to believe 100% in this person?
• Do you naturally enjoy communicating with this person?
• Will you be able to give without reservation to this person?
• Will you love him or her as s brother or sister?
• Do you admire their potential as a leader?
• Is this person teachable … eager to learn from you and mature in
his or her spiritual and leadership potential?
• Does this person admire you?
• Is this person self-motivated even though not always confident?
• Will this person be threatened by you or threatening to you?
• Does this person have the time to meet regularly?
• Is God the first priority in their life?
14. “Success … without a successor … is a
failure.”
DISCIPLER. Helping with the basics of following Christ.
SPIRITUAL GUIDE. Accountability, direction/insight for
maturation.
COACH. Motivation, skills needed to meet a
task/challenge.
COUNSELOR. Timely advice, perspective on self, others,
ministry.
TEACHER. Knowledge, understanding on a specific
subject.
SPONSOR. Career guidance, protection; network with
contacts.
MODEL. A living personal example for life, ministry,
career.
15. “Success … without a successor … is a
failure.”
DISCIPLER. Helping with the basics of following Christ.
SPIRITUAL GUIDE. Accountability, direction/insight for
maturation.
COACH. Motivation, skills needed to meet a
task/challenge.
COUNSELOR. Timely advice, perspective on self, others,
ministry.
TEACHER. Knowledge, understanding on a specific
subject.
SPONSOR. Career guidance, protection; network with
contacts.
MODEL. A living personal example for life, ministry,
career.
16. How to spot a Toxic Mentor:
a. The Avoider
b. The Dumper
c. The Criticizer
d. The User
e. The Black Halo
f. The Queen Bee
17. The successful mentor is going
to be:
a. Guide
b. Encourager
c. Resource
d. Evaluator
e. Provider
18. DRAWING UP A PASTORAL PLAN
What is a Pastoral Plan?
19. Purpose of the Pastoral Plan
1. To identify the person’s vision for his life
with the Lord
2. To identify specific actions needed to
accomplish the vision
3. To specify the timetable for actions
desired
4. To identify parameters of success in
accomplishing the vision
5. To note highlights of action taken on the
pastoral plan
20. Elements of the Pastoral Plan
1. Background
2. Needs Assessment
3. Action Plan (for 3 months) - Activities ;
Objectives ; Desired Effect/Result
4. Evaluation-
Quality of Prayer
Quality of Relationships
Quality of Insights
Quality of Work
Quality of Leadership
5. Success/Conversion Stories
22. The vision of making Christ known to
the ends of the earth is possible.
Let us develop the potential in each
and every member in our areas.
By this way, we will make them know
that Christ is not only the most
exciting person in this world but also
our role model and our great mentor