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Lecture 6 Emotionally focused therapy overview
1. Lecture 6. Overview of
Emotionally Focused Therapy for
Couples
Couple Counselling Skills
Kevin Standish
2. Learning Objectives
Describe the theoretical underpinnings of
Emotionally Focused Therapy
Be familiar with the three stages and nine steps
framework of EFT
Understand the concepts of enactments, withdraw
engagement and blamer softening
Be conversant with the research supporting EFT
3. Primary Roots of EFT
Experiential Therapy (Perls) Person Centered Therapy (Rogers)
Systemic Therapy
Attachment Theory
4. EFT Assumptions
1. Accessibility and responsiveness are the building blocks of a
secure attachment bond. Consequently, Couples therapy is
about A. the security of the attachment bond, B. accessibility,
and C. the responsiveness of the partner.
2. Emotion is a target and agent of change. Emotion is A.
Source of information; B. Communicates - organizes social
interactions; C. Orients & primes responses; D. Vital element
in meaning - colors events; E. Has control precedence
3) Emotion frequently leads to adaptive actions eg Anger
often leads to Asserting, defending; or Sadness often leads to
Seeking support, withdrawing.
5. EFT Assumptions
4. Negative emotions occur at two levels: Primary and
Secondary.
A. Primary Emotions are the deeper, more vulnerable
emotions such as sadness, hurt, fear, shame, and loneliness.
B. Secondary Emotions are the more reactive emotions such
as anger, jealousy, resentment, and frustration. They occur as
a reaction to the primary emotions.
Primary emotions generally draw partners closer. Secondary
emotions tend to push partners away.
5. In trying to connect, distressed couples get caught in
negative repetitive sequences of interaction where partners
express secondary emotions rather than primary emotions
6. EFT Assumptions
6. Insecure attachment leads to negative interaction cycles and, in
return, negative interaction cycles lead to insecure attachment (it is
circular).
7. Rigid interactions reflect and create negative absorbing
emotional states. Negative absorbing emotional states reflect and
create rigid interactions (it is circular).
8. Partners are not sick or developmentally delayed. They are stuck.
Most needs and desires are adaptive.
9. Attachment needs are universal, although their expression is
culturally defined. The way we seek and obtain support is defined
different in various cultures and even in different families and must
be understood and respected
10. Change involves new experiences and new relationships events.
Therapy is about creating these new relational experiences
7. Comparative Framework.
1. Background of the Approach
2. The Healthy/Well-Functioning versus
Pathological/Dysfunctional Couple/Marriage
3. The Role of the Therapist
4. Assessment and Treatment Planning
5. Goal Setting
6. Process and Technical Aspects of Couple Therapy
7. Curative Factors/Mechanisms of Change
8. Treatment Applicability and Empirical Support
9. 1. Background of the Approach
It is a constructivist approach: learning is an active, contextualized process of
constructing knowledge rather than acquiring it. Knowledge is constructed based on
personal experiences and the context.
focuses on the ongoing construction of present experience (particularly experience that
is emotionally charged),
and a systemic approach, in that it also focuses on the construction of patterns of
interaction with intimate others based on attachment theory.
Leslie Greenberg Susan Johnson
After watching numerous tapes of therapy sessions, they began to see patterns in how
emotions were formulated and regulated, they mapped the steps in the change process
and identified interventions the therapist need to make
10. Experiential Influences
EFT shares commonalities with traditional humanistic approaches. EFT
adheres to the following basic premises of experiential therapies:
1. The therapeutic alliance is healing in and of itself
2. The acceptance and validation of the client’s experience is a key
element in therapy
3. There is a belief in the ability of human beings to make creative,
healthy choices.
4. the inner construction of experience evokes interactional responses
that organize the world in a particular way. This is a circular process.
5. we are formed and transformed by our relationships with others
6. new corrective experiences for clients emerge as part of personal
encounters in the here and now of the therapy session
11. Systemic Influences
EFT draws Minuchin’s structural systemic approach, with its focus on the enactment of
“new” patterns of interaction. EFT adheres to the following basic premises of family systems
theory:
1. Causality is circular
2. Family systems theory tells us that we must consider behavior in context.
3. The elements of a system are predictable and consistent relationship with each other,
represented by homeostasis, and is manifested in couples by the presence of regular,
repeating cycles of interaction
4. All behaviour is assumed to have a communicative aspect: you cannot not communicate
5. The task of the family systems therapist is to interrupt stuck, repetitive, negative cycles of
interaction, so that new patterns can occur
the experiential– systemic synthesis of EFT, there is a focus on both the circular cycles of
interaction between people and the core emotional experiences of each partner during the
different steps of the cycle.
13. Healthy/Well-Functioning
A healthy relationship, in EFT terms, is a secure attachment bond. Such a
bond is characterized by mutual emotional
accessibility and responsiveness. This bond creates a safe environment
that optimizes partners’ ability to regulate their emotions, process
information, solve problems, resolve differences, and communicate
clearly. Secure relationships are associated with higher levels of intimacy,
trust, and satisfaction.
the research on adult attachment has demonstrated that secure
relationships are associated with higher levels of intimacy, trust, and
satisfaction.
Security in key relationships helps us regulate our emotions, process
information effectively, and communicate clearly
Security involves inner realities, cognitive models and ways of regulating
emotion, and patterns of interaction
14. View of distress in EFT
EFT looks at distress in relationships through the
lens of attachment insecurity and separation
distress
Relationship distress is maintained by absorbing
negative affect.
Affect reflects and primes rigid, constricted
patterns of interaction.
Patterns make safe emotional engagement
difficult and create insecure bonding.
15. View of Distress
Rigid repetitive interactional patterns:
No exits – no detours/ repair impossible
Rigid narrow positions – fight/flight/freeze
Most common patterns
Criticize, complain, express contempt
Defend, distance, stonewall
Results: self reinforcing cycles or reactivity/self
protective strategies
16. View of Distress
Partners cannot attune to one another because
they are so absorbed in their own negative affect
Cannot communicate because of their own state.
Gottman 1979 – absorbing states of negative
affect: everything leads in, nothing leads out.
18. Key Principles
1. A collaborative alliance offers a couple a secure base from which to
explore their relationship. The therapist is best seen as a process
consultant to the couple’s relationship.
2. Emotion is primary in organizing attachment behaviors and how self
and other are experienced in intimate relationships. The EFT therapist
privileges emotional responses and deconstructs reactive, negative
emotions, such as anger, by expanding them to include marginalized
elements, such as fear and helplessness. The therapist also uses newly
formulated and articulated emotions, such as fear and longing or
assertive anger, to evoke new steps in the relationship dance
3. The attachment needs and desires of partners are essentially healthy
and adaptive. It is the way such needs are enacted in a context of
perceived insecurity that creates problems.
19. Key Principles
4. Problems are maintained by the ways in which interactions are
organized and by the dominant emotional experience of each
partner in the relationship. Affect and interaction form a
reciprocally determining, self-reinforcing feedback loop.
5. Change occurs not through insight into the past, catharsis, or
negotiation, but through new emotional experience in the
present context of attachment-salient interactions.
6. In couple therapy, the “client” is the relationship between
partners. Problems are viewed in terms of adult insecurity and
separation distress. The ultimate goal of therapy is the creation of
new cycles of secure bonding that offer an antidote to negative
cycles and redefine the nature of the relationship.
21. 3. The Role of the Therapist
Develop an alliance, identify cycle, identify and access
underlying emotions, and work to deescalate
Engage the withdrawer
Soften the pursuer/blamer
Create new emotional bonding events and new cycles of
interaction
Consolidate new cycles of trust, connection and safety,
and apply them to old problems that may still be relevant
22. What Makes EFT, -- Its Look and Feel
1. Relentless Empathy
2. Attachment Frame and Language
3. De-pathologizing Model
4. RISSSC
5. Enactments
23. Skills forR-I-S-S-S-C
Emotional Engagement
R: The therapist intentionally REPEATS key words and
phrases for emphasis.
I:Therapist uses IMAGES or word pictures that evoke
emotions more than abstract labels tend to do.
S:Therapist frames responses to clients in SIMPLE and
concise phrases.
S:Therapist will SLOW the process of the session and the
pace of her speech to enable deepening of emotional
experience
S:Therapist will use SOFT and soothing tone of voice to
encourage a client to deepen experience.
C:Therapist uses CLIENT words and phrases in a
supportive/validating way.
25. Key Movements in Assessment Process
– Focus Points
1. Client’s narrative is interrupted by
strong affect
Focus on emotional response
Give message that it is safe and appropriate
to share this experience in the session
2. Affect is conspicuous by its absence
Explore lack of engagement in the personal experience being
related
Discover the significance in terms of the couple’s engagement
in and definition of their relationship
26. Key Movements in Assessment Process
– Focus Points
3. Personal landmark
Focus on and explore story
Uncover the meaning of the story from client’s perspective
Ask if the partner understands the client’s experience
Label story as unresolved issue for couple and validate
associated primary or secondary emotion
4. Interactional landmark
Observe this interaction
If alliance is developing well, refer to interaction in this
session
Otherwise, simply take note of the interaction
27. Key Movements in Assessment Process
– Focus Points
5. Position markers
Get a clear picture of the position each partner
takes in response to the other
Ask how each partner perceives and feels about
such positions
6. Responses to positive contact
Explore the exit from the contact
Acknowledge attempts to comfort and ability to
receive comfort as a strength of the relationship
28. Attachment History - (View of Self and
View of Other)
“When you were young (ages 6 – 10) who did you turn to for care and
comfort in a time of need? Can you tell me what that was like?”
Secure: A person is better able to acknowledge and cope effectively with
negative emotions. Adults are self-confident, socially skilled, interested in
close, romantic relationships, and more likely to form stable and satisfying
long-term relationships.
Avoidant: A person often attempts to block out negative emotions, and are
uncomfortable seeking support. Adults lack self-confidence, are worried
about rejection and abandonment. They are prone to bouts of jealousy and
anger. They see partners as untrustworthy. Seek romantic relationships, but
may choose ill-advised partners.
Anxious: A person is highly emotionally expressive but often cannot regulate
their emotions. Adults are uncomfortable with closeness, self-disclosure,
dependence on others, and are more socially unskilled.
31. 5. Goal Setting: primary focus
• To expand and re-organize key emotional
responses between partners–the music of the
attachment dance.
• Create a shift in each partner’s interactional
positions in their rigid interactions with one another
and develop new cycles of interaction.
• Foster the creation of a secure bond between
partners through the creation of new interactional
experiences that redefine the relationship.
33. Overview of EFT Treatment
Process
• Develop an alliance, identify cycle, identify and access
underlying emotions, and work to de-escalate
• Help couple see the negative cycle as the enemy, not
each other
• Engage the withdrawer
• Soften the pursuer/blamer
• Create new emotional bonding events and new cycles of
interaction
• Consolidate new cycles of trust, connection and safety,
and apply them to old problems that may still be
relevant
34. Attachment
Withdrawer
“I never get it right or make her happy.”
“I don’t bother anymore what’s the point.”
(Feelings: Rejected, inadequate, fears failure,
overwhelmed, judged, shame, empty, alone)
Pursuer
“He’s never around and whenever he is he’s
always distracted.”
“She doesn’t see me. No matter what I do I don’t
count in her world.”
(Feelings: Hurt, unwanted, invisible, abandoned,
desperate, deprived, not important)
35. Common Underlying Emotions of
Withdrawers and Pursuers
Withdrawers
Rejected
Inadequate
Afraid of failure
Overwhelmed
Numb – frozen
Afraid – scared
Not wanted or desired
Judged, critized
Pursuers
Hurt
Alone
Not wanted
Invisible
Isolated/disconnected
Not important
Abandoned
Desperate
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36. EFT: 3 stages and 9 steps
Stage 1
Assessment and
Cycle De-escalation
Steps 8-9
Steps 1-4
•Stage 2
Changing
Interactional
Positions and
Creating New
Bonds
•Stage 3
Consolidation and
Integration
Steps 5-7
37. EFT: 3 Stages
• Stage 1
Assessment and Cycle De-Escalation
• Stage 2
Changing Interactional Positions and
Creating New Bonds
• Stage 3
Consolidation and Integration
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38. and 9 Steps
Step 1: Identify the relational conflict issues between the partners.
Step 2: Identify the negative interaction cycle where these issues are expressed.
Step 3: Access the unacknowledged, attachment oriented emotions underlying the
interactional position each partner takes in this cycle.
Step 4: Reframe the problem in terms of the cycle, underlying emotions that
accompany it, and attachment needs.
Step 5: Promote identification with disowned attachment needs and aspects of self.
Step 6: Promote each partner’s acceptance of the other experience.
Step 7: Facilitate the expression of needs and wants to restructure the interaction
based on new understandings and create bonding events
Step 8: Facilitate the emergence of new solutions to old problems.
Step 9: Consolidate new positions and cycles of attachment behavior.
39. Stage 1
Assessment and Cycle De-Escalation
Step 1: Identify the relational conflict issues between the partners.
Step 2: Identify the negative interaction cycle where these issues are
expressed.
Step 3: Access the unacknowledged, attachment oriented emotions
underlying the interactional position each partner takes in this cycle.
Step 4: Reframe the problem in terms of the cycle, underlying emotions that
accompany it, and attachment needs.
40. The Nine Steps of Emotionally
Focused Couples Therapy
Step 1-4
• Alliance and assessment: Creating an
alliance and delineating conflict issues in
the core attachment struggle.
What are they fighting about and how are
they related to core attachment issues?
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41. Step 1: Identify the relational conflict issues
between the partners.
Alliance & assessment: Creating an alliance
and delineating conflict issues in the core
attachment struggle.
What are they fighting about and how are
they related to core attachment issues.
43. Step 2: Identify the negative interaction
cycle where these issues are expressed.
Identify the negative interaction cycle
EFT Cycle levels include
• Action tendencies (behaviors)
• Perceptions
• Secondary Emotions
• Primary Emotions
• Unmet Attachment Needs
The goal is for the therapist to see the cycle in action and
identify and describe it to the couple and work toward
stopping it.
45. EFT Emotions and Reactivity
Emotions occur at two levels: Primary and Secondary (or
reactive).
Primary Emotions are the deeper, more vulnerable and
tender emotions such as sadness, hurt, fear, shame,
and loneliness.
Secondary Emotions are the more reactive emotions such
as anger, jealousy, resentment, and frustration. They
occur as a reaction to the primary emotions. Anger,
Blame,
Primary emotions generally draw partners closer.
Secondary emotions tend to push partners away.
47. STEP 2 – IDENTIFYING THE NEGATIVE
CYCLE
• Who is the Pursuer?
• Who is the Withdrawer?
• Describe the Negative Cycle
• What are the Secondary Emotions?
• What are the Primary Emotions?
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48. Step 3: Access the unacknowledged, attachment
oriented emotions underlying the interactional
position each partner takes in this cycle.
The goal is to help each member of the
couple to access and accept their
unacknowledged feelings that are
influencing their behavior in the
relationship.
Both partners are to "reprocess and
crystallize their own experience in the
relationship" so that they can become
emotionally open to the other person.
49. Step 4: Reframe the problem in terms of the
cycle, underlying emotions that accompany
it, and attachment needs.
The cycle is framed as the common enemy and the
source of the partners’ emotional deprivation and
distress.
The goal, by the end of Step 4, is for the partners to have
a meta-perspective on their interactions.
They are framed as unwittingly creating, but also being
victimized by, the cycle of interaction that characterizes
their relationship
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50. EFT Reframes Step 4
For example:
Angry Criticism is viewed in EFT as:
an attempt to modify the other partner’s
inaccessibility or manage the disconnect
a protest response to emotional isolation and
abandonment not being “crazy or irrational”.
Avoidance is seen as:
an attempt to contain the interaction and regulate
fears of rejection or not burden the other partner
an attempt to avoid confrontation or working
models that define the self as unlovable .
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52. Stage 2
Changing Interactional Positions
and Creating New Bonds
Step 5: Promote identification with disowned attachment needs and aspects
of self. Such attachment needs may include the need for reassurance and
comfort. Aspects of self that are not identified with may include a sense of
shame or unworthiness.
Step 6: Promote each partner’s acceptance of the other experience.
Step 7: Facilitate the expression of needs and wants to restructure the
interaction based on new understandings and create bonding events
53. The Nine Steps of EFT
STAGE 2
Steps 5-7
Step 5- Withdrawer Re-Engagement
and Pursuer Softening
Promote identification with disowned attachment
emotions, needs and aspects of self, and integrate these
into relationship interactions.
Help the couple redefine their experiences in terms of
their unacknowledged emotional needs. "I nag because I
feel abandoned and I want to be loved." "I withdraw
because I feel invaded and rejected and I need to feel
safe and loved."
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54. The Nine Steps of Emotionally
Focused Couples Therapy
Step 6
Promote acceptance of the other partner’s experiences
and new interactional responses .
Work to get each partner to accept, believe, and trust
that what the other partner is describing in terms of
underlying emotional needs is accurate.
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55. The Nine Steps of Emotionally
Focused Couples Therapy
Step 7
Facilitate the expression of needs and wants and create
emotional engagement and bonding events that redefine
the attachment between the partners.
Help them learn to express their emotional needs and
wants directly rather than through the old patterns and
create emotional engagement. This will help each person
see the other person in a more benign manner. (Feeling
vulnerable and insecure rather than rejecting.)
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56. Stage 3 – Consolidation
Step 8 – Facilitating the emergence of new solutions to
old relationship patterns
Step 9 – Consolidating new positions and new cycle of
safe attachment and connections
57. Softening
Pre-requisites:
De-escalation of negative cycle (Stage 1)
Withdrawer re-engagement (Stage 2 change
event)
A previously hostile, critical partner accesses
“softer” emotions and risks reaching out to
his/her partner who is engaged and
responsive.
In this vulnerable state, the previously hostile
partner asks for attachment needs to be met.
58. Softening
At this point, both partners are attuned,
engaged and responsive (accessibility &
responsiveness)
A bonding event then occurs which redefines
the relationship as a safe haven and a secure
base.
59. Step 8 & 9
The goal here is to consolidate new responses and cycles of
interaction, for example, by reviewing the accomplishments of the
partners in therapy and helping the couple create a coherent
narrative of their journey into and out of distress.
The therapist also supports the couple to solve concrete problems
that have been destructive to the relationship.
this is often relatively easy given that dialogues about these
problems are no longer infused with overwhelming negative affect
and issues of relationship definition.
Without the old negative interaction style and with the new
emotional connection and attachment, it is easier to develop new
solutions to old problems.
61. Curative Factors/Mechanisms of Change
Once the alliance is established, there are two
basic therapeutic tasks in EFT:
(1) the exploration and reformulation of
emotional experience, and
(2) the restructuring of interactions.
62. 1.Exploring and Reformulating Emotion
1. Reflecting emotional experience
2. Validation.
3. Evocative responding
4. Heightening: Using repetition, images, metaphors,
or enactments.
5. Empathic conjecture or interpretation
63. 2. Restructuring Interventions
1. Tracking, reflecting, and replaying interactions
2. Reframing in the context of the cycle and
attachment processes
3. Restructuring and shaping interactions: Enacting
present positions, enacting new behaviors based
upon new emotional responses, and choreographing
specific change events
65. Contraindications of EFT
Different Agendas
Separating Couples
Abusive Relationships
Substance Abuse
Depression and Other Psychiatric Illness
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66. Research
70 – 73% recovery rate in 10-12 sessions.
Results stable – even under high stress.
Depression significantly reduced.
Variety of populations and settings.
Best predictor of success – female faith in partner’s
caring (Not initial distress level).
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67. Readings
Core reading:
1. Gurman (2008) Chapter 4. Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy by Susan M.
Johnson
2. Bradley & Johnson (2012) EFT Integrative approach
3. Crawley & Grant (2005) EFT for couples and attachment theory
4. Johnson (2003) Attachment-Theory and couple therapy. MUST READ
Advanced readings:
5. Greenberg (2010) EFT a clinical synthesis
6. Greenman & Johnson (2012) EFT and PTSD
7. Brumbaugh (2006) transference and attachment: how do attachment patterns
carry forward from one relationship to the next.