The document outlines an agenda for a guest speaker on co-parenting after divorce. It includes simulations for divorced parents to role play communicating with each other, with coaches providing feedback. The speaker will discuss topics like effective communication, dealing with boundaries, and spiritual warfare. Parents will learn to identify negative emotions and spirits at work in disagreements. Through repentance and choosing to respond with love rather than past hurts, parents can change unhealthy relationship patterns over time even if the other parent does not change.

1. Kevin Karlson JD PhD

2. Guest Speaker

3.  Keep the focus on you
 Avoid complaining about former spouses
 Save flirting and dating for after the class is
completed in 4 weeks

4.  Check In- Homework; gratitude
 Kim’s testimony
 Spiritual warfare in co-parenting
 Tools
 Simulations

5. Format/agenda for each session:
 5 minute warm up/check in/introductions exercise in pairs
 2 pairs--one men, one women get together in a group of 4 for
the simulations
Mini-lecture on these topics: (one per session)
 -communicating effectively,
 -spiritual warfare
 -dealing with boundaries, extended families
 -mom’s house, dad’s house issues

6. The simulation format:
(each person plays each role one time)
 -one dad,
 -one mom,
 -dad's coach,
 -mom's coach;
Set up problem fact situation and
describe the job for each role along with
the challenge for the simulation;
 -run simulation for 5-7 minutes, then
 -debrief in the group, coaches comment to each "parent",
 -discuss lessons learned, opportunities for improvement
 *change roles, run simulation again (coaches from 1st round are "parents" this round)
 *report out to big group from each group of 4

7.  lessons learned
 comments
 feedback
 homework
 Closing

8.  Volatile relationship with Ex
 Shift (Biblical principles applied)
 Walk-Out (daily application of principles)
 Relationship healed

9.  General Principles
 We wrestle not with flesh and blood but…
▪ Ephesians 6:12
 All our thoughts are not our own
▪ Matthew 16:22-23
 Take every thought captive
▪ 2 Corinthians 10:5
 Separate them from the evil within
▪ Romans 7: 15-17
 Forgiveness; its not optional
▪ Luke 23:34 Matthew 6:14-15

10.  Recognizing the spirits at work
 pride
 un-forgiveness
 bitterness
 accusation
 control/domination
 murder of the tongue

11.  Recognize the spirit(s) in you
 Repent
 Receive forgiveness
 THEN
 Respond in love
 Say “No” to the flashcards of past wrongs
 Resist when they return
▪ James 4:7

12.  When you stumble
 Repent
 Forgive yourself, you’re only human
 Pray
 Start over
 Pray for your “ex” every day; in front your
kids
 Ask God to bless them

13.  Your spouse may never change
 Your changed response to every interaction
will change the relationship over time
 Be diligent, patient, believe that God will
move

14.  Re-run the last disagreement between you
and your ex in your head
 Identify the spirits in each of you
 Pray; repent; practice doing it different in
your head
 Now set up the scene and practice doing it
differently
 Coaches; stop them when a spirit shows up

15. The simulations:
(each person plays each role one time)
 one dad,
 one mom,
 dad's coach,
 mom's coach;
 Run simulation for 5-7 minutes, then
 Debrief in the group, coaches comment to each "parent"
 Discuss lessons learned, opportunities for improvement
 Change roles, run simulation again (coaches from 1st
round are "parents" this round)
 Report out to big group from each group of 4

16.  lessons learned
 comments
 feedback
 homework
 Closing

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