This is cry of many spouses whose loved ones have deserted them for other men or women. I wondered why marriages fail to the extent of a spouse deserting his/her family.

1. ‘I want my HUSBAND back!’ exclaimed
a wife
This is cry of many spouses whose loved ones
have deserted them for other men or women. I
wondered why marriages fail to the extent of a
spouse deserting his/her family.
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2. • A married lady talked to me about her
husband who has deserted her for another
woman and the only issue she wants to be
assisted is how to get her husband back.
• This is a matter that is affected many couples
nowadays. We needed to really understand
why marriages are failing at this rate.
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3. • The most common reason some say is the
cause of marriage failure is that people
prepare for the wedding, spend millions on
the wedding but fail to plan for the marriage.
If couples would put half the effort they put
into preparing their wedding into their
marriage, the rate of divorce will reduce.
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4. • There’s no reason why you can’t make your
marriage work. Just because you fell in love
doesn’t mean you’re going to live happily ever
after. Marriage is not a bed of roses, it takes
effort.
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5. • Stay interested in your spouse by talking
about your lives, your work and your
relationships. Don’t assume that your
marriage is infallible.
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6. • The fact that you are now married doesn’t
mean you should stop doing those sexy little
things you used to do before you got
married. You’ve heard the stories of couples
breaking up when you thought they had the
perfect marriage. This can happen to you too,
so guard your marriage jealously. Divorce is
not the answer to most problems.
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7. • Marriage is a beautiful thing which should be
enjoyed and not endured.
• Though marriage is beautiful, it is not easy.
Even couples with the best of intentions end up
getting divorced. No matter how much a
couple loves each other, a marriage can fail for
a number of reasons at any given time.
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8. • No one gets married with the intention of
destroying it, yet the rate of divorce all over
the world is alarming and couples, even if
they don’t divorce, are often unhappy and in
loveless marriages. Even those who are so in
love are having problems in their marriage.
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9. Reasons marriages fail
• 1. Faulty foundation:
• Most marriages are built on lies and pretence.
While dating, some people lie about certain
things concerning them and when the truth
comes out, most of time, it destroys a happy
home.
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10. • 2. Infidelity:
• This is cited as one of the major causes of
marriage failures. If you are married, one of
the worst things that you can do is cheat on
your spouse. A married man or woman
should be content with his or her spouse.
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11. • If you are the type of person who is easily
tempted or cannot stick to one person, then
you should try your best to avoid any
situation that may cause you to betray your
partner or maybe you should remain single
till you learn how to control yourself
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12. • 3. Selfishness:
• Placing one’s desires consistently ahead of a
partner’s emotional needs and responding
only when it is a matter of convenience
leaves a spouse feeling unloved. Some
spouses are always thinking of only
themselves.
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13. • Their needs and desires often come first not
minding whether they are hurting the other
person in the process. Selfishness in marriage
involves lack of consideration and respect for
the other person.
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14. • 4. Lack of sexual satisfaction:
• Sex is an important part of marriage and the
source of many marriage problems. Every
marriage requires the act of consummation
by sexual intercourse and failure to do leads
to problems.
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15. • People don’t marry to share a room. They
expect to have an active and fulfilling sex life.
When needs for sex and affection are not
met, then the marriage is bound for failure.
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16. • 5. Abuse Problems:
• Any kind of abuse is never acceptable in a
marriage, be it physical or verbal. A spouse
who constantly abuses his partner sexually,
emotionally or any other way will definitely
push the person away. When abuse is
consistent, the marriage will surely fail in
time because nobody will like to remain in an
environment of abuse.
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17. • 6. Marrying for the wrong reason:
• Your marriage is headed for the rocks when
you marry for the wrong reasons. If you
marry someone for money, what happens
when the money is no longer there?
Individuals who marry someone because of
physical attraction are the first ones to begin
complaining.
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18. • 7. Pride:
• Many marriages are failing and are eventually
destroyed because one or both partners are
too proud to admit they have a problem and
may be wrong.
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19. • 8. Lack of communication:
• Many promising marriages have fallen into
ruin simply because of a lack of
communication. Communication in marriage
is like a life giving river.
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20. • If you’re not connecting verbally, physically,
or emotionally, your lack of communication
will cause marital problems. Nothing is ever
solved by not talking or distancing yourself
from your spouse. Make it a priority to make
out time to be together. Open
communication creates healthy relationships.
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21. • 9. Jealousy:
• This is another reason why marriages fail.
Sometimes the man starts to envy his wife if
she is more financial muscles than he is. They
begin to have money issues and before long
they start to have arguments, drifting apart.
How a couple deals with financial issues can
make or break a relationship.
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22. • 10. Listening to third party:
• When you begin to listen to what other
people have to say about your spouse, you
are headed for trouble. It’s not every advice
you should take. Some advices are from the
pit of hell. That your friend advising you
might just be looking for a way to scatter
your home. So be careful who you run to for
marital advice.
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23. • 11. Family Problems
Family relationships with children, parents,
in-laws, siblings are all sources of marital
problems. Raising children increases stress in
the home and can cause minor differences of
opinion to become major rifts in a
relationship.
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24. • 12. Personality Problems
There are many kinds of personality traits that
can make a couple incompatible and unable to
reach agreement in matters concerning sex,
intellect and emotion. Partners that have
compulsive needs to please or belittle can
make honest communication impossible.
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25. • Negative personality traits make a long-term
relationship unbearable and divorce a real
possibility.
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26. • 13. Time Problems
Work and home schedules are not always
compatible. Time spent apart and time spent
together are equally important for
maintaining a good married relationship.
When time is used in a balanced way, it
results in opportunities for growth and
harmony.
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27. • A lot of time spent alone without a
corresponding period of quality time spent
together puts a lot of stress on a marriage.
•
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28. FINALLY
• Be sure to not just mention the problem, but
to talk it through until you come to a solution
or at least a conclusion. Don’t leave matters
hanging. Ensure you get the solutions. I
believe there are no issues that cannot be
resolved.
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