1. The Song of Songs teaches that love within marriage should be mutual, exclusive, and total. It depicts the vibrant intimacy between a married couple as an example of God's design for romantic relationships.
2. Specific lessons include that love requires constructive conversation, not just criticism; it is meant to be exclusive between husband and wife; and it involves friendship and companionship, not just physical aspects.
3. Ultimately, the Song of Songs points to Christ and his love for the church, making us yearn for the perfect love and fulfillment we will have in our relationships with God.
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Amazing love lessons from the song of songs that as men we need to learn
1. AMAZING LOVE LESSONS FROM THE SONG OF
SONGS THAT AS MEN WE NEED TO LEARN
Most men find it sometimes very difficult to express love and romance. Last week I had
couples who had requested me to talk about romance in marriage. I learnt something that
touched my heart. The women were able to express themselves very well about love and
romance. The men were not that open. This was a great concern. Women know what to
do to make the man tick.
There are amazing lessons we can learn from the Bible in this area.
Scripture has much to say about God’s purpose for marriage. But one book reveals more
of the joy, beauty, and sacredness of marriage than any other: the Song of Songs. One of
the oldest books in the Bible, the Song vividly and brightly unfolds how the bridegroom
and the bride delight in each other.
In the Song of Songs, God has given us a divine manual on romantic relationships, taking
us from the initial attraction between a couple through courtship, deepening intimacy, and
marriage. What is God’s desire and plan for husbands and wives? What are God’s love
lessons from the Song of Songs? Here are four lessons from this book that reveal God’s
heart for marriage.
1. Love Is Mutual
The two-way conversation in this book is between a man and a woman who are deeply in
love. Each contributes to the relationship. Each desires the other. Their love is reciprocal.
Playfully, delightedly, the man and woman describe each other and respond to these
descriptions. They invite each other to enjoy and partake in their love; nothing can stand
in the way of its fulfillment. And behind their words is a deep desire to build each other
up.
The woman initiates the conversation in this book and expresses her eagerness first: Song
of Solomon 1:2-4
“Kiss me--full on the mouth! Yes! For your love is better than wine, headier than your
aromatic oils. The syllables of your name murmur like a meadow brook. No wonder
everyone loves to say your name! Take me away with you! Let's run off together! An
elopement with my King-Lover! We'll celebrate, we'll sing, we'll make great music. Yes!
For your love is better than vintage wine. Everyone loves you--of course! And why not?”
(MSG) . This woman in this passage has a level of desire and passion every bit as
powerful as the man’s. He is the focus of all her desire and passionate longing.
The man addresses her with a tender compliment, looking past her own perceived flaws
to praise her beauty. Then he urges her to follow the tracks of his sheep as she brings her
young goats to a place where they can be together, pointing to a place of common ground
2. in the tending of their flocks. It may be that opposites attract, but mutual enjoyment of
shared interests creates stability in a relationship.
The joyous repartee of the couple’s mutual admiration in Song of Solomon 1:15-17
“Oh, my dear friend! You're so beautiful! And your eyes so beautiful--like doves! And
you, my dear lover--you're so handsome! And the bed we share is like a forest glen. We
enjoy a canopy of cedars “ (MSG)
Again in Song of Solomon 2:1-3
“I'm just a wildflower picked from the plains of Sharon, a lotus blossom from the valley
pools. A lotus blossoming in a swamp of weeds-- that's my dear friend among the girls in
the village. As an apricot tree stands out in the forest, my lover stands above the young
men in town. All I want is to sit in his shade, to taste and savor his delicious love.”
(MSG) In those days, both were common, everyday blossoms not especially noted for
their beauty. She is modestly saying, “I’m not so pretty—really kind of average.” After
which the man lifts her up: to him she is like a lily among thorns; her beauty far
outclasses that of all others. She then repays his compliment with one of her own:
compared to all of the young men, he is like a refreshing apple tree that is far more
desirable than all the trees of the forest.
This scene highlights an important part of a healthy marriage: constructive conversation
between a husband and a wife. Compliments cultivate love, but criticism inhibits growth.
2. Love Is Exclusive
Sexual intimacy between a husband and wife is a beautiful experience that expresses their
oneness and the love they have for one another.
The Song of Songs teaches that love within marriage produces genuine sexual
liberation—not liberation from marriage, but liberation in marriage. The most explicitly
erotic passage in the entire book, chapters 7:1-8:4, depicts the vibrant sexual intimacy of
the man and the woman as a married couple. Song of Solomon 7:10-12
“I am my lover's. I'm all he wants. I'm all the world to him! Come, dear lover-- let's
tramp through the countryside. Let's sleep at some wayside inn, then rise early and listen
to bird-song. Let's look for wildflowers in bloom, blackberry bushes blossoming white,
Fruit trees festooned with cascading flowers. And there I'll give myself to you, my love to
your love! “ (MSG) Here they enjoy the fruit of their love:
Continuing the verbal and physical foreplay, the man uses the images of a locked garden
and a sealed fountain to celebrate his beloved’s virginity. Song of Solomon 4:12
“Dear lover and friend, you're a secret garden, a private and pure fountain”. (MSG) The
garden suggests privacy, separation, sacredness, and security. A “sealed fountain” is
protected; its water can only go to its rightful owner. Sex without marriage cannot
compare with the joy of giving yourself completely to the beloved.
3. This language of exclusivity is expressed in something like a marriage vow: “My beloved
is mine and I am his.” This phrase, often used by Jewish brides at weddings, is a
statement of possession. It represents an exclusive covenant between a man and a woman
who are saying to each other, “There is not much you can count on in this world—health,
money, career, looks—but you can count on me. I will not give my heart and body to
anyone else in the way I give it to you.”
Our culture perpetuates several myths with regard to this biblical teaching of sexual
exclusiveness. One is that sex is such a powerful drive that it cannot be controlled. In
fact, we are called to honor God, ourselves, and our future spouses by maintaining purity.
Another myth is that sexual sin is unforgivable sin. But God offers forgiveness for all our
sins in the cross of Jesus Christ. Through repentance and forgiveness we are offered a
second chance to keep covenant again.
3. Love Is Total
Love is not just physical. Love is a commitment of heart, mind, soul, and body. The Song
reminds us that the man and woman become one in every way, not just in the most
obvious physical way. The woman says, Song of Solomon 5:16
“His words are kisses, his kisses words”. (MSG) The two share erotic love, but they also
share hopes, dreams, and aspirations as companions in life.
Friendship is the foundation of biblical love. Genesis 2:18
GOD said, "It's not good for the Man to be alone; I'll make him a helper, a companion."
(MSG) Proverbs 17:17
“Friends love through all kinds of weather, and families stick together in all kinds of
trouble”. (MSG)
This companionship is expressed by the man, who calls his lover. Song of Solomon 4:9
“You've captured my heart, dear friend. You looked at me, and I fell in love. One look my
way and I was hopelessly in love!” (MSG) She is not just a lover, she is also a friend.
This friendship, together with the worship of God, is the foundation on which husbands
and wives build intimacy.
4. Love Is Beautiful
Song of Songs is a celebration of the beauty of the marriage relationship. Song of
Solomon 2:10
“My lover has arrived and he's speaking to me! Get up, my dear friend, fair and beautiful
lover--come to me!” (MSG) The beauty of their relationship does not consist in physical
outward beauty, but rather in the inward beauty of character and in the spiritual
dimension of their relationship expressed in their commitment to God and his design for
marriage. Each sees the other person as a beautiful gift of God. Like fine wine, beauty
4. increases with age as God conforms us more and more into the image of Christ and
makes us beautiful.
Ultimately, though, the Song of Songs makes us yearn for Christ. When Christ comes
again, he will gather his bride, the church, from around the world to make ready for the
wedding. Revelation 19:9
The Angel said to me, "Write this: "Blessed are those invited to the Wedding Supper of
the Lamb.'" He added, "These are the true words of God!" (MSG) This important New
Testament passage, together with the Song of Songs, makes us yearn for the day when all
of our relationships—married or single—will be governed by perfect love.
Revelation 19 points us to the day when no desire will be left unsatisfied, and we will
finally fulfill the purpose for which we were made—to be with God in unbroken
fellowship. The joy we celebrate at wedding feasts today will be surpassed when the
church feasts with Christ face to face.