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Listening
1. Listening
By Dr. Glen Christie
Spiritual Inspiration Center
Christ’s Church
the process of receiving, constructing
meaning from, and responding to a
spoken and/ or non-verbal message
3. Hearing vs.
Do you think there is a
difference between hearing
and listening?
Hearing is simply the act of
perceiving sound by the ear.
If you are not hearing-impaired,
hearing simply
happens.
4. Hearing vs.
Listening, however, is
something you consciously
choose to do. Listening
requires concentration so
that your brain processes
meaning from words and
sentences.
Listening leads to learning.
6. Appreciative Listening
- listening for pleasure and enjoyment, as
when we listen to music, to a comedy
routine, or to an entertaining speech
- describes how well
speakers choose and
use words, use humor,
ask questions. tell
stories, and argue
persuasively
7. Empathetic Listening
- listening to provide emotional support for the
speaker, as when a psychiatrist listens to a
patient or when we lend a sympathetic ear to a
friend
- focuses on
understanding and
identifying with a
person’s situation,
feelings, or motives
8. Empathetic Listening
- listener does not necessarily agree or feel
the same way with the speaker instead
understand the type and intensity of
feelings the speaker is experiencing
without judgment
- there is an attempt
to understand
what the other
person is feeling
9. Comprehensive/Activ
e Listening
- listening to understand the message of a
speaker, as when we attend a classroom
lecture or listen to directions for finding a
friend’s house
10. Comprehensive/Active
Listening
- focuses on accurately understanding
the meaning of the speaker’s words
while simultaneously interpreting non-verbal
cues such as facial expressions,
gestures, posture, and vocal quality
11. Reasons for Active
Avoid saying the wrong thing
Dissipates strong feelings
Helps other to accept feelings
Generates a feeling of caring
Encourages others to start listening back
Increase confidence in the other
Makes other feel important & recognized
13. Critical/ Analytical
- focuses on evaluating whether a
message is logical and reasonable
14. Critical/ Analytical
Listening
asks you to make judgments based on
your evaluation of the speaker’s
arguments
challenges the speaker’s message by
evaluating its accuracy and
meaningfulness, and utility
uses critical thinking skills
15. 8 Commandments of
Effective Listening
Stop talking! Consciously focus your attention on the
speaker.
Put the speaker at ease: Relax, smile, look at the speaker
and help that person feel free to talk. Look and act
interested.
Remove distractions: turn off the TV; close the door; stop
what you are doing, and pay attention.
Listen for what is not said. Ask questions to clarify the
meaning of words and the feelings involved, or ask the
speaker to enlarge on the statement.
16. 8 Commandments of
Effective Listening
Be aware of "tune out" words. Avoid arguing mentally.
Listen to understand, not to oppose.
Be patient. Don't interrupt the speaker.
Hold your temper! Try to keep your own emotions from
interfering with your listening efficiency.
Empathize with the speaker. Try to "walk in the other's
moccasins" so you can feel what that person is feeling and
understand the point of view the speaker is trying to
convey.
17. 8 Commandments of
Effective Listening
Find areas of interest.
The Poor Listener: Tunes out dry topics.
The Good Listener: Seizes opportunities: "What's in it for me?"
Judge content, not delivery.
The Poor Listener: Tunes out if delivery is poor.
The Good Listener: Judges content, skips over delivery errors.
Hold your fire.
The Poor Listener: Tends to enter into argument.
The Good Listener: Doesn't judge until comprehension is
complete.
18. 8 Commandments of
Effective Listening
Listen for ideas.
The Poor Listener: Listens for facts.
The Good Listener: Listens for central theme.
Be a flexible note taker.
The Poor Listener: Is busy with form, misses content.
The Good Listener: Adjusts to topic and organizational pattern.
19. 8 Commandments of
Effective Listening
Resist distractions.
The Poor Listener: Is distracted easily.
The Good Listener: Fights or avoids distractions; tolerates bad habits
in others; knows how to concentrate.
Keep your mind open.
The Poor Listener: Reacts to emotional words.
The Good Listener: Interprets emotional words; does not get hung up
on them.
Thought is faster than speech; use it.
The Poor Listener: Tends to daydream with slow speakers.
The Good Listener: Challenges, anticipates, mentally summarizes,
weights the evidence, listens between the lines to tone and voice.
20. In Summary
Helpful Listening
Listen to how something is said
Be alert for what is left unsaid
You can't hear if YOU do all the talking- Don't
talk too much
Listen with empathy - See the situation from
speaker’s point of view -Try to put yourself in
speaker’s shoes
Do not prepare what you are going to say in
response while the other person is speaking
21. In Summary
Helpful Listening
Be courteous-don't interrupt
Take notes if you worry about forgetting a
particular point
Avoid stereotyping individuals by making
assumptions about what you expect them to
say-avoid your biases when you listen
Listen carefully so that you will be able to
understand, comprehend & evaluate what is
said
Use conscious effort-try to be aware of verbal
& nonverbal messages
22. In Summary
Physical Set up for Effective Listening
Pick a quiet location
Ask not to be disturbed
Put the telephone on voicemail
Remove distractions
Create a comfortable atmosphere e.g.
lighting, temperature, etc.
23. In Summary
Mental Set up for Effective Listening
Don’t prejudge
Clear mind of other things
Don’t formulate response while speaker is
talking
Listen for both content & context
If not mentally ready to listen-reschedule
conversation if possible
24. In Summary
Warnings
Danger of misunderstanding the client’s
nonverbal behavior as well as spoken words
due to cultural differences or the client’s state
of disorganization.
Imperative for the counselor not to assume
that they understand what the client means
by his spoken word or non-verbal behavior
and vice versa.
It is best to clarify and make sure.
25. In Summary
Assigning “Meaning”
It is important for you to understand the meaning a
person assigns to an event or an emotion. These can be
seen as any of the following:
A Challenge – to be overcome
A Loss – making change difficult or impossible
A Gain – a sign that one is working to maximum ability
A Punishment – penance for not doing something right
(or for doing something wrong) in the past
A Reality – to be assessed and dealt with so that it can
be reduced to an acceptable level