1. From self confidence to self esteem
( Fra selvtillid til selvværd )
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2. FROM SELF CONFIDENCE TO
SELF ESTEEM
….EMPOWERMENT OF A HIGH ACHIEVER
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3. Thomas Friisnæs
Talent coach 44 Passionate
Married about
Leadership 2 boys • Personal
coach development
• Travelling
Teacher • Hockey
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4. Leaders elite
Talent- Sports
pools elite
High achievers
Primary strength is self
confidence
Primadonna’s
Performance driven by self
confidence
Highest wish: more
performance
Self confidence is fragile
Self confidence is grounded
in self esteem
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6. Exercise
What have you achieved the past 5 years?
Looking back to April 11th. 2006 and till NOW
Top 3
Positive
Professional – personal
Write it down
4 minutes
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7. Self esteem Self confidence
What I am What I do
Your merits
Dine ”bilkort”
Position Results
Education Fitness
House Friends
Car Seminars
Clothes Customers
Jewelry Gadgets
Watches Purses, bags
Network Shoes
Restaurants Travels
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9. Self esteem Self confidence
Underlying Goal (surface)
Internal recognition External recognition
BEINGS DOINGS
Your merits
Dine ”bilkort”
Be yourself Being in the performance
Break your comfortzone
(and develop) Stay in your comfortzone
Accepts that we do everything we Must be perfect
can, with the resources we have
Accepts that the world is perfect Wants to correct the world
Knows that I can develop Know best
Time for reflection Always on the move
Present in the now Constantly towards new goals
Defines own dreams Pursue others dreams
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10. Self esteem
What I can do anything
about – I do!
What I can not do
anything about – I
accept!
Without your own
dreams, you accept to
become a resource for
others – those who have
found and live their
dreams
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11. Self esteem exercises - I
• Accept your present situation • Don’t act to please others
(and move on) • Don’t judge others
• Accept your past - your • Show courage
weaknesses – and focus on your • Break your comfort zone, play
strengths without limits
• Don’t be too serious, everyone • Enjoy your own company, love
can make a mistake yourself
• Love yourself – you’re unique • Admit that you’re vulnerable
• Praise yourself when you • Make your own personal mental
succeed contract
• Visualize your success –
rolemodelling
• Set your goals – and reward
yourself
12. Self esteem exercises - II
• Meet others with a smile, a firm • Focus on your qualities, take a
handshake and look the into their strength test
eyes • Strengthen the faith in yourself
• Show gratitude and appreciation, • Say no – move from respect to
when you’re recognized self respect
• Don’t brag • Prioritize time to meditation
• Don’t focus on probems and • Practice your ability to accept
negativity in your conversations • Take chances – it is OK to make
• See mistakes as a tool to improve mistakes
and learn • Practice your self pep-talk
• Respon to pressure by increasing • Learn to recognize at be
your activity level recognized (for what you are,
not what you do)
• Say it when you disagree
• Show your feelings
• Think positive thoughts
13. Exercise
What do YOU dream about doing within
the next 5 years?
From today and Untill April 11th 2016
Top 3
And WHY – what will it give you
(finding the underlying reasons and true motivation)
Write it down
4 minutes
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14. Self esteem Self confidence
BEINGS DOINGS
USE insight and consciouness/awareness
OBTAIN insight and consciouness/awareness
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15. Exercise
What will YOU do TODAY
to get one step closer to
your goals?
Specific
Measurable
Attractive
Realistic
Timeframe
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16. More on motivation
Dan Pink – motivation in another perspektive
ted.com – approx. 19 minutes
RSA Animate
youtube.com – RSA Animate motivation
10 minute cartoon
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17. Concluding
Find insight Build your self confidence on
a basis of self esteem
Become conscious
Slingshot / boost your self
confidence
Use consciousness
Perform even more
Find the courage to break out
of your comfort zone
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