Goal Creation Workshop

1. WELCOME TO THE
ULTIMATE GOAL
CREATION WORKSHOP
By Farah Siddiqui-Borland MSc
Holistic Change Coach, NLPTrainer
www.goodnessgorgeousme.com

2. This is a condensed version of a live full 1 day workshop I ran, so
includes time for activity, reflection and discussion.The best way for you
to get the most out of this course is to do the exercises as you go
through, take your time before going on to the next.

3. Workshop Prerequisites:
An open mind
Respectful of others goals, as well as your own
Judgement free
Responsibility for your own outcomes
Hydration, ventilation, nutritious snacks
Free from distractions
Make this an appointment with yourself, one you are on time for
A willingness to play full out and challenge yourself
Writing materials and note book
Lifestyle magazines, glue, scissors, large piece of card
Happy background music during the exercises (optional)
Prepared to celebrate achievements and share!

4. Why are you here?
What are your outcomes?
Take a moment to write down
what you need to do to make
this the best goals workshop
you can make it be.

5. FARAH’S OUTCOMES:
My outcome for this workshop is to share some of the training and
experience I have had around the area of goal creation and to clarify
why goal setting alone, doesn’t work and what is needed instead.
Of course, I also hope you enjoy the course, learn some new things,
participate by sharing, asking questions and take part in the exercises
and feel energised and excited about the future as a result.
I’m grateful and honoured you chose to spend time on yourself
working with me and I wish you love and light and look forward to
working with you again sometime. If you feel others you know would
benefit from this workshop, do share the love! Invite them over to the
party and direct them to www.goodnessgorgeousme.com

6. WHAT IS A GOAL?
•n: end of race; object of effort;
•Aim, ambition, design, destination, end,
intention, limit, mark, object, purpose, target
•An outcome, you are doing something to
achieve it
•Something you want to create in your
universe

7. SO, TELL ME WHAT YOU
WANT
WHAT YOU REALLY
REALLY WANT

8. The goal might be:
To meet the love of your life?
A new car?
Live in a nicer area in a bigger house?
Travel, volunteer, live overseas?
Present on stage?
Have a successful business?
Make 6 figures a year?
Ask yourself, what does the car, house, money,
travel etc do for you?
What does it give you?
What is the ultimate motivation behind it?
Is it reallyTheThing? Or is it the Feeling behind it?

9. Everything we do in life,
we do at its deepest level to be
Happy.
To Feel Good.

10. 2 WAYSYOU CAN INCREASEYOUR
PERSONAL LEVEL OF HAPPINESS:
•Be actively engaged in achieving your goals
•Eliminate the times when you are unhappy

11. Does it mean then, that if you don’t achieve your goals you will not be
happy? Consider this:
What you receive by accomplishing your goals is not nearly as important as
what you become by accomplishing your goals.
You could argue that what you become by not accomplishing your goals is
many times more profound than what you become when you do
accomplish them.
Achieving your goals:

12. Eliminate the times you are unhappy:
1. Letting go of what is no longer true
Release the attachment to the old idea or habit and notice how you feel.
What you resist persists.
Can you think of something in your life where you are holding onto
something that is no longer true? Let it go!
2. Overcoming addictions
Chemical addictions, speak for themselves.
Emotional/psychological addictions can be even more harmful…
Have you ever experienced an addiction to something?
That’s your ego talking. Let go of your ego.

13. Now is a result of decisions
you made in the past.
The result of your best
thinking yesterday got you
where you are today.
The Power lies in NOW. You
can affect your future today.

14. CELEBRATINGYOU!

15. YOU ROCK!!!
Write as many of your achievements as you can think of. No
matter how big or small. Just brainstorm and let it flow. Next to
each, write one word describing how the achievement made
you feel, or phrases you tell yourself or what it means to you.
Take a moment to look at those words and phrases next to the
achievements.
Draw an image of you, a stick person will do.Write your name,
depicting the image. Surround the image with those words and
congratulate yourself!
Cue happy celebratory music and do a little dance :)

16. YOU KNOWYOU CAN DO IT,
RIGHT?
YOU’VE ACHIEVED GOALS IN
THE PAST, SO WHAT’S
STOPPINGYOU ACHIEVING
THEM INTHE NOW ORTHE
FUTURE?

17. EXCUSES, EXCUSES….
• I really want to do things differently, but I can’t because…
• I don’t have time…
• Too busy with my job/kids…
• Commuting eats into my time…
• Can’t afford it…
• Can’t be bothered…
• Goal setting is selfish. I’m not a self-centred person…
• It doesn’t work. I’ve tried before and it’s impossible…

18. MORE EXCUSES, EXCUSES….
• Not sure what I want…
• It’s not something I can do…
• You can’t teach an old dog new tricks…
• I’m too old for all that now…
• Once I get through this busy patch, I’m really going to sort
myself out…
• I like spontaneity! It’s boring to plan things in advance…
• My spouse/parents/kids won’t let me…
• It’s too difficult…

19. WHY DO WE DO ANYTHING?
Ultimately it’s to feel happy! It satisfies a human need.There
are 6 basic human needs.Your feelings from the Celebration
exercise will fall in to either one of the following:

20. 6 HUMAN NEEDS
Needs of the Personality:
Certainty
Uncertainty
Significance
Love/Connection
Needs of the Spirit:
Growth
Contribution

21. OUR NEEDS CREATE A CYCLE:
INTENTION
THOUGHTS
WORDS / FEELINGS
ACTIONS
RESULTS
INTENTION
…

22. Something happens: (external event)
We process it through our unique internal filters and make a
picture in our head (internal representation)
which affects how we feel (our state)
and our physiology (what we do with our body).
That affects what we do (behaviour)
and the results we get in life
The diagram on the next page shows the cycle

23. THE NLP
COMMUNICATION MODEL

24. LET’S LOOK AT HOWTHE
WORDS WE USE AFFECT
HOW WE FEEL,AND
THEREFORE HOW WE ACT,
ANDTHETHINGS WE DO, SO
THE RESULTS WE GET.
OUR WORDS AFFECT OUR
RESULTS

25. IT’S ONLY WORDS...
• Make two lists.
• In one column, list words used in everyday conversations which lift
you and make you feel positive. Ones which imply a way forward
• In the other column list, list word which make you shudder! One’s
implying stuckness, negativity or lack.
• Listen out to other people’s conversations and notice if they use
more of one type of language over another and whether they seem
generally upbeat or downbeat. Is there a correlation? Now be more
wary of the words you chose and notice how it affects your
emotions and the responses you get.Ask someone ‘how are you’...

26. USE MORE OFTHESE:
Can
All Yet
Curious
Will
Everyone Have
Solution
Trust
Lesson Believe
Feeback
Easy
Persistence Challenge
Find
Passion Fresh
Serve Desire
Abundant
Seize the moment Plenty
Action Beginning
Complete Sure

27. ELIMINATETHESE!
Won’t Haven’t Must/ Mustn’t
Should Try Hopefully
Problem Lose If
None No-one Failure
End Old Only
Can’t We’ll see.. Who knows
Need to It’s not my fault
It’s not me, it’s you Not bad
OK So-So But

28. •Every single “I can’t.....” is a
creation
•Every single “ I’m not....“
is a creation

29. Responsibility for Goals
When you take 100% responsibility for achieving your outcome and are
willing to do it all by yourself, you won’t have to
To the extent you are not willing to do it all by yourself, you will have to!
When you don’t take 100% responsibility for achieving your outcomes you
are not working magic, you are playing with luck!
The only benefit of not taking 100% responsibility for achieving your
outcome is that you will always have someone to blame

30. YOU ALWAYS GET WHATYOU EXPECT
(not what you deserve...)
Do a little each day
Get in line, Stay in Line
Ditch, Do or Delegate
Lower your standards for success
Rewards yourself & Celebrate

31. • INTENTION
• ATTENTION
• INTUITION
• CREATION
• MANIFESTATION
• THANKS

32. HOW BALANCED ISYOUR LIFE
RIGHT NOW?
Health & fitness Intimate relationship
Family & home Finances/wealth
Emotional health / me-time Spirituality
Work / purpose Contribution
Social / recreational Intellectual/educational

33. Then score each section on
how it is for you right now:
outside is 10 = perfect
centre is 0: a long way to go
Mark a line across your score
for each section
Notice where your strengths
are and where improvements
are needed.
Which area are you going to
focus on? What’s the goal?
10
0
10
10
10
10
10
10
10
10
10
First draw a circle, split it into
10 equal sections. Label each
section as per the last slide

34. MANIFESTATION

35. YOUR DESIGNER DAY
Imagine your Perfect Day.
Where do you wake up? What do you see? Who is with you?
How does your morning start?
How do you fill your day?
What does the end of your day look like?
Write down what you see in your Perfect Day.
Visualise it as fully as possible, make it vivid, feel how you would
feel.Visualisation is a powerful technique, here’s how to do it:

36. VISUALISING
• Practice! It’s a new skill and takes time to master
• Visualise as if you are seeing the event through your own eyes
• Connect with your feelings around the future movie
• Turn it up! Make the picture bigger, brighter, sharper.Tune into the
background sounds, the sensations you feel, are there and smells or
flavours which bring the movie to life?
“Vision without action is merely a dream.
Action without vision just passes the time.
Vision with action can change the world”
JOEL A. BARKER

37. SMART
GOALS
Use SMART to create a goal you really want and believe you
can achieve

38. •S
SPECIFIC
Exactly what is it you want? Imagine telling a 6 year old! Detail. Be clear
•M
MEASURABLE
What has to happen? What do you have to see /hear /feel to know it has
been achieved?
•
MEANINGFUL TOYOU Is itYOUR goal, or things you think you SHOULD set?
•A
AS IF NOW
Express in present tense
• ALL AREAS OF LIFE
More fulfilling, goals in all areas of life
•R
REALISTIC & RESPONSIBLE
How realistic is the goal for you personally? What degree of
certainty do you have that you can make this happen? It has to be 100%, otherwise you have a
limiting belief. Is the goal good for you, others and the planet?
•T
TIMED
precise time – day, date, month, year for achieving the goal.
•
TOWARDS
focus on what you WANT, not what you don’t want.

39. Key questions to ask yourself about the goal:
Begin by asking yourself: “How is it possible that you haven’t achieved this yet?”
1.
“What specifically do you want?”
2.
“Where am you now in relation to the outcome?”
3.
“What will you see, hear, feel, etc…, when you’ve achieved this?”
4.
“How will you know when you’ve achieved this?”
5.
“What will this outcome get for you or allow you to do?”
6.
“Is it only for you?”
7.
“Where, when, how, and with whom do you want to achieve this?”
8.
“What do you have now, and what do you need to get your outcome?”
• “Have you ever had or done this before?”
• “Do you know anyone who has?”
• “Can you act as if you’ve already achieved this?”
9. “For what purpose do you want this?”
• “What will you gain or lose if you have it?”
⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯⎯
• What will happen when you get it?
• What won’t happen when you get it?
• What will happen if you don’t get it?
• What won’t happen if you don’t get it?

40. Future Time-line

41. This is a practical, guided exercise best done live.
Alternatively stand with your eyes shut, facing the direction
where you think your future is.
Take a moment to imagine achieving the goal. Breathe into it and
notice how it feels.
Then turn and face towards now. Imagine a connecting line.
Walk down the future time line towards now, noticing the steps
and changes which have to occur as you get closer to now.
You should be able to identify key steps, and be clear on the first
step to take from now.
When you get to now, open your eyes and turn back to face
your future timeline and the achieved goal. Breath 3 deep
breaths, see those steps, feel how you would when it is done.
Future Time-line

42. Dream Board

43. This is a fun, creative and practical exercise!
Get out your lifestyle magazines, glue, scissors and large piece of
card. Spend some time, around half an hour or more, flicking
through the magazines, cutting out pictures, phrases or words
which stand out for you, which draw you in and connect with
your dreams, the things you want in your life. Stick them on your
card, get as creative as you like. Use stickers or glitter, whatever
you like, and really have fun creating your DreamBoard.
Once done, stick it on your wall, somewhere you will see it
everyday.Take a picture of it and save it as a screensaver.
Dream Board

44. INSPIRE
MAKE A DIFFERENCE
CHERISH
LOVER
BUSINESS
MOTHER
WISDOM
TRANSFORMATION
BOLD
CREATOR
GIVE BACK
EXPLORER
FRIEND
TEACHER
CHARISMA SERVELAUGHTER
RICH

45. Dear Darling...

46. Now write a letter from your future self to the you of now,
telling yourself how wonderful your life turns out to be.
Really let go, describe in full detail where you live, who you
are with, how you fill your day, how you feel living this life.
Advise your younger you, reassure him/her it will all be ok.
This can be quite an emotional exercise.That’s ok. Really
connect, be vivid and make it real to you.
Keep the letter somewhere safe and read it whenever you
need it. If you want to share and read it out to someone
supporting you on your journey, go ahead.
Dear Darling...

47. IT’S
PARTY TIME!!

48. Wow! You did it!
How are you feeling now?
You did well!!
We covered a lot of deep processes and if you followed through
and played full out, you should be wanting to blast out the happy
music around about now and bust some moves!!
Go hug a friend!
CELEBRATE!!!
You have created your goal! Yaaa!!
Now work with the natural universal laws and start noticing
what comes into your world to support your goal. Do your bit
by taking a little action every day towards what you want and
feel how it would feel to accomplish it. Have patience, be
consistent and be grateful for all you already have.

49. NEXT STEPS
• I’d love to know how you got on with this workshop, in this
slide format! Please do let me know what you loved, so I
can deliver even greater value next time!
• Keep in touch and check out more free stuff, or work with
me! Go to www.goodnessgorgeousme.com
• Post your goal/s publically, declare it!
• Here’s a reading list to keep you inspired:
• Your best year yet - Jenny Ditzer
• Feel the fear and do it anyway - Susan Jeffers

50. Why are you here?
What are your outcomes?
Take a moment to write down
what you need to do to make
this the best goals workshop
you can make it be.
Before I go, a moment’s reflection.
Were your objectives met?

51. I hope you lovedThe Ultimate Goal Creation Workshop as much as I
did creating it. Please do let me know how you enjoyed it. For more
information contact me, leaving a comment on:
http://www.goodnessgorgeousme.com/contact
and invite your friends along to join the workshop too!
http://www.goodnessgorgeousme.com/goals
To your goodness and your gorgeousness,
Your Coach,
Farah

52. Success doesn’t just
happen. It’s a by-product
of effort, commitment,
endurance and obligation
to others.
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