From Debauchery 2014: How to date when you're poly? Advice on where to find poly folks and how to be the best YOU you can be for the best dating results!
17. User Manual: Part A
Family history
• Parents: relationship/major events!
• Siblings: relationships/major events!
• What are your basic traits?!
• What is your baggage?!
• What do you value in life?
@cunningminx
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http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
19. User Manual: Part B
How you work emotionally
• Included!
• Supported!
• Opened up to!
• Understood
I need to feel...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
20. User Manual: Part B
How you work emotionally
• Included!
• Supported!
• Opened up to!
• Understood
I need to feel...
Here, let
me help
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
21. User Manual: Part C
How you work sexually
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22. User Manual: Part C
How you work sexually
What a
lovely pattern!
I hope he
puts these in
my butt!
@cunningminx
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23. User Manual: Part C
How you work sexually
• What makes you giggle/feel weak?!
• Which touches turn you on?!
• What gestures are especially
meaningful?!
• What is a special date for you?
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
24. User Manual: Part D
What is sex?
@cunningminx
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http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
25. User Manual: Part D
What is sex?
We’re having
sex right now!
Wait...
what?!
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
26. User Manual: Part D
What is sex?
• What is your take on casual sex?!
• What is sex?!
• What are you into?!
• Tried and true turn-ons?!
• What are you willing to try?!
• What are your turn-offs?
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
http://polyweekly.com/eight-things-links/writing-user-manual/
28. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
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29. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
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30. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
31. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
32. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
33. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• expect regular STD testing
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
34. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• expect regular STD testing
• spend time alone with your lover
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
35. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• expect regular STD testing
• spend time alone with your lover
• spend time with your metamour
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
36. Secondary’s Bill of Rights
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• explain what you want from the relationship
• know what rules and restrictions are being placed on
you (emotional and sexual) and if and when they will
be lifted
• state and clarify your own needs and wants
• expect regular STD testing
• spend time alone with your lover
• spend time with your metamour
• spend time together with both partners
You have the right to...
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
37. Your responsibilities
• State what you want/need!
• Own your shit!
• Negotiate guidelines!
• Ask about your metamours!
• Ask about STD testing and
current forms of protection!
• Check in regularly!
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com
38. Your responsibilities
• State what you want/need!
• Own your shit!
• Negotiate guidelines!
• Ask about your metamours!
• Ask about STD testing and
current forms of protection!
• Check in regularly!
Did you
remember to get
tested?
@cunningminx
www.polyweekly.com