Part of the stimulas for Geeky & Sexy event - https://geekyandsexy2x1.eventbrite.co.uk/

1. Who pays on the first date?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/bigbirdz/4506598157/

2. Thank you for coming...

3. There are only 3 positions...*
Male pays Go Dutch Female pays
100% bill 50% 50% split 100% bill
*For the purpose of the next 4mins, we will only refer to dating within a hetrosexual context
However we would like to explore homosexual dating later

4. What 100 random people think?
Survey: completed in 19 mins, Nov 15 2011

5. What do we mean by first date?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/id-iom/3919531022

6. The male pays...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/rockygirl/109425823

7. It shows your not tight with your money,
but it doesn't mean she's a gold digger
http://www.flickr.com/photos/thomashawk/5839313092

8. You won't see her again,
it's not about the money, it's about worth
http://www.flickr.com/photos/moregoodfoundation/5138616947

9. It shows you have the instinct to provide
It shows a woman that you will look after
her
http://www.flickr.com/photos/moregoodfoundation/5139228340

10. If you asked her out on a date then it
makes sense you pay
http://www.flickr.com/photos/ittoku/6034778598

11. It shows you're a gentleman that you have
standards and you know how to treat a
woman
http://www.flickr.com/photos/phinphonephotos/312062938

12. It shows you can lead a relationship -
don't mistake it for controlling a
relationship
http://www.flickr.com/photos/thomashawk/245769695

13. Go dutch...
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sfj/3495836366/

14. Evolution and Equality
http://www.flickr.com/photos/pedrovezini/4718057173

15. “God gave men brains larger than dogs so
they wouldn't hump women's legs at
cocktail parties” - Ruth Libby
Hackers 1995

16. Not making the other person feel
uncomfitable or belittled
http://www.flickr.com/photos/legsagain/4752764872

17. Dating double standards
...a modern girl will end the evening with the Offering, an
insincere bid to help pay the check. "They make like they
are heading into their bag after a meal, but it is a
dodge. They know you will stop them before a credit
card can be drawn. If you don't, they hold it against
you..."
http://www.nytimes.com/2005/10/30/magazine/30feminism.html?pagewanted=all

18. Money shouldn't be the most
impressive thing about you
“...I honestly think overly expensive dinners that are just
aim to impress and show no thought on the guy’s part are
horrible first dates. It has the potential to turn a good girl
into a gold digger (hmmm … I’ve never run up the bill on a
person before … what better place to try it with these $80
entrees). It all just feels so … so … fake"
http://www.singleblackmale.org/2009/10/09/worst-first-dates/

19. Respect for each other and your unique
roles in any relationship which happens
http://www.flickr.com/photos/instantvantage/4853287010

20. “What do you do...?
Oh... I heard they don't pay very well...?”

21. “Love is deeper, don’t cheapen it”
Reasonable reasons why...
The man haven't got it
The man has got obligations
The man is saving up for something
The man is conservative with his money
...ignorant and destructive mindset?
http://www.singleblackmale.org/2008/09/22/money-talks/

22. The female pays...???
http://www.flickr.com/photos/sashafatcat/3613417222/

23. What do you do?
http://www.flickr.com/photos/jacobrixphotography/5754537100/

24. Many more questions...
Is it any different in a same sex dates?
Who should ask who?
First time dating no-no's?
First time dating problems?
Politics around having sex on the first date?