Does your family fall into familiar roles and scripts that hold you back? Do you want more clarity in how you affect your children and vice versa? Want to incorporate social and emotional intelligence in your parenting? Learn how to generate more responsibility and nourishment in your family. Lead with your engagement, wants, and needs to develop more fulfilling family dynamics. Find out how to extricate yourself from drama and discover how your family operates as a system.

1. Web i n a r S e r i e s
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

2. About The Center for Christian Life Enrichment (CLE)
• Located in the northern suburbs of Chicago
• 50+ years of experience and a decade of graduate education between
our 5 therapists
• Emotionally-focused approach to counseling
• Cutting edge blend of psychology and Christian principles
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

3. Christian Life Enrichment Staff
Richard Blue
M.A., LCPC, NCC
Clinical Director
rich.blue@cle.us.com Andrew Mercer
(847) 272-3684, ext. 14 M.A., LPC
www.outoftheblueblog.us
andrew.mercer@cle.us.com
LinkedIn
(847) 272-3684, ext. 17
www.askmerce.com
Nancy Rollins
M.S., LCPC, NCC
nancy.rollins@cle.us.com
(847) 272-3684, ext. 13
Jon Noto
M.A., LPC
jonathan.noto@cle.us.com
(847) 272-3684, ext. 11
Gabriela Caballero Cantú www.growinginfaith.net
M.A., LPC
gabriela.cantu@cle.us.com
(847) 272-3684, ext. 15
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

4. Today’s Presenter: Gabriela Cantu,
M.A., LPC
• Therapist, speaker, and group leader at the
Center for Christian Life Enrichment
• Working with individuals, families, and couples
to discover a greater sense of life purpose and
meaning
• Speciality in multi and cross-cultural counseling
• Leading dynamic growth-focused groups
• Wife and Mother of three
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

5. This is for You
•Have you ever found yourself in the
midst of a conflict with your child and
wondered how in the world it all started?
•Have you ever reacted to your child more
harshly than the situation called for?
•Have you ever been so upset by
something so little that you knew there
must be more going on?
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

6. Getting Unhooked
•How do you cope when your
worry and fear shifts quickly to
upset and anger?
•What does it mean to be hooked
anyway?
•What tools can you use to help?
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

7. Merging Drama and Triangles:
•Murray Bowen, Triangulation and Family Systems Theory
•Eric Berne and Transactional Analysis
•History of the Drama Triangle
•What is Drama in the First Place?
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

8. Karpman Drama Triangle
Persecutor Rescuer
• Bully • Co-Dependants
• Needs to be Right • Care-takers
• Threaten • Problem Solvers
• Blame • Over-Protective
• Punish • Fixers
• Withdraw
Victim
• Incapable
• Defeated
• Poor Me
• Mistreated
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

9. Busting Through the Triangle
•Using Positive Intent to Break out of
the Triangle
•Ask yourself, “What positive ‘thing’
is the victim, rescuer, and persecutor
going for?”
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

10. Karpman Drama (free) Triangle
Persecutor => Rescuer =>
Tell the Truth Empower Others
Victim => Express Their Feelings
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com

11. Next Steps
• Give us a call or email for a
complimentary 30-minute
consultation
• Questions about:
o Counseling in general (is it right
for me?)
o Fees & Insurance
o The content you heard today
• (847) 272-3684 (ext. 150 for
Gabriela)
• gabrieal.cantu@cle.us.com
center for christian life enrichment | 3100 dundee rd. ste. 102 | northbrook, il 60062 | www.cle.us.com