7. Islamic Family Law (Federal Territories)
Act 1984, s. 84(1)(2)
The right of hadinah(custody) to the custody of the
child terminates upon the child attaining the age of
seven, in the case of a male, and the age of nine years
in the case of female, but the Court may upon the
application of hadinah, allows her to retain the
custody of the child until the attainment of the age of
nine years, in the case of a male, and the age of
eleven years in the case of a female.
After termination of the right of hadinah, the custody
devolves upon the father, and if the child has reached
the age of discernment (mumayyiz), he or she shall
have a choice of living with either of the
parents, unless the Court otherwise orders.
8. Definisi Islam
Within the Islamic education system, there are principally
three fundamental stages in the manner in which
education should be imparted to children. Between birth
until six a child must be showered with utmost care and
affection so much so that by the time he reaches the age
of seven, he is convinced and secured of his parents’ love
and affection. Between the ages of seven till ten, discipline
must be introduced for this is the period when he reaches
the age of discretion/discerning (mumaiyyiz) during
which he should be encouraged to perform the basic rites
of Islam namely performance of prayers and fasting
during the Ramadhan. When he reaches ten disciplinary
measures ought to be imposed upon non-compliance.
9. Definisi Islam
Diangkatkan pembebanan hukum
dari tiga (jenis orang): orang tidur
sampai dia bangun, anak kecil
sampai dia baligh, dan orang gila
sampai ia sembuh. (Bukhari, Abu Daud, al-
Tirmidzi, al-Nasai, Ibnu Majah dan al-Daruquthni dari
Aisyah dan Ali bin Abi Thalib).
10.
11. Definisi Islam
Lahir – 6 tahun – “Menatang minyak yang penuh”
Curahkan segala kasih sayang
6 tahun – Mumayyiz
Mula ajar asas-asas agama dan ibadah wajib
Mereka sebagai murid
10 tahun ke atas – akil baligh
Mula perkasakan disiplin
Mereka sebagai kawan – dengan batas yang
sesuai
12. Interactive III
Based on your
observations, what
describes “remaja”?
What are the keywords that
describe/symbolize/explain
“remaja”?
17. Teknik Interaksi
Layani dan santuni semua pertanyaan
Jangan terlalu “skema” atau
“judgemental”
Gunakan “experiential” learning
Role-play, doing things, critical
thinking, rhetorical questions
Jom kita “alami” di minda, sebelum rasa-
rasa dan buat-buat
Selitkan pandangan Qur’an dan Sunnah
17:32; 23:3; 3:90-91
20. Identity Search
Traditional agents of identity development:
Family
Religion/Nilai
Community
Friends
School
Modern agents:
Technology (all kinds of gadgets)
Schools
Friends
Now & Then
Then – emphasis on being the same
Now – emphasis on being unique, different, one
of a kind
21. Penceraian di Malaysia
2000 – 2010 – peningkatan 105%
2012 – 20%
1 penceraian bagi setiap 5
perkahwinan
Lebih 80% kes penceraian melibatkan
pasangan Muslim
1 penceraian dalam 15 minit
22. Teknik Interaksi
Kitalah ibu, kitalah ayah
Terimalah mereka “seadanya”, dengarkan cerita
mereka, peluk dan ciumlah perasaan mereka
Kitalah kawan
Fahamilah ranjau hidup mereka, selamilah lubuk hati
mereka
Perkenalkan icons atau role models
yang positif
Perkenalkan icons atau role models
yang positif – dari Qur’an dan Sunnah
Perkenalkan “identiti kerjaya”
25. Techno
Savvy Internet, computer, “Windows” to other worlds
Technology
Shortens emotions
Truncates thinking
Everything is at a click of a mouse – fast, fast, fast!
Technology is the source of
Information – good and bad
Making human connections – FB, etc.
Entertainment – music, games, etc.
Visual/physical stimulation
Addiction
26. Data from CIA World
Factbook, as of 12 Jan. 2012
China
United States
Japan
Brazil
Germany
India
Malaysia (26)
Singapore (65)
Samoa (198)
Tonga (199)
East Timor (207)
27. Star, 17 Nov 2012 (done by
Nielsen & Social Bakers)
Internet users in Malaysia view social network sites 14 billion
time every month
Malaysian internet users spend almost 20 hours per week
online
80% Malaysian have downloaded videos, followed by 51%
actively in YouTube activity
87.9% of Malaysians on the internet access Facebook
67% of YouTube videos viewed in Malaysia
Singapore lead the Asian region in online usage, spending 25
hours online each week, followed by Pilipino 21.5% and
19.8% Malaysians
Total 13 million of Facebook users in Malaysia
28.
29. Penggunaan Internet di
Kalangan Remaja Malaysia
Chatting/Social Networking - FB
Hiburan (muzik, drama, games, etc.)
Maklumat
Pornography - sex
Kerja sekolah
30. Internet Addiction
Count the number of hours online
21 hours, excluding academic-related
Find the reason – gaming:
Lonely, looking for friends
Parents not getting along – stress buster
Power or dominance issue
Financial reward
Gradually reduce the number of hours online
Replace the free hours with other healthy
activities, but giving similar emotional
satisfaction
Monitor the progress
31. Pornography Addiction
15-minute Rule Technique
It begins with a thought to see online
Give it 15 minutes before switching it on
During the 15 minutes
Sleep, talk to mom, watch tv, etc.
If the thought is still there, give it another 15
minutes
It teaches self control
33. Impulsivity, Invincibility
,
Immediate Gratification
(3Is)Deadly combo:
Impulsive – I do as I feel; kalau rasa
seronok, buat je..
Invincible – Unlimited energy – Aku muda
lagi, baru 15 tahun!
Immediate gratification – Now! Buat apa
fikir2 pasal masa depan, lama lagi tu.
Substance use and abuse
Risk-taking behavior –
speeding, sex, etc.
Technology oh technology!
34. Teknik Interaksi
Experiential learning
Bincangkan isu-isu sensitif dengan
terbuka
Sex, HIV/AIDS, Dadah, etc.
“Negative” role models
Kaitkan gaya hidup sekarang dengan
masa depan
37. Conflict &
Contradictions
On definition – sandwich
generation
Child or adult?
Physical vs. social?
Confusion
Technology
A sense of being adult – can do
better than many adults can!
38. Teknik Interaksi
Wahai faci, cakap mesti serupa bikin!
Jangan selalu PMS!
Expect ups and downs – keep
explaining.
Regular follow-ups!
Jadilah role models sebaik yang
mungkin dan seorang kawan
39. Interactive IV
Apa yang boleh kita belajar
dari kisah Badwi yang
kencing dalam Masjid Nabi
(saw)?
40. Pengajaran
Tegur selepas emosi dah pulih/stabil.
Bila nak betulkan remaja, jangan
sampai jadi perkara yang lebih besar.
Islam itu agama yang mudah.
Jadi, permudahkanlah urusan
manusia.
Islam itu agama berkasih sayang;
maka kasihkanlah sesama manusia.
41. MUTABA’AH
Pemantauan, audit, follow-up, berterusan
, mustamirrah
An-Naml, 27:20-23
Abasa, 80:1-10
Akhlak Rasulullah saw selepas solat
bersama sahabat
Kerja rutin malaikat pagi dan petang
Imam Hasan Al-Banna
1928 – 1949 – ziarah lebih dari 3,0000 kampung
46. Bila Nak Mu’ayashah?
Sebelum dan selepas program
Qiamullai
Riadhah
Masak
Mandi
Ma’thurat
Makan
Dll
Selepas MHI
47. Apa Yang Nak di Mutaba’ahkan?
Perasaan
Progress
Ibadah
Akhlak
Tidur
Ceramah, facilitator, tempat
tidur, makanan, ahli
kumpulan, faisliti, dewan
ceramah, concern, etc.
48. Kenapa Mutaba’ah?
Ia adalah rukun ketiga kerananya
hendaklah sebahagian kamu memikul
beban sebahagian yang lain. Demikian
itulah intipati konkrit iman dan intisari
ukhuwwah. Hendaklah kamu sentiasa
bertanya sebahagian yang lain
mengenai kehidupannya dan
bersegeralah memberikan bantuan
apabila diperlukan. (Majmu’atur Rasail)