Relationships and Facebook

1. .

2. Facebook has “ruined” numerous aspects
of relationships and dating.

3. “How we portray our relationships on Facebook is telling
and shouldn’t be dismissed or seen as trivial.”

4. “At each stage of a relationship, even before it really begins
and when it needs to end, Facebook has created a whole new
slew of obstacles and awkward conversations that previously
didn’t exist for people in the dreadful world of dating.”

5. This begins with “Facebook stalk[ing] ‘to reduce some of the
uncertainty in relationships.’”

6. “But the uncertainty can sometimes be the most exciting part, and if
said person-of-affection manages to pass a thorough stalking, you can
probably forget any of that pre-date giddiness.”
“Goodbye butterflies and excitement, I already know everything about
you.”

7. “For couples that get passed this weird knowing someone on
Facebook before knowing them in real life, Facebook has
created new hurdles for those just getting started.”

8. These hurdles include that “there’s less structure for people
today as relationships develop.”

9. For example, “kinds of social courtship scripts don’t exist
on Facebook.”

10. Additionally, “Couples [are]
struggling with their
identity on Facebook.”

11. “On Facebook,
relationships have
to fit into a pull
down menu of a
few options –
it’s one of the only
places on Facebook
where you can’t fill
in the blank.”

12. “These check-a-box decisions
weren’t things couples, or anyone for
that matter, had to worry about
before Facebook.”

13. Every aspect of a relationship is public on Facebook…
..including breakups!

14. Facebook “made it more difficult to end relationships
and move on.”

15. “People feel more pressure from friends and family to stay
together when they have their partner in profile picture and
relationship status.”

16. “Seem[s] like the decision to display those
PDFAs in the first place –
the ones that demonstrate how
committed couples are –
might not always be the best choice.”

17. “Once you finally manage to sever offline ties, there’s really no
way to avoid virtual run-ins with your ex unless you’re off of
Facebook entirely.”
“Your online social lives are so entangled.”

18. “Before Facebook, ending a relationship actually meant the end
of communication, for the most part.
Not Anymore.”

19. “Facebook gives them automatic window into an ex’s
relationship” – Rhoades

20. There are many negative effects that transpire subsequent to
a breakup,
these effects are exaggerated with Facebook.

21. “Sustained contact is detrimental, in terms of ones own functioning.”

22. “Remaining Facebook friends with an ex delayed emotional
recovery and led to greater distress over the breakup, negative
feelings, sexual desire and longing for the ex-partner.”

23. “People who remained
Facebook friends and those
who engaged in more
Facebook stalking were
stuck on the past
relationship.”

24. Relationships on Facebook and other digital media in the
future?
Facebook and other digital media are real life now.

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