The document discusses relationship trends in modern society and the importance of commitment. It notes that the nuclear family is no longer the norm and many singles are settling for irregular relationships without commitment. However, irregular relationships do not provide long-term benefits or vitality compared to committed relationships. The document encourages committing to improve oneself and one's relationship through addressing insecurities and issues.

2. 1. We are long past the day when everybody grew up in a nuclear family

3. 1. We are long past the day when everybody grew up in a nuclear family 2. Many singles in our society are settling for irregular relationships

4. 1. We are long past the day when everybody grew up in a nuclear family 2. Many singles in our society are settling for irregular relationships 3. Many of the families in the Bible were actually irregular relationships

6. Irregular relationships means getting benefits without the commitment.

7. Nothing works against the long-term vitality of any relationship like a lack of commitment. Matthew 19:8 Moses because of the hardness of your hearts suffered you to put away your wives: but from the beginning it was not so.

8. Commitment is really about our willingness to face our own insecurities and fix our own issues.

9. Relationships are always made from two imperfect people whose ability to commit to each other is an indicator of their maturity and motivation to heal their own insecurities and manage their own issues.

10. Family is not destiny, but it is definitely identity until you act like who you are in Jesus Christ.

11. We can never get our horizontal relationships straight with people till we first get our vertical relationship right with God.

13. 1. Be involved in ministry, 1-6 2. Be aware of chemistry, 9-11

14. Attraction is important and the things that will attract you are the things closest to your heart.

15. 1. Be involved in ministry, 1-6 2. Be aware of chemistry, 9-11 3. Be cognizant of compatibility

16. 1. Be involved in ministry, 1-6 2. Be aware of chemistry, 9-11 3. Be cognizant of compatibility 4. Be careful with communication, 7-11

17. 1. Be involved in ministry, 1-6 2. Be aware of chemistry, 9-11 3. Be cognizant of compatibility 4. Be careful with communication, 7-11 5. Become content within a covenant, 12-13ff

18. Avoid irregular relationships, because a righteous relationship is worth wishing for, worth working for and worth waiting for.