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1. 101 Common Mistakes Women
Make That Sabotage Their Careers
by Lois P. Frankel
Presented by Ana Dison
2. Student Success Director (Senior Program
Coordinator) in the Women in Engineering
Program
Currently work with all current engineering
women, focusing on persistence, student
success, leadership and career development
15+ years full time at UT in a variety of roles
Presented „version 1.0‟ at ACA in 2007 and
2009, highlighting 14 mistakes
3. 1. Most people describe me as professional.
2. I have the reputation of being credible.
3. I am know for being assertive.
4. I have been told I am capable.
5. When I speak, others get the idea I am intelligent.
6. I am comfortable with being direct.
7. My way of speaking causes other to describe me
as articulate.
8. I would say when it comes to the workplace, I am
politically astute.
9. My middle name is self-confident.
10. My actions illuminate that I know how to self-
market.
4. Equal Pay & the Gender Gap
Women still only make about 78% of what
men are paid
For women of color, the gap is significantly
wider
5. How You:
◦Play the Game
◦Act
◦Think
◦Brand & Market Yourself
◦Sound
◦Look
◦Respond
6. 1. Pretending It isn‟t a Game
2. Playing the Game Safely and within Bounds
3. Working Hard
4. Doing the Work of Others
5. Working Without a Break
6. Being Naïve
7. Pinching Company Pennies
8. Waiting to Be Given What you Want
9. Avoiding Office Politics
10. Being the Conscience
11. Protecting Jerks
12. Holding Your Tongue
13. Failing to Capitalize on Relationships
14. Not Understanding the Needs of Your Constituents
7. Discussion Topics
Women have the tendency to take
responsibility for not only our own work but
also the work of others
If you answer, “Well, if I don‟t do it, no one
else will” you will be doing it for a LONG
time
While women are doing the grunt work,
men are building their careers
Promotions are rewards for getting the job
done, not necessarily doing the job
8. Coaching Tips
Stop volunteering for low-profile, low-impact
assignments
Recognize when people delegate inappropriately
to you
◦ “You know, I‟d love to help you out with this but I‟m
just swamped”
Don‟t let people delegate up
Use self-talk to replace feeling guilty about
saying no
◦ “I don‟t have to feel guilty about seeing that my needs
are met”
9. Discussion Topics
Taking people at face value, seeing the
good in people
This characteristic is refreshing to see in
our students/young people
In more seasoned people (like ourselves), it
is seen as an inability to read a situation
10. Coaching Tips
If something doesn‟t make sense, ask for an
explanation; if someone downplays your need
for an explanation, BE SUSPICIOUS
Solicit input from several reliable sources
Think about what a person‟s motives might be
If you don‟t think people have motives…we should talk more later
Trust your instincts
11. Discussion Topics
Men rely on relationships to open doors for
them
Difference between name-dropping and
using a relationship to help open a door
Not guilt by association; success by
affiliation
Connect the dots among people in your
network
12. Coaching Tips
Ask for introductions
Introduce people with like interests or
needs (model the behavior)
Ask for referrals
Ask to use a colleague‟s name; if offered,
USE IT!
◦ “I heard you mention XX name in past
conversations. I‟m trying to schedule a meeting
with her and wonder if it would be alright to
mention that I know you?”
13. 15. Polling Before Making a Decision
16. Needing to Be Liked
17. Not Needing to Be Liked
18. Not Asking Questions for Fear of Sounding Stupid
19. Acting Like a Man
20. Telling the Whole Truth and Nothing but the Truth
21. Sharing Too Much Personal Information
22. Being Overly Concerned with Offending Others
23. Denying the Importance of Money
24. Flirting
25. Acquiescing to Bullies
26. Decorating Your Office Like Your Living Room
27. Feeding Others
28. Offering a Limp Handshake
29. Being Financially Insecure
30. Helping
14. Discussion Topics
Telling the truth to an inappropriate degree
Most people really don‟t care about the
intimate details of your personal life
Things you share can be used against you
later…like not dealing well with stress may
prevent you from getting an assignment in
the future
15. Coaching Tips
Be selective about the personal information you
share and with whom you share it
It can backfire into appearing too secretive or
dishonest…sharing appropriate amounts enable
others to see the human side of you
Use “I have an appointment/meeting/commitment”
vs. explaining the dirty details
Be honest but be brief
◦ “I‟m going through a rough time right now but my job is
important to me. I‟ll work on paying closer attention to the
details.”
16. Discussion Topics
Women frequently want to create a warm,
comfortable setting
Creating a home like workspace can work
against you
Balance between a space that has nothing
(too cold) and a space that has too much
Emphasizing your femininity can diminish
credibility
17. Coaching Tips
Décor should be consistent with the culture you
work in
Tasteful and understated
Choose accessories that reflect your personality
without overly emphasizing the feminine side of
you
Keep your visible work space neat and clean;
conveys the impression of being organized and on
top of things
18. Discussion Topics
It‟s part of that first impression and says
something about you before opening your
mouth
You do want your handshake to convey the
message,
◦ “I‟m someone to be taken seriously.”
Don‟t forget solid eye contact
19. Coaching Tips
Let‟s practice with your neighbor!
V to V
Offer your hand first; it‟s a sign of
confidence
20. 31. Making Miracles
32. Taking Full Responsibility
33. Obediently Following Instructions
34. Viewing Men in Authority as Father Figures
35. Limiting Your Possibilities
36. Ignoring the Quid Pro Quo
37. Skipping Meetings
38. Putting Work Ahead of Your Personal Life
39. Letting People Waste Your Time
40. Prematurely Abandoning Your Career Goals
41. Ignoring the Importance of Network Relationships
42. Refusing Perks
43. Making Up Negative Stories
44. Striving for Perfection
21. Discussion Topics
Lose the notion that meetings are supposed
to be valuable, interesting or worth your
time
See Mistake #6 (Being Naïve)
Lose the inclination to stay at your desk and
work all the time
Meetings are to see and be seen, to
network, to show and tell
22. Coaching Tips
Don‟t skip meetings
USE meetings to showcase, network, build
relationships
Figure out a way to be included, invited
Offer to present
23. Discussion Topics
Go Ahead-Waste My Day…Do I have this
written on my forehead?
Your time is one of the most precious
commodities you have...once it‟s gone, you
never get it back
Biggest time waster for women…wanting to
please everyone and not be able to say no
24. Coaching Tips
Differentiate when people NEED to talk verses
when the WANT to talk
Repeat after me:
◦ “You know, I would love to talk more but I‟m on a
tight schedule today. How about if we continue this
conversation tomorrow?”
Use tricks of time management, like keeping
a (neat) pile of papers on the extra chairs in
your office; not putting your pencil down
when someone walks in; answering your
phone, voice mail, email only during certain
times of the day
25. Discussion Topics
Common with our female students
We go there when we feel insecure or less
than competent (imposter syndrome)
Limits you personally and professionally if
you are known as someone that can‟t let go
of the small stuff
26. Coaching Tips
Ask for feedback
Relinquish the need to be seen as perfect and
settle for being human
Ask yourself
◦ “Is this a valuable use of my time?”
27. 45. Failing to Define Your Brand
46. Minimizing Your Work or Position
47. Using Only Your Nickname or First Name
48. Waiting to Be Noticed
49. Refusing High Profile Assignments
50. Being Modest
51. Staying in Your Safety Zone
52. Giving Away Your Ideas
53. Working in Stereotypical Roles or Departments
54. Ignoring Feedback
55. Being Invisible
28. Discussion Topics
Call attention to the ways your strengths
play to the requirements of the work
Sell yourself
Don‟t be modest
Forget the notion that all your hard work
will get noticed
See #6 again
29. Coaching Tips
Talk about opportunities out loud and make
your wishes known
Let people know you are ready for the next
challenge
Continually showcase your achievements in
subtle ways – monthly accomplishment
reports, best practices
30. Discussion Topics
Giving away ideas erodes your self-respect,
self-confidence
Find ways to SELL your ideas
Don‟t whisper your ideas
Don‟t be afraid of appear selfish, territorial,
etc.
31. Coaching Tips
Take a risk and voice your idea
Speak loudly enough to be heard
If someone proposed the same thing you did,
say something like…
◦ “It sounds like you‟re building on my original
suggestion and I would certainly support that.”
Get in the habit of asking a question after
expressing an idea…
◦ “My recommendation is to implement…. Are there
any objections to getting to work on this
immediately?”
32. Discussion Topics
Take the lead
It‟s ok to be in the spotlight
Volunteer to present
Market your brand (yourself)
33. Coaching Tips
Submit a proposal to present at a conference
Write articles
Seize the opportunity to present to managers
Voice your ideas
Stand for office and get involved
34. 56. Couching Statements as Questions
57. Using Preambles
58. Explaining
59. Asking Permission
60. Apologizing
61. Using Minimizing Words
62. Using Qualifiers
63. Not Answering the Question
64. Talking Too Fast
65. The Inability to Speak the Language of Your Business
66. Using Non-words
67. Using Touchy-Feely Language
68. The Sandwich
69. Speaking Softly
70. Speaking at a Higher-than-Natural Pitch
71. Trailing Voice Mails
72. Failing to Pause or Reflect Before Responding
35. Discussion Topics
Examples:
◦ “What would you think if we…?”
◦ “Have you considered…?”
Often used to avoid sounding too direct or
too pushy
By asking a question rather than making a
statement, we relinquish ownership of it
and the outcomes for our ideas
36. Coaching Tips
Start making statements
Save questions for those times you
legitimately need information or are
interested in someone‟s opinion
Put ideas out in the affirmative
Add “I‟m interested in your thoughts”
37. Discussion Topics
Counterpoint to the preamble
Undermines the point made
Used in fear of having not been complete or
thorough enough – to be “perfect” we keep on
talking
Done in an effort to get feedback
Done to overcompensate for insecurity
38. Coaching Tips
Shorten explanations by 50-75 percent
Once you‟ve gotten to your point, follow up
with no more than 2 or 3 pieces of
supporting information…then stop
Resist the internal message that says,
“incomplete”
39. Discussion Topics
Variation on asking questions to play it safe
Diminishes stature and relegates one to the
position of a child
Less likely to be viewed as a confident risk
taker
You are entitled to take independent action
within a given set of boundaries
40. Coaching Tips
Inform others of your intentions; don‟t ask
for permission
Assume equality
Assume that if people have a problem with
what you‟re saying, they‟ll let you know
If using affirmative declarations is difficult,
soften your message with a follow-up phrase
41. 73. Smiling Inappropriately
74. Taking Up too Little Space
75. Using Gestures Inconsistent with Your Message
76. Being Over or Under Animated
77. Tilting Your Head
78. Wearing Inappropriate Makeup
79. Wearing the Wrong Hairstyle
80. Dressing Inappropriately
81. Sitting on Your Foot
82. Grooming In Public
83. Sitting in Meetings with Your Hands under the Table
84. Wearing Your Reading Glasses Around Your Neck
85. Accessorizing Too Much
86. Failing to Maintain Eye Contact
42. Discussion Topics
Have you ever seen a man do this? Ever? In
a meeting?
Conveys the impression of being a little girl
rather than a professional woman
It may be cute, but it‟s not professional
43. Coaching Tips
It‟s a simple fix: sit with both feet on the
ground, knees together
PAY ATTENTION to your body language;
being “grounded” requires both feet on the
ground
44. Discussion Topics
Meetings are not the same as the dinner
table
Observe how men sit at the meeting table
How do you sit? Where are your hands?
Elbows? Feet? See #81
45. Coaching Tips
Lean forward slightly (this shows interest)
resting your forearms on the table with hand
lightly clasped
Bonus Tips:
When possible, choose your seat next to the
most powerful person in the room
Don‟t be afraid to sit at the head of the table
46. 87. Internalizing Messages
88. Believing Others Know More than You
89. Taking Notes, Getting Coffee, and Making Copies
90. Tolerating Inappropriate Behavior
91. Exhibiting Too Much Patience
92. Accepting Dead-End Assignments
93. Putting the Needs of Others Before Your Own
94. Denying Your Power
95. Allowing Yourself to Be the Scapegoat
96. Accepting the Fait Accompli
97. Permitting Others‟ Mistakes to Inconvenience You
98. Being the Last to Speak
99. Playing the Gender Card
100. Tolerating Sexual Harassment
101. Crying
47. Discussion Topics
Frequently find ourselves in positions where our
needs come second
Taking care of children, parents, spouses
Do you do anything to perpetuate this?
In the workplace, this manifests when there are
limited funds, perks or opportunities
We want to play fair, be kind
We lower our expectations
Can you see a male colleague doing this?
48. Coaching Tips
Know what you want, by asking/reflecting
frequently
Stop each DAY and spend 20-30 minutes doing
something for YOURSELF
Learn to negotiate; people who ask for more,
get more
Avoid giving in because it‟s easier or you don‟t
want to make waves
You are NOT being selfish to have your needs
met
Make sure you have a life OUTSIDE of work
49. Discussion Topics
Those who speak early and often are seen as
more credible, greater risk takers, and
possessing more leadership potential than those
who speak later
The longer you wait to speak, the more likely it
is that someone else will say what you‟re
thinking – and get credit for it
50. Coaching Tips
In a group, be among the first two or three
people to speak and speak every ten to
fifteen minutes thereafter
If you can‟t be among the first to speak,
make sure you are not the last
You don‟t always have to give an opinion
when you speak