Happiness for when you are angry. Tips and practices for working with your anger for happiness and wellbeing for you and others.

1. Happiness
for when you are angry

2. When all the happiness lessons don’t help…

3. Anger
happens
at all ages,
from the
very
young to
the very
old.

4. Rage, quick to anger or a short fuse. Resentful feelings that won’t
go away. Blame.
Grumpy, discontent, unable to find pleasure in anything.
Self-hatred, not caring about self, destructive or risky actions
Critical of everything and unable to find satisfaction anywhere.
Strong feelings of being right or self-righteousness.
Self justification. Stubbornness. Refusal to listen to another
perspective.
Urgently solving the problem. Taking action to “fix” things.
& other ways…
Anger has many forms

5. Sometimes anger is part of the
grief process.
It’s important
to feel your
feelings.

6. Anger suppressed
becomes depression
and that dead feeling
inside.
When you can’t
talk about your
anger, you feel
like your feelings
don’t matter.
Suppressed anger
can come out as
suicidal thoughts.

7. It is
important
to talk
about
what
makes you
angry.

8. If you need to act strongly to express your anger, then act
out your anger in a safe place and way for everybody
concerned without hurting or damaging anything.
Punch a pillow, slam a door or bang pots and pans.
Get in your parked car or a room where no one can hear you
and scream words and sounds.
Stomp walk, work out really hard or play music loud and dance.
Hammer a piece of wood as hard as you can, tear up scrap
paper or destroy something that is symbolic and not valuable.

9. An angry
act versus
an act you
take
because of
your anger
are not
the same
thing.

10. When you express your
anger, take care not to
escalate the situation and
create a cycle of pain and
suffering.

11. And…
if your angry act (this includes
words) has hurt someone,
including yourself, never be
afraid to say you are sorry.

12. Saying your
sorry is not the
same as giving
an
explanation.

13. Expressing anger
often starts with
expletives and
swearing.
Talk about your
anger until you
can explain it
fully and calmly.

14. Talk about your anger until
you get to the point that you
understand why you are
angry.

15. If talking is hard to do,
write it down first.

16. Once you fully understand
your anger, you can start to
rethink it.

17. When you are
angry, it is generally
for a reason.
Think about what it
is you are angry
about.

18. You may be
angry about
something you
expected to
happen but did
not, or
something that
happened that
you did not
expect.
Take time to
look back on
the situation
and rethink it.

19. Anger can tell you what you
should do.
Anger can point the way.
But talk it through until you can
make considered and wise
decisions.

20. To sum up:
Safely express your anger.
Apologize if you have hurt someone.
Talk about your anger.
Understand your anger.
Rethink your anger.
Use your understanding of why you are
angry to point the way to wiser, better
actions for happiness for you and others.