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Discussing Difficult Issues
1. Supporting Grieving YouthSupporting Grieving Youth
Sara Torres, MA, Bilingual Program & Outreach
Coordinator
Julianne O Keefe, MSW, MPA, Program & Outreach
Coordinator
2. Examples of LossesExamples of Losses
§ Death
§ Incarceration
§ Deployment
§ Illness/Injury
§ Divorce/separation
§ Move
§ Foster care
§ Loss of job
§ Abuse/neglect
§ Exposure to
violence
3. Effects of Unresolved GriefEffects of Unresolved Grief
§ Poor school
performance
§ Sleep difficulties
§ Physical illness
§ Mental Illness
§ Alcohol and drug
abuse
§ Behavior problems
§ Sexual promiscuity
§ Illegal behavior
4. Ted E. Bear Hollow ServicesTed E. Bear Hollow Services
Free grief support services following significant
death or during serious illness/injury
Age-appropriate programs for children ages 3-18
and adults
Various causes of death
Peer support model rather than therapy
Facilitated by volunteers who complete a 20-hour
training
5. Ted E. Bear Hollow ProgramsTed E. Bear Hollow Programs
Support Groups
Monthly
8-Session
Day Camps
KidsKamp
Tinsel & Tears
Teen Programs
Camp Hope: A Retreat for Grieving Teens
Adult Programs
Adults Helping Adults (AHA)
Library Program
CARE: Serious Illness/Injury
8. Adult Grief vs. Child GriefAdult Grief vs. Child Grief
Children grieve more sporadically than adults
Children are more capable than adults of
putting grief aside
Children do not have to deal with the many
reminders as do adults
Children grieve through each developmental
stage
9. Developmental Age Common Grief
Reactions
How to Support
Preschool (3 to 5 years)
Reverts back to former
behaviors
Thinks death is temporary
Plays death
Use concrete language
Explain in honest, clear
terms
Encourage play
10. Developmental Age Common Grief
Reactions
How to Support
Elementary (6 to 9 years)
Understands permanence
of death
Connects that death can
happen to others
Experiences guilt
Listen: let them do the
talking
Reassure them that their
feelings are normal and it
wasn t their fault
Foster creative expression
11. Developmental Age Common Grief
Reactions
How to Support
Preteens (10 to 12 years)
Acting out
Feelings of anger and
unfaired against
Fears of being different,
abandonment, and own
mortality
Encourage healthy ways of
expressing their feelings
Use rituals to provide
structure and normalcy
Provide details as desired
12. Developmental Age Common Grief
Reactions
How to Support
Teens (13 to 18 years)
Spiritual & philosophical
reflection
Increased reliance on
peers
Search for identity
Provide unconditional,
nonjudgmental support
Teach and model healthy
coping skills
Respect need for private
time
14. Why is this important?Why is this important?
FEELINGS
sadness, anger, guilt,
anxiety, loneliness,
shock, relief, despair
THOUGHT
PATTERNS
disbelief, confusion,
worry, low self-esteem,
lack of concentration
PHYSICAL
SYMPTOMS
nausea, fatigue,
headaches, rapid
heartbeat, decreased
resistance to illness
BEHAVIORS
trouble sleeping,
crying, appetite
change, avoidance,
irritability, social
withdrawal
15. CompanioningCompanioning
Alan Wolfelt, Ph.D.
Honoring the spirit
Curiosity
Learning from others
Walking alongside
Being still
Discovering the gifts of sacred silence
Listening with the heart
Bearing witness to struggles of others
Being present to another person s pain
Respecting disorder and confusion
Going to the wilderness of the soul
with another human being
Focusing on the intellect
Expertise
Teaching others
Leading
Frantic movement forward
Filling every painful moment with
words
Analyzing with the head
Directing the struggles of others
Taking away the pain
Imposing order and logic
Thinking you are responsible for
finding the way out
Companioning
Treating
16. TED E. BEAR TIPSTED E. BEAR TIPS
T Tell the truth
E Explain concretely
D Don t deny
E Expect many emotions
B Be all ears
E Encourage play
A Allow choices
R Routine
