Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood® is the propensity for paying attention to others' thoughts and sentiments. Seeing things from their viewpoints is difficult. I pay attention to others without intruding. It's tied in with being certain about voicing your thoughts.
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5th HABIT.pptx
1. Habit 5: Seek First to
Understand, then to be
understood
(Zia ur Rehman)
2. Seven Habits Of Highly
Effective People.
(By Stephen R.Covey)
3. Be Proactive
Begin with the End in Mind
Put First Things First
Think Win-Win
Seek First to Understand, Then to
Be Understood
Synergize
Sharpen the Saw
7. LISTENING
Listening requires entering actively and imaginatively
into the other fellows situation and trying to
understand a frame of reference different from your
own.
9. Types Of Poor Listening
Spacing
Out
Pretend
Listening
Selective
Listening
Word
Listening
Self
centered
Listening
10. Spacing out
When you ignore someone .Not listen with
attention what the other person is saying.
11. Pretend Listening
When you ignore someone, not listen with full attention but
respond as hearing or listening that person by using words
like “cool”, “yeah”.
15. Empathetic Listening
is paying attention to another person with empathy
(emotional identification, compassion, feeling, insight).
Empathic listening is a way of listening and
responding to another person that improves mutual
understanding and trust.
20. Empathetic Listening
Empathetic listening is when you actually try to listen
to what the person is saying and take it to heart.
o Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears.
o Stand in their shoes.
o Practice mirroring.
22. Builds trust and respect.
Enables the disputants to release their
emotions.
Reduces tensions.
Encourages the surfacing of information.
Creates a safe environment that is conducive to
collaborative problem solving.
THE BENEFITS OF EMPATHIC LISTENING
23.
24. Practice Mirroring
Think like a mirror that doesn’t judge, but instead
reflect.
Mirroring doesn’t mean you repeat exactly what
they say.
Mirroring is repeating the meaning with
affections.
25. Example
An effective sales person first seeks to understand
the needs, the concerns, the situation of the
customer. The professionals learn how to diagnose,
how to understand. He also learns how to relate
people’s needs to his products and services. As in
order to influence, you need to be influenced.
26. • we either agree or disagree
We
evaluate
• we ask questions from
our own frame of
reference
We probe
• we give counsel based on
our own experience
We advice
• we try to figure people out, to explain
their motives, their behavior, based on
our own motives and behavior.
We
interpret
27. 1st stage
This is the skill taught in "active" or "reflective" listening
.You just listen to the words that come out of someone's
mouth and you repeat them. You're hardly even using your
brain at all
"Boy, Dad, I've had it! School is for the birds!"
"You've had it. You think school is for the birds.“
You haven't evaluated or probed or advised or interpreted.
You've at least showed you're paying attention to his
words. But to understand, you want to do more.
28. 2nd stage
The second stage of empathic listening is to rephrase the
content. It's a little more effective, but it’s still limited to
the verbal communication
"Boy, Dad, I've had it! School is for the birds!"
"You don't want to go to school anymore.“
This time, you've put his meaning into your own words.
Now you're thinking about what he said, mostly with the
left side, the reasoning, logical side of the brain.
29. 3rd stage
The third stage brings your right brain into
operation. You reflect feeling.
"Boy, Dad, I've had it! School is for the birds!"
"You're feeling really frustrated.“
Now you're not paying as much attention to
what he's saying as you are to the way he feels
about what he's saying.
30. 4th stage
The fourth stage includes both the second and the third.
You rephrase the content
And reflect the feeling.
"Boy, Dad, I've had it! School is for the birds!"
"You're really frustrated about school."
Frustration is the feeling; school is the content. You're
using both sides of your brain to understand both sides of
his communication.
31. Then seek to be understood
Three words are effective in making effective
presentation:
Ethos: This has to do with the person’s credibility and
accountability
Pathos: This is a means of persuasion that appeals to
the empathic side or emotions of the audience.
Logos: It is a means of persuasion by demonstration of
logical proof real or apparent.
32. Seek to Be Understood
Seeking First to Understand is only half of habit 5.
Seeking to Be Understood is way more challenging
since it require courage.
If you can understand other, then other will surely
understand you too.