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Loving your children forms the basis of the self-esteem that they will later develop within
themselves. However, loving your children may not always be enough. You need to be aware of
certain parenting techniques that help your children grow up with high self-esteem.
1. Show your children that it is ok to express emotions.
You do this by listening in an accepting manner to your children's emotions (positive and negative)
and by dealing with your own emotions in appropriate ways. Don't suppress your emotions but
make sure that your children do not feel responsible for your negative feelings. If you do not show
your children that it is ok to have emotions, they will grow up suppressing their emotions or dealing
with them in unhealthy manners and this is not good for their self-esteem. To develop high self-
esteem, children need to learn that having negative emotions doesn't make them bad people.
2. Show your children that it is ok to say no.
Saying no is important for respecting yourself and keeping your self-esteem high. People with low
self-esteem who do not respect themselves agree to do whatever others ask them to do or what
they believe that others expect them to do instead of caring for their own personal needs. To teach
your children to say no you need to listen to them when they say no (although you may still stay
firm on making them do what you have asked them to do) and you need to say no in a clear good
way yourself. Children learn by imitation. If you are good at saying no, your children will learn to
respect themselves in the same way as well.
3. Show your children that it is ok to make mistakes.
All successful people make mistakes. The greater your goal, the more mistakes you will have to
make before you finally achieve it. If you make your children afraid of making mistakes by scolding
them or getting angry when they fail, they will never dare to set big goals for themselves. Set a
good example by admitting and learning from your own mistakes.
4. Show your children that it is ok to want more.
To become successful in life you need to know what you want and keep the flame of desire
burning until you reach your goals. People with low self-esteem do not dare to want anything
because they do not believe that they deserve it. When your children want something, listen to
them although you may have to explain to them that they cannot have what they want when they
want it. Show your own desires as a good role model of a person with high self-esteem.
5. Trust your children
When you show your children that you believe in their capability to successfully achieve what they
are trying to achieve, you make them believe the same thing about themselves. Your trust in them
helps them to develop self-confidence (which is an important part of self-esteem).
2. 6. Focus on your children's positive behaviour rather than their negative behaviour.
If you punish your children or get upset when they misbehave they learn that they are not good
enough. Low self-esteem will follow. If you instead give them lots of compliments for their good
behaviours they will learn that they are good lovable people. They will develop high self-esteem
and a desire to become even better.
Liv Miyagawa - The Self-Esteem Coach
Self-Esteem Coach, Liv Miyagawa, helps people who want high self-esteem. Apart from through
personal self-esteem coaching, Liv Miyagawa can help you to raise your self-esteem through
group coaching, self-esteem distance courses, home study materials and other self-esteem
resources. She is also the author of The Self-Esteem Toolbox, a book full of self-esteem exercises
to boost your self-esteem. Raise your self-esteem
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