Self Esteem

1. TIPS ON DEVELOPING
TRUE SELF WORTH

2. A lot of people present self
esteem development as simply being a
matter of doing nice things for
yourself.

5. But what is real
self esteem?

7. TRUE SELF ESTEEM
True self esteem comes from hard work and
challenging yourself. Persevering through
difficulties, facing fears, overcoming
challenges, making difficult choices and
changes.

9. HERE ARE 9 WAYS TO
DO THAT.

10. FINDING MEANING
 Human beings are social creatures.
 We live in and are affected by the society which surrounds us.
 To truly feel good about ourselves we have to feel part of our
community in some way.
 We need to feel that we are making a contribution. The way in which
one does this is unique to every individual.
 But connecting to and participating in something bigger than yourself
contributes greatly to your own sense of self worth.

11. Find a meaning. Find a cause. Find
something which is important to you
and create it, build it, defend it.

13. Art, Music, Dance, Humanitarianism

14. SELF CARE
 Developing good self care techniques is necessary not only
for developing self esteem, but for maintaining good mental
and physical health.
 But good self care is not simply a matter of being “nice” to
yourself. Sometimes it requires making some tough choices;
i.e. changing your diet, starting an exercise regimen, managing
your personal hygiene better

16. SELF TALK
 Pay attention to how you talk to yourself.
 If you are delivering a constant stream of name-
calling, put downs, insults or negative language to
yourself it’s almost impossible to have a good sense
of self esteem.
 Developing healthy and appropriate self talk is
almost as important as developing good self care.

18. C H O O S E YO U R H E RO E S
C A R E F U L LY
Don’t let the television determine who your mentors are.
Think for yourself and make your own choices.
but are they really people we want to learn about life from?

19. Aimee Mullins
“Aimee, so what if your leg falls off? You pick it up, you put the
thing back on and you finish the race.”

20. C H O O S E YO U R
R E L A T I O N S H I P S C A R E F U L LY
Choose your family
 Yes, you can choose whether or not to have a relationship with
family members.
 Just because you are blood kin does not mean you have to
allow yourself to be in unhealthy relationships with them.
 If you have a family member who is demeaning or abusive
consider what keeps you in a relationship with them. You may
need to make some tough choices.

22. Choose your friends
 If you surround yourself with negative, hypercritical friends this cannot help
your self esteem.
 A friend is someone who will give you honest feedback when you ask for it,
but do it with compassion and kindness. They tell you the truth, but they don’t
attack or belittle you. They don’t bring you down, just keep you real.
 Look at who you spend the most time with and how your interactions with
them affect you.
 You might need to make some changes.

26. Choose your partners
 If you chose to go in a relationship…when you are
ready. We don’t want one that is unhealthy, you may need
to take some time to work on it and make a clear decision
to leave.
 You cannot lift your self esteem while being belittled
on a daily basis.
 Many people stay in relationships which are unhealthy
out of a fear of being alone. It may be necessary to turn
and face this fear before you can feel better about yourself.

27. FIND YOUR PASSION
 If you haven’t found what excites you, explore.
 We spend an awful lot of our lives working.
 If your work is not your passion, if it is only for the money, grades, status,
if it is only because your family expects it of you - think again.
 Work that is depressing or unfulfilling sucks an awful lot of energy out of
your life. Choose carefully. Change if you need to.

30. S TO P D R E S S I N G F O R S U C C E S S
A N D D R E S S TO E X P R E S S
 Express yourself.
 Don’t wear what other people think you should. Wear what is
comfortable. Wear what you feel good in. Wear things that express
who you are as a person.
 If you live in a situation where you are not free to express who you
really are, you may need to make some different choices.
 Living a lie, maintaining a facade everyday also sucks a lot of energy
and reinforces in your mind that you are not “O.K.”

32. CHALLENGE YOURSELF
 If there is something in your life which is plaguing you, grab it by the horns and
change it.
 Gain better control and it makes you feel more mature and self confident.
 If there is some behaviour which bothers you, i.e. procrastination, money
management, being on time, being better organized, etc. tackle it. Getting a handle
on something which has been handling you will increase your self esteem and make
your life more manageable.

34. FACE A FEAR
 So often we are taught to run from or medicate our fears.
 This may work in the short term, but it doesn’t develop self esteem.
 Self esteem comes from overcoming something, from fighting your way
through to the other side and knowing you beat it.
 Be sensible about the fear you choose to overcome and be reasonable in how
you choose to overcome it, but try it and see if you don’t stand a little taller.