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Overthinking
How to Stop Worrying, Overcome Anxiety and Eliminate all
Negative Thinking
BY: Jonathan Lee Mindset Editions

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Table Of Content
Introduction
What Is Overthinking?
Overcoming Overthinking In A Relationship
Mental Decluttering And Its Causes
Important Steps In Decluttering Negative Thoughts
Reframing Your Negative Thoughts
Essential Strategies In Improving Your Relationship
Health Importance Of Mindfulness Meditation
Why Good Sleep Is So Important
Creating Passion To Enhance Your Life Goals
Overcoming Negative Emotional Attachments
Overcoming Negative Thinking In Relationship
Conclusion
Bonus: 12 Reasons Why Overthinking Kills Your Happiness
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INTRODUCTION
any people over-analyze and dismiss all aspects of life, whether it is
their work, relationships, lack of achievement or constant stress.
All of these struggles seem unavoidable in a normal life, and if you look
around, people seem to recognize that life, stress and negativity are always
linked, even in the best scenarios.
Forging healthy habits such as meditation on consciousness, positive
intercourse and proper sleep will carry you to a place where bad habits are
missed. From toxic ties to a cluttered living space, eliminating what keeps
you off will give way to a new person, ready to face life's challenges with a
mind full of positive ideas and concrete goals. I hope you can come to realize
your full potential without feeling like overthinking, by working every day to
develop better habits. You should take back control!
There are a lot of books on the market about this subject, thank you again for
choosing this one! All efforts have been made to ensure that there is as much
detail as possible. Please enjoy!

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CHAPTER 1
What Is Overthinking?
s a friend, manager or a loved one, how many times have you uttered the
words "stop thinking about it?" Maybe it was addressed to you in the past
and you answered something such as, “I'm not sure what you mean,” or
“I don't know if you're thinking enough of it.”
A couple of times, communication is one of the main factors of interpersonal
misunderstandings.
We say one thing, but in a different way it's understood. This complication is
enhanced by the habit of overthinking, which simply takes and processes
more information than is necessary to complete a particular task or to identify
a problem.
If we gather much greater information than is necessary, whether it is so easy
to pick the right bond or decide whether or not to break up with that new
boyfriend, we are guilty of overthinking and often make the task a lot harder
for ourselves than it needs to be.
All these thoughts in your brain makes even the simplest tasks difficult as
distraction is almost impossible to avoid. Overthinking can lead to an
emotionally unhealthy way of thinking, where you start thinking negatively
about yourself, your loved ones or even the world. Too much negativity and
anxiety in your mind will block any possibility of positive thinking or finding
a way to be a more positive and productive individual.
I'm excited to take you on this trip, and I know you're going to learn many
things about yourself as a human. The simple fact that you have received
assistance from this book is an important first step. Many people live their
entire lives with the confusion that goes on in their minds as they try to find a
comfortable existence.
But we're moving far beyond that. We must lose this old chaotic mentality
and find the way to clarity. The title of this book refers to finding a way
through the noise inside your head, but we won't just go easy and go through

the chaos.
Many people are very skilled in something called "compartmentalization,"
where people carefully stock different thinking processes in different parts of
their brains and train to neglect one thing, while concentrating on another, in
order to cope with many sources of stress, concern and overthinking.
This is experienced after a trauma by many men and women. To stop the
sadness, they concentrate on something positive, like their work, and not on
the suffering.
Compartmentalization is an avoidance of the issue and while it can be
beneficial in traumatic experiences, if we are to get through it, it is vital that
we discuss what happens in our minds. So, let's get started if you're ready!
What Causes Overthinking?
There are many causes for rethinking; many catalysts cause bad thinking that
can lead to anxiety and needless concern. Such feelings are not pleasant and
what might seem like being cautious and thoughtful can quickly become
much more dangerous and negative. However, at some point in our lives we
all felt anxiety.
I recall when I was a kid my mother would leave the building really early in
the morning and go to work at the post office and I would wake up just as she
walked out of the entrance door and feel the overwhelming need to get at the
front door so I could say farewell and "I love you." This is easily attributed to
my upbringing, but let's think of a different example.
You are an adult and your older brother travels with his friends to Colorado
for a ski trip. He was only 21, so you know that a lot of parties and drinking
will take place. You are now beginning to worry about everything that might
happen.
What if he goes to an unfamiliar area and end up in an accident?
Is he going to be tempted to drink and drive?
What if he falls and breaks a leg or an arm while skiing?
What if he's running into a tree with a bomb, and he's going to the hospital,
and I don't know, because he hasn't got his phone and...and...Alright, this is
an extreme case of acute anxiety, but I'm confident you know what I am

talking about and you envisioned something like that about a loved one.
Let's say you watched a video on Facebook in which someone ran straight
into a tree a few days ago while skiing. Now you have this mental image to
feed your problems like a broken record. Maybe you've seen a report about a
bad weather car accident in Colorado and now you're worried about it.
Sometimes a worry is perfectly normal, but if a person's life is consumed by
constant concern about things that can happen without cause or justification,
he or she can be anxious. There are various forms of anxiety, but two of the
most common types are social and widespread.
They may think of anxiety as a persistent form of overthinking, and many
people are so concerned that they choose medicine to alleviate this feeling.
Generalized anxiety applies to everyday experiences that are easily faced by
most people. The general anxiety affects everyday life and expresses itself as
constant worry and fear about things like leaving your home, going to the
food store, your beloved's wellbeing, the world's happenings, the prospect of
war, whether you eat right, whether you're diagnosed with a severe illness or
whether you don't know. Some people have a certain phobia, but a common
fear responds at once to several different things and can be overwhelming.
You may have been anxious while you started to understand the habit of
overthinking. The first step in overthinking is to identify the specific causes
for you.
There are plenty of reasons to explore and you will learn when we talk about
many, although not all of them apply to you. Hopefully, after you read this
list, you will decide which factors will play the biggest part in your redesign.
Social Expectations
The world today is more complex and difficult than ever before to live and
work in. Yeah, we have modern conveniences that make life more convenient
and relaxed, but we also have to face the framework of social life and hope
that we will pursue a timeline that fits something such as education, further

school, profession in entering the school, climbing the ladder, a senior career,
retirement.
However, this seems normal for people living in economic power nations for
a long time. Nonetheless, a lot has changed over the last few decades and has
grown exponentially. It's no longer so easy to find a job in a lucrative career
that will be enjoyable and satisfying for 30 or more years.
The rivalry has developed alongside the people of the world and the
surprising advance of technology. Many of the jobs that our parents have
readily available no longer exist and today, you will look crazy enough to
visit a company and ask for an application instead of applying online.
If you get this dream job out of high school or college, then the real fire trial
starts. We could talk about politics in workplaces, competition and rivalry all
day long but now, let us concentrate on some of the main triggers to
overthink two of the most important areas of life: work and education.
We started to discuss the challenge of finding a job as a young adult in the
modern age, so let's continue to explore where overthinking can play a part
here.
Following the influence of globalization, advertising and marketing strategies
now dominate the world. From the very start of your career, it has been told
that many other candidates, many of whom might be more eligible than you,
will have to participate. The interview process asks applicants to argue
strongly why they should stand out above everyone else. You should practice
in front of a mirror at home or think of all possible questions. It's here that
you can start thinking about how you compare in your sector next to others.
You just graduated with a degree and you felt like you were on the world
stage at that time, awaiting you with a million different opportunities (of
course the best case scenario).
After a few months, you know that the job market is far more competitive
than you anticipated, and it hasn't been an aim for you to hired at some of
your dream companies that already have passed on you. Many young adults
in the millennium will attest to the struggles of graduating from recession in
the United States and having difficulties seeking fair employment, let alone a

renowned jump into their careers.
If you're smart and work hard enough, the weight of social expectations will
become a great burden if and when things don't work the way you've pictured
them in your when at school. You may begin to ask at this point if it's a flaw
or weakness in yourself that prevents you from dreaming.
The reality is there are numerous variables in your "dream job" and, given
what your parents or teachers have taught you, there are moments when hard
work and a positive attitude are not enough.
This is why many young adults continue the process of rethinking which is
dominated by self-worth and appropriateness. If society says at this point in
my life that I am supposed to be here or here, it means that I've failed, and
something is wrong with me. Once that conviction has taken root, it is very
hard to ignore the endless photos, posters and commercials around us that
display the perfect professional man or woman in their nice corner offices,
put together in the latest fashion, to share how they have done this because
they have worked for one or another, attended this or that school.
They have also bought the car or leased it or purchased the house here. This
is the place to start comparing yourself with other people's success, which
simply adds a feeling of inadequacy and low self-esteem to your mind.
However, let's presume now that you have arrived at a decent job. It's not
your dream job, but it may give your career a good beginning. Now is the
time to show yourself. You look directly at your friends, your manager and
your peers to determine where you are and how you perform. Depending on
your personality, you can feel a great deal of pressure to do well and develop
within the business. Society teaches us that being the best is the only way to
grow and ascend in your company so that professional life becomes a
competition instantly.
That strain can be seen as a reversal every day when you continuously
evaluate how well you do your work. This is not a bad thing; everyone wants
to be good at their work. A problem arises when we start to obsessively
equate ourselves to others, and when the work is not a place for several like-
minded people to create a better business, but a thorny rivalry at the top.
When you have managed to break into the top levels of corporate society, the
rivalry will turn to other companies in your field, overtaking their business,

eliminating others, etc. Also, we have all heard this saying, “the more you
earn, the more you lose.” This opens up a whole new road of worry and
reconsider, when you assess how far you might fall if you make a mistake or
fall off the ladder!
Is this you? Were you constantly concerned about where you are? You may
be underemployed and ashamed, as you haven't gone far enough to equate
yourself with others. This might be one of the most common causes for
rethinking, but now it is time for us to go back in time and understand how
social expectations first take root as children in our brains.
Let's take a look at the school's social expectations. As kids, most of us don't
really think about what happens after school. We may have some far-fetched
fantasies in our heads, but mostly, we just want to know what mom prepared
for today's lunch and if that great kid will beat us up at recess today.
(Hopefully not but you get the idea.)
As we grow older and enter the middle and high school worlds, social
pressure and expectation are inevitably at the center of our lives. We will
think from a distance about our future career, but most of us worry about
whether or not people like us at school, how famous we are, how much we
get a dance date or not, etc. Many of the social pressures of this era
concentrate on physical appearance and academic or competitive success.
Sadly, around this point, most girls start to be overly concerned with their
physical appearance and can even start to undermine their self-worth.
The rethinking began as these women look at the wondrous women of social
media and journals and begin to compare with those unattainable ideals.
Likewise, young boys may play an important role in sport, or even a father
who is highly successful in their profession and starts to equate themselves as
men, equating success with self-worth in competition or popularity or
academics.
The pressure only rises when we go to school. Balancing academic life with
social life is a battle many lose and a student leaves for college. If they still
concentrated on good grades and this long-awaited Bachelor's degree, he/she
moves to the technical field of work where there is a whole new world of
social pressure and expectation. As you can see, much of our overthinking is

mostly due to a warped view of ourselves in comparison to those in our job or
social setting.
This pressure starts early in life and continues as photos and advertisements
in the media continually surround us trying to tell us to determine what
success will look and sound like. Let's look at some more potential
overthinking causes.
Relationships
Depending on your age, overthinking will go from stuff like, "Does she like
me?" to "I just know that he still comes home from work late because he has
some company." Some of the rethinking that takes place in the minds of
people in relationships are emotionally damaging causes of feelings such as
envy and low self-esteem. Much as we are bombarded with representations of
“success” in the media, we are also bombarded with the ideal relationship –
what it should look like. A young girl who obsesses about her high school
looks, later struggle in a relationship because she sees other attractive women
as constant threats. Young kids who care about making money will struggle
later because they feel it's important to make money and work than spending
time with a girlfriend.
Overthinking can cause many problems, and many can be emotionally
draining. Once your thoughts begin to distort reality, you launch into a self-
destructive cycle of negative emotions and perceptions. External influences
are something that we sense, and we begin to compare our relationships with
those around us, on Facebook or in other media sources.
This is a mistake because all individuals and relationships are unique — there
is no one-size-all framework for the way a good relationship works. You
know that when you get upset with your partner you're wondering that he or
she doesn't look at you in the way famous celebrities look at his or her
partner. Comparing your romantic life with others is an excellent way to miss
out on what makes your life different. I'm not saying that you ought to
disregard your relationship problems. I say you shouldn't attempt to equate
these problems to the problems of others in order to fix them.
Every one of us is special, and in different ways we all deal with emotions
and problems. But a couple that hides the struggles of a perfect relationship

behind the façade of one person, people that encounter a harsh slap in their
faces once they have passed beyond the "honeymoon period," begin to realize
that it is not all roses and stuffing cake in each other's faces. Relationships
shouldn't be simple and breezy as a couple appears on all these resort ads.
Comparing and rethinking just makes the task difficult— when contact is the
main requirement. Let's look at two more big overthinking outlets. The first is
the pain of the past.
Trauma
Not a nice topic to discuss, but a very important subject if it is the source of
overthinking. As previously mentioned, we have all been very worried about
the health of ourselves and our loved ones. We are concerned with our
children and their wellbeing, with our spouses and the welfare of our elderly
parents, etc. The question occurs when those issues are a persistent source of
stress and anxiety— when overthinking becomes chronic. Most people
recover from some sort of trauma for the remainder of their lives. Sometimes,
a parent's death can lead to lifelong thoughts and impressions that obstruct
the transparency and capacity of a person to leave traumatic emotions in the
past. Abuse as a child is a significant threat to the mental well-being of an
adult and typically needs treatment over the lifetime of the person. If a trauma
occurs, it shakes the mind in a way that is very difficult to forget or go
beyond. The victim may then overthink the prism of the trauma to equate or
interpret certain events in their lives. Abuse of a child by an older male, for
example, can impair a person's ability in the future to deal with men without
feeling things like fear, hate or hostility. Such responses pose a far greater
danger to general well-being. Many adults continue to break up as before, or
otherwise forget about the trauma or neglect it before it unpredictably occurs
later in life. Sometimes, issues are too difficult to face so many feel that the
lifetime effort to withstand such pain can only lead to blockages in progress
in the life of an individual. This is an example of what we call "thought
suppression." In other terms, the suffering will finally be handled.
In terms of rethinking, the pain of the past brings thoughts and emotions
about future events that have little impact on the present. The fact that you
were in a car accident and suffered serious injuries as a teenager doesn't mean
that you necessarily will get in another accident any time you get in a vehicle
for the rest of your life, but it feels like this. We bring the power and intensity

of these past emotions and fears into our life events, even before they occur.
To overthink something wrong in expectation is a trademark symptom of
chronic downfall.
Finally, I have to note the most common effect on overthinking–the addiction
to social media.
Social Media
We all know the latest rhetoric about how everyone contributes to social
media. Most of us can't go more than an hour without Facebook or Twitter
updates to find out what's new and who likes our news, etc. You may not
know that social media addiction is a strong source of overthought.
Throughout our lives, we spoke about patterns like comparing ourselves with
others. One important way to develop this habit is through social networking.
Looking at the Facebook page of a friend, we are unlikely to see the
beautiful, superficially imposed perfect life which they want us and others to
see on the Internet. We see images of people that seem to be off the cuff. Yet
most people take a lot of time to train themselves, to put themselves
correctly. Most women wear makeup, then play with the filters before they
come up with the most perfect versions. You don't see the problems and
pressures of your life, you see only what you want to see. It can lead many of
us to compare our lives again with those of others who seem more attractive,
more prosperous, happier, wealthier, etc. Those negative thoughts such as
envy and self-doubt flow up again on us, just as they did when we were
younger and compared to a prom queen or a football captain.
All these thoughts grow over time, and ultimately gain over, resulting in a
negative and self-destructive pattern of rethinking. Now that we have
recognized a couple of the big causes for overthinking, consider the factors
leading to this abundance of information by Internet browsing and Facebook
scrolling.

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CHAPTER 2
Overcoming Overthinking
In a Relationship
believe that we are all over-thinkers, regardless of whether or not we are
conscious of it and that is another problem. I used to overthink everything.
It was like a good feeling that I had to have to work and especially in my
relationship. How can I quit in a relationship?
I figured that I couldn't get rid of such an unpleasant and destructive habit.
However, like everything else, practice makes it perfect. If you train your
mind with the right commitment, you don't have to overthink your life.
Writing this book also recalled many bitter memories of the way I used to be.
I overanalyzed every little detail of what a friend said and how when we were
together, he expressed his feelings. It was so sick that I realized that this
addiction would consume my life, if I didn't do anything about it, and I was
the only one to blame.
Why Is Overthinking An Addiction?
A book by Dr. Sian Beilock, Choke: “What the Secrets of the Brain Reveal
About Getting It Right When You Have To,” provides a perfect analogy, as
shocking as it is. She says, when a professional golfer begins to think in the
area, he, for a short time, thinks about missing the hole and losing the game.
It's because our subconscious often paralyzes our body and paralyzes it
anxiously just a second or two. The fear of failure is typically the one to
blame.
Overthinking is persistent paralysis of a golfer. As many empirical studies
have shown, when we start losing control, it is a strategy that we use. Errors
frighten us, confusion is overwhelming, and much can go wrong. So, we
always think about it.
My sister cried clearly at a golf court, I remembered because she could not
play as well as I did. I wasn't a better player, don't get me wrong, but what
helped me win the games was because I didn't care about it; because I didn't
overthink everything. I had been there for fun.

Addictive Behaviors
When you think about it, overthinking is no different from OCD. They ought
to make life less unpredictable and give us a sense of control and trust. Only,
we superintend our thoughts instead of establishing dominance over things.
In psychology, every conduct that is brought to bear by a necessity, the
behavior that thus turns to the most important thing in your life, but that leads
to a conflict between short-term activity and long-term impacts–is defined as
addictive.
It is often an obsession with overthinking when we have to control our lives.
The problem is that what starts as a tactic that should calm us down us
usually leads us to lose control of our emotions. The vicious circle continues,
with us in the middle.
Overthinking - Number One Relationship Killer
Two of my relationships ended badly because I was overthinking, sad, but
I'm sure some of you can relate. It's like I'm the only person to go crazy while
everyone else enjoys their lives well. Overthinking usually has consequences
in my everyday life.
Like any other addiction, any time you have a problem, you don't think you
can fix it or fear that you don't have the strength to overcome it. But is your
relationship irresistible enough to kill? The experience says yes.
To overthink is a barricade between problem and solution–it disguises your
fear of failure and makes you very cautious, depressingly motionless and
even more anxious. Most notably, it's blocking you. You lose your self-
confidence and esteem in your partner. All that works in partnerships is no
more. The future is no longer about nourishing love and respect; it is nothing
but a prediction of loss for an over-thinking person.
Low Self-Esteem – Root of Overthinking
You definitely know what lies underneath your intense thoughts, although it
may not be the easiest thing to admit. The compulsive thought goes hand in
hand with rattled self-confidence and happens when you feel inadequate. In
case you want to learn how to stop overthinking, self-analysis may be a good
way to begin.

I was tricked once and it was sufficient to make a large hole in my trust, my
insecurity grew, and my confidence was no longer there. When I looked
back, I felt bad for my boyfriend, if he came home late or if he didn't call
when he should, my mind was going out like an alarm clock and the thoughts
started to shed and I fell back into the darkness. It took me a year to heal and
trust again when my self-esteem was taken away. It's not easy to work on low
self-esteem, but I met my friend and now my husband who knows me as I
really am. Plus one thing I want you to remember is that if you lack faith in
yourself due to what happened to you in the past, trust them a little. Let them
place you in front of the mirror and tell you how good you are, both inside
and outside.
WAYS TO STOP RELATIONSHIP OVERTHINKING?
I'm not here to tell you that there's a magic act to stop all these things now
and forever, but I am here to share my personal tips on how to stop
overthinking in a relationship.
Let us, therefore, be frank with you and move in the right direction with these
suggestions below.
1. Iron Things Out With Your Partner
So, here's your first task: suggest a tête-au-tête as early as today. Talk things
over with your partner. Overthinking has made you a prisoner of your mind,
and it is essential for your thoughts to be expressed. Even if you two went
through it before, now isn't the time to stop talking about things.
You know the processes of your partner by heart, so tailor what you have to
say to how they respond. If you have been accused of exaggerating the
problem in the past, be cool and constructive and ask them to do a little
investigation. Understanding how addictive behavior functions will allow
them to better understand you.
If it becomes painful and comes to a close, so be it. For a healthy
relationship, you should never lack the ability to communicate your thoughts
and emotions. As we know that, silence is a lack of motion, but relationships
must develop and change to survive. Stay composed, be as descriptive as you
can and insist on expressing yourself. Your partner may feel confused and
frightened, so be patient. Being in love means you are together in this: don't
stop talking before you're also on the same page.

2. Stop Yourself The Moment You Find That You’re Over-Analyzing the
Actions of Your Partner
A supportive partner is a sorely needed friend to fight negative thoughts but
only as long as you meet them halfway. Now that you have realized what
your concerns were and remain unproductive, don't make it too complicated.
Stressing how you deal with it will immediately drag you into it.
Rather, stop as soon as you catch your mind and rile up. Whether you are
used to overanalyzing the expressions of your friends, dwelling on their
Freudian mistakes, or obsessing about a scent of a stranger that you
constantly smell, note that your assumptions were wrong and your thought
was excessive.
3. Make Action on Your Insecurities (It's What Makes You an Over-thinker in
the First Place)
Improving your confidence is another subject, some of the things you can do
as a point of departure. Silence your internal critic by acknowledging that no
one is fine, and you are neither. Count every small victory and show that you
have earned the reward on your own. You can certainly appreciate it. If it’s a
lot–if it helps, write it down.
Be constructive, then! When you found that you overthought the actions of
your partner because you were unsure of your looks, hit the gym! Perhaps
your own anger or insecurity is why you stress "how they say it;" learn how
to shake it off. It takes some exercise, but you can nip your overthinking in
the bud as long as you take action and be positive.
4. Always Have Some “Me Time” Every day
You'll likely want to avoid those long, silent moments when all the noise in
your head is overwhelming. This is not, though, when you should race alone.
Have a "me" time every day, unplug the brain from the television and
telephone and come into positive thinking.
You cannot fully tone down and rest your mind until you are left alone.
Nonetheless, don't allow this overthinking to stop all of it. Since the lack of
any diversion can cause your addictive behavior to intensify, your "me" time
is great for control.

Try to rationalize, therefore. Don't overthink it, but deduce, if your partner
does not respond to your calls. If everything's good, but you keep looking for
at least one small thing to create a problem, just breathe deeply, close your
eyes, and let meditation clear your brain.
5. Hang Out With Friends Who're Not Over-Thinkers
This is very important to talk to people who don't make things worse. Your
logical friends probably are the last to tell you how to stop thinking in a
relationship, but they can't help yet. In reality, their clear thinking is just what
you need to resolve all those uncertainties.
We can and should become your everyday part of reality because they are so
clear-sighted. The earlier you let your worries go, the more confusing your
feelings are that nobody can understand you, the better you can resolve them
and see what your problems really are.
Don't discard the views of your friends, no matter how harsh or simplified
they may appear. Rational people have a completely different world view and
the truth is always somewhere between them. Always be attentive to listen to
what they have to say: their views that prove to be so much needed in time.
6. 90 Percent Of What You Stress About Won’t Happen; Always Enjoy Every
Good Time
We already discussed how overthinking in a relationship almost always leads
to a lack of spontaneity. Perhaps it happened to you before–you want to relax
and enjoy the moment, but your own feelings are all that you can think about.
Awful, okay?
The fact is that most of the things you think about at that time are only
fragments of your ruminant imagination. Around 90% of your worries will
not be up to date, but your relationship will constantly be destroyed. Instead
of thinking about how to stop in a relationship, try to be attentive and present
at the moment.
Plus, this is why it is so incredibly important to regain control of your mind.
Love is not only about making plans and solving problems; it's more about
building trust and allowing emotions to flood your thoughts than anything
else. Do not allow those intimate moments to pass through you but enjoy

each second.
7. Keep Your Mind Busy With What Makes You A Great Person
Depression is similar to overthinking in some respects. If you examine your
patterns more closely, you realize that over-analysis is nothing but a time
delay mechanism: the longer you think of the problem, the more you actually
postpone to act upon it. What this mechanism prevents you from seeing is
that it won't be resolved if the problem does exist. Why not skip ruminations
and act directly? However, it turns out, it will hurt less than spending hours
endlessly acting out various scenarios.
Keep your mind busy with ideas instead. Work all the time on yourself and
do things that will help you to become the person you want to be. In facing
your challenges, you are less afraid of your constraints. Begin to work out,
learn more and think less about it.
8. Traveling with your partner at Least Once a Year
Research shows that holiday enhances ties and helps partners to look at each
other in another way. It is entirely important since these fast-paced modern
times suggest a speed that not all couples can bear. Holidays are a brilliant
way to escape everything and finally find time to rekindle romance.
At least once a year, travel together! When you encounter the world hand in
hand, you cannot only have a good time alone but also change your minds,
reflecting on what is really important. Traveling alterations teaches patience
and introduces serenity simply by showing you that there is a large world out
there that is perhaps not so big in your everyday struggle.
9. Ask Your Partner What Kind of Self-Improvement Can You Do to Preserve
the Relationship
Your last task is simple: understand that you sometimes have to ask for
everything you need to do. Your low self-confidence made you doubt again
the actions of your partner? Tell them what's happening! In case you have a
good and stable relationship, their answer will be frank and helpful.
After all, there may be some things that bother you. Yet, you should never
change who you are, it does take some compromise to be in a relationship.
Talk to your partner about your reservations and see if you can resolve them

and how.
Don't be overly sensitive! It is very important to give your partner the
opportunity to speak, even though what they have to say is not so enjoyable
for you to hear. They mean well, undoubtedly, so listen to them. It's much
better than trying to sort out all the feelings yourself.
10. Be with That Person That Makes You Happy
Finally, keep in mind that symbiotic relationships are not very good. Who
can make you happy? A strong couple is a partnership of two strong
individuals, and if you're not a strong person, you can't be a strong partner
first. Never stop your personal growth–it can only be counterproductive for
someone you love.
If you continue to think about your partner's unhappiness or not and why it
usually means that you are not happy with yourself first and foremost.
Remember that you are that independent person who has it to improve and
create, which definitely is why your partner loves you so much.
Make Yourself Available And Stop Wandering
Relationships are challenging! We should be like that, so let nobody tell you
otherwise. Give storytellers unconditional love and agree the true relationship
requires understanding, trust and respect. If you don't know how to stop your
relationship overthinking, just ask your partner.
Above all, don't get wrapped in your head – express your feelings, express
your views, articulate your fears and share your doubts. Thinking overbuilds
a wall of unproductive emotions while thinking about them is the simplest
solution. Stay strong, but talk your partner.

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CHAPTER 3
Mental Decluttering And Its Causes
he word “declutter” has been heard by most individuals, but not everyone
completely knows what it really means. Some are very specific in what
they see as mental clutter – worry, fear, thinking too much about a
particular thing, etc., while others take a broader view of what it is. In other
words, mental clutter is something in your mind that prevents you from being
that individual you want to be or living the life you want to live.
It could be one or two big things that eat away from you day after day, or it
could be made up of many distinct little stuff that stays continuously in the
back of your mind.
At this very time, you may be able to identify your mental clutter. As you
read this, you believe to yourself, "Yes! I understand precisely what my
clutter is; I need to understand how to get rid of it!" Or you may be someone
who has been struggling with all the adverse side effects of mental clutter,
and you now hope to both define what your clutter is and learn how to get rid
of it.
The very first step to fixing any issue is to know that you have it and to
understand what the issue is. It's a great idea to learn what to watch for in
your mind, whether you're a man who believes mental clutter to be a wide
and sweeping category, or whether you're considering every little part of the
clutter in and of itself. Identify and cope with each portion of the issue as it
arises.
Worry – Worry is one of mental clutter's most prevalent types. It is tightly
bound up with fear and guilt. While anxiety is always forward-looking, it can
come from guilt about things you've accomplished in the past, or things
you're struggling with in your lives at the moment.
Many individuals erroneously believe they have the authority to alter what is
going to happen if they worry about something. Deep inside, we all know this
isn't true, but it doesn't alter the fact that worry is one of the things number
one that keeps individuals up at night. This doesn't mean you have to live a
passive life. You will always be responsible for the decisions you make, and

a lot of different choices are required every day. However, there are two
extremely different things to be ready to create choices and worry about what
will happen next.
Negativity – Negativity is one of the most important things to steal your joy
and clutter your mind in all its different forms. Some people spend their days
being negative about themselves— they don't like their body, their home,
their partner, their job — but they also tell themselves they're not worth
anything better, or they're not worth more.
Others spend their days negating the rest of the world – they can't think how
individuals drive, what individuals wear, they've been cut off at the grocery
shop, the individuals at their work – and the list goes on. Apparently, there
are people that spend their time thinking and debating the "large image"
negatively – that is, the things they have no control over but are significantly
influenced by. This category includes politics, the climate, the economy, and
so on.
Once you've been infected with negativity, it's not long before all aspects of
your lives are consumed. It's as if your brain can't discuss any subject without
adding to it some type of negativity.
"It's a good day, but I'm beginning to get a sunburn."
"I like the fresh law, but now a lot of individuals are likely to break it."
"I've lost some weight, but I still have so much to lose, I'm likely never going
to get there."
"It was good of that person to let me go first, but he likely believes I'm a jerk
to take him on offer."
It holds on tightly and spreads as rapidly as possible once it takes root.
Outward focus – The clutter focused on outward stuff is another type of
mental clutter that plagues many in the globe today. This clutter is concerned
about what other individuals believe, what others want, and whether they like
it or are deemed popular.
This clutter is mainly supplied by social media and compared to others. When
this clutter takes root, it won't matter what's happening to you, individuals
will always be better off, more appealing, more impressive, more successful,
and the list continues.
All these are only a few of the numerous mental clutter classifications, and

each is an umbrella for all types of things you may encounter or struggle
with. But the excellent news is there. You are presently facing it irrespective
of the mental clutter; you can conquer it and alter the way you believe. Don't
be fooled into thinking that not one of these is a large deal. As I said earlier,
our bodies are directly linked to the state in which our mind is, and if you
don't take care of these things now, you may eventually face even more
damaging side effects in the future.
Different Types of Mental Declutter
Mental clutter takes up plenty of room in your brain, making it more difficult
to believe and enjoy life through choices. If we let it, there will be
psychological confusion moving and continuously soaking in our minds,
creating a pattern that results in our spiritual energy and health being fully
absorbed. Our strong faith is that we can all find a way to clean our minds
and move forward with just a little work. But first, we need to investigate the
kinds of mental clutter that exist, so that when they emerge, we become
conscious and can spot them. The faster we detect some symptoms, the
better. These are the types of mental disorder that can be unbelievably
harmful in the long run:
- Worry
It's never nice to worry. It's completely unproductive, and on some levels, we
think that by worrying, we can stop the unfolding of particular occurrences
and regulate our future. It is up to us, however, to behave in circumstances
such as these occur. Our minds' capacity to project themselves into the future
is a wonderful ability. Just like the opportunity to remember and learn from
the past. However, there's a catch: when we imagine the future, we're not
engaging in a rational assessment of facts and data, but mixing emotions,
feelings, fear and uncertainty with each other. Therefore, whatever the future
holds for us in our present moment becomes an obstacle.
Worry is the most common type of clutter as it blocks your mind from gunk
of all kinds and leaves your brainless space for creativity or problem-solving.
As strong a brain can be, it is not able to cope favorably with the vast array of
problems and difficulties that arise through life on our ordinary daily
highway. It's not fair to ask about ourselves or our minds about such stuff.
On the other side, if you are not worrying enough as big as it may appear at

first glance, it may also become a problem and create space for clutter. Most
of us feel that worrying is harmful and thus, take shelter in all kinds of
techniques of escape, either by overlooking the barriers or by running away
from issues and problems into destructive habits, dependencies, substance
abuse or chaotic behavior.
- Regret
Repentance is one of the most noticeable types of clutter. Now, you have to
understand that there is not a single good or happy individual who has never
decided to regret one or more of their previous behavior or occurrences.
There's something we all mourn, and we all make errors. It's a component of
making us human. However, it is up to us to decide whether we are going to
describe our errors or whether we are going to learn and proceed toward our
mental wellbeing.
By the way, our mistakes don't have to be repeated. Many times, we all heard
that. Do not repeat your errors, do not participate in activities that follow a
destructive pattern, and when you have made a mistake, discover the ability
to change. It's still hard to do. It would imply that we can live our lives as
well as objectively observe ourselves and recognize places to work on.
Although most of the time it's difficult or seems impossible, it's a significant
chance once we get hold of our mind and its tricks. If we recognize this fact,
we can start to see previous choices or memories that inspire us to feel sorry
as a chance for beneficial learning and change. Unless it brings about
learning or personal change, disappointment is always unhelpful. We might
call it a waste. And we can never alter the past, but we can alter the future at
all times. Today, we can create beneficial choices to avoid unfortunate
decisions in the future.
You understand how they say that every wicked thing has something good
about it. This is regret; if we maintain an open mind, regret will lastly teach
us to recognize previous errors as an inevitable aspect of life and to exercise
the critical art of forgiveness.
- Guilt
Life is always about progressing. But sin keeps us in the past, usually because
in certain situations we think about what we should or shouldn't have done.
As you can imagine, our mind is capable of developing scenarios infinitely.

It's an endless tale. We were all there. What if I said that? Perhaps I might
have altered the result. A powerful motivator is the sense of guilt that keeps
our mind focused on the past. Always re-evaluating, always attempting to get
rid of any errors that we have made. These mechanisms that can sooner or
later have a large cost for our brain development to maintain us safe and
comfortable. If not wisely tackled, guilt can soak in your brain after a while,
and moving forward will be almost impossible. It's unrealistic to say you're
going to forget what occurred, but you can allow the past to live in the
present.
- Negative self-Talk
Our convictions about ourselves, others, and the world as a whole can have a
profound effect on what we often say about others, our situations, and
ourselves. Piece by piece, step by step, what we think influences what we are
saying and what we are saying defines how we are doing. These belief
systems that we construct for ourselves are the result of many experiences
that we have accumulated throughout our lives. One does not just become a
negative self-talker in a day; such a mentality requires years to take place, but
the truth is not very encouraging. So many of us misinterpret the conditions
of life, failures, actions of other people, and we tend to bring it upon
ourselves.
But as we all understand, adverse self-talking is one of the worst mental
clutches that can diminish and harm our self-esteem and that of others, even
if it indirectly occurs. When you boldly declare something insulting or not
very complimenting about yourself, it creeps into your framework of beliefs
and will slowly but surely manifest in your lives later.
Attitude is making a difference! You may recall Winston Churchill's popular
phrases, when he said: "Attitude is a tiny thing that makes a large difference."
You are going to be good enough if you go through life thinking you're not
good enough. It's so easy. Go through your self-conscious lives but attempt to
find out all the modifications you need to create. Not what other people are
telling you, but what you think about it. Write down all of them. What are the
changes in life you have to create in your body, as you believe in your heart?
That's the time you set the basic point to get you started.

Causes of Mental Clutter
Before we plunge into specific practice to eradicate the negative thought, it is
important to understand first why you think negatively. So, we'll go through
four causes of mental disorder in this segment.
Everyday Stress
Many people are exhausted by life because of constant stress. Indeed, the
stress induced by overloading knowledge, physical pain and endless choices
can trigger a number of mental health challenges such as widespread anxiety,
panic and depression.
Couple the tension with valid worries and concerns in your life, and
according to the American Psychological Association (not including
hundreds of studies supporting the correlation between tension and physical
problems), you will experience problems with sleep, muscle pain, headaches,
chest pain, regular infections, and stomach and intestinal disorders.
Dan Harris, anchor of ABC News and book author of “10 percent of
Happier,” did not understand how the intensity of mental surge impacted him
until he experienced an overflowing national TV panic attack.
He was left depressed and nervous by its challenging and competitive work
(which led him to the front lines of Afghanistan, Israel, Palestine, Iraq). He
self-medicated his inner pain with recreational drugs and caused an assault on
the air.
Dan had a wake-up call about his emotional condition following a
consultation with his psychiatrist. He says in a post on the ABC website: "As
I sat in his office, the enormity of my emotional instability began to sink into
war zones from hurtling headlong, unaware of the psychological
consequences, to the use of synthetic adrenaline replacement drugs. It was
like I slept through a cascade of moronic actions. Dan's "moronic behavior"
was simply a human reaction to everything that was going on in his head.
When life is so stressful and difficult, our psyches are searching for ramps of
escape. Too much data, too many negative stimuli and too many choices can
cause a not so healthy response to coping.
The Paradox of Choice
The right of choice, which is valued in a free society, may have a reduced

return in mental wellbeing. Barry Schwartz psychologist coined the
expression "paradox of preference," which summarizes his finding that
greater choice leads to greater fear, indeterminacy, confusion and
disappointment. More options could statistically yield better outcomes, but
they won't satisfy you.
Take a fast ride to the supermarket. In 2014, there were 42,214 products in
the average store, according to the Food Marketing Center. What once was a
10-minute tour to take in the needs, now takes at least as little time to agonize
over the best yogurt brand or the right gluten-free crackers.
Seek to buy a pair of jeans, which is the staple of most wardrobes, and you
will face an infinite number of decisions. Fit Baggy? Boot cut? Skinny?
Small leg? Clean vintage? Button fly? A simple purchase may cause you to
hyperventilate.
Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg, and even President Obama agreed to limit their
choices for clothing to alleviate stressful decision-making feelings. In an
article for Vanity Fair by Michael Lewis, the president expounded the
reasoning behind his small range of wardrobes: "You will see I wear gray or
blue suits alone," Obama said. "I want to postpone decisions. I don't want to
decide what I eat or what to wear.
Too many "stuffs"
Our homes are filled with wear clothes we never have to wear, books we
don't read, unused toys, and devices that don't see daylight. Our inboxes are
full. Our desk is confused, and our phones are flashing notifications like,
"You need more room." As described in “10-minute Digital Declutter,” "We
have become slaves to our devices, so we prefer to quickly fix immediate
information or entertainment on real-world interactions and experiences." We
can order anything from a book to a motorboat by clicking on a button and
having it shipped to our doorstep.
We fill our homes with stuff we don't need, and our time fills with a
continuous stream of tweets, updates, blogs, blog posts and cat videos.
Knowledge and resources are piling up around us, and we remain powerless
to do anything about it.
All this new content and knowledge not only draws our attention and energy,
but also produces reactive, nervous, and cynical thinking.

Like:
"My friend on Facebook looks like she lives a happy life.”
"Should I buy this FitBit and begin to keep track of my health, so I don't die
too soon?"
" Oh no, I forgot the webinar "How to make a million by 30"–what if
something important was shared?"
Everything seems urgent and important. Email and text should be replied to.
All the new machinery or contraction must be purchased. This keeps us
constantly anxious, distracted with trivialities and detached from our people
and our feelings. We also feel that we don't have time to declutter because we
are too busy devouring new information and stuff. But at some point, all this
work leads us to emotional and mental exhaustion. When we process all that
comes to us, we evaluate, ruminate and think about it.
How have we lost sight of the values and priorities of life that once kept us
safe and balanced? What can we do? What can we do about it? Without
technology, we can't go back in time and live. We canot give up all our
earthly possessions and live in a cave. We must find a way to survive without
losing our dignity in this modern world.
Declining our resources and reducing time spent on our digital devices helps
eliminate anxiety and negative thinking. However, in the emotional fog of
negative thought, anxiety and remorse, we still have plenty of justification to
be confused. We are worried about our health, our jobs, our children, the
environment, our relationship, how we feel, what people think of us,
terrorism, politics, past suffering and our uncertain future. Our thoughts on
this make us suffer and ruin our happiness right now if we didn’t have this
persistent voice in our heads that moved things up.
Negativity Bias
“But at that moment, late in the night, I first realized that the voice in my
head, the governing opinion that had governed my consciousness field since I
could remember, was a sort of jerk.” –Dan Harris. The human nervous
system has been developing for 600 million years but is still in line with our
early human ancestors, who face the above.
In an article on his website, Dr. Rick Hanson, Senior Fellow of UC

Berkeley's Greater Good Science Center, says,' To keep our ancestors alive,
Mother Nature has formed a mind which regularly misleads them into three
errors, which are: overestimation of risks, underestimation of opportunities
and underestimation of resources. Negative stimuli induce more neural
activity than equally intense ones (for example, noisy, bright). They are also
more easily and quickly recognized. "The brain is like Vilcro for negative
experiences, but Teflon for positive experiences," Hanson says. "So, what is
the negative choice for your thoughts? It means that you are more hesitant to
overthink, stress, and interpret things than they really are. You see risks and
obstacles as more difficult.
Every negative thinking that goes into your mind is valid, so there is an
impetus to recognize it as a reality. You don't live in a cave, however, face
life-threatening situations every day. You may be hardworking to think
negatively, but this predisposition must not be acknowledged.
Sam Harris says, "There is an alternative to merely connecting with the next
thought that comes into consciousness." In most of the worldly activities,
attention can be practiced and promoted through special exercises throughout
this book.
Attention involves training the brain to stay away from the mental noise from
the future and instead focus on the present moment. When you are awake,
you don't add your feelings anymore. You're simply present in whatever you
do.
Sounds straightforward, right?
The idea is really simple— but it's not easy to change your mindset.
As in building any other habit, it takes practice, patience and willingness to
begin small and then develop from there, to declutter your mind. Fortunately,
throughout this book, we will explain how to do all this.
You will not only learn the practices to train your brain and control your
emotions but will also develop unique routines that help such mental
practices every day.
In the next chapter, we will go through four ways that you can use to
declutter your thoughts. You can find that you are not only more concentrated
and successful when you master your thinking, but also feel more
comfortable with all the crazy demands of modern life.

Signs and Symptoms of Mental Declutter
The most nefarious component of the mental clutter is that many of its
elements mask the fact that there is a problem first. As such, if you have for
years allowed your mental clutter to build up unchecked, you may be highly
cluttered without even realizing it. If you are concerned about this, consider
the list of symptoms below and see if they apply to you.
Increased confusion: are you often confused with stuff you used to manage
with ease? Senses of general confusion, often accompanied by either fear,
worry, or both, and a general sense of scattered sensation are indications that
you may be dealing with an influx of mental cluttering.
Chattier internal voice: everyone has a mental narrator that works to some
extent in the back of their mind. If that voice never seems to shut up, you
may have to deal with a mental clutter inflow. If your inner dialog passes
from ordinary quantities to what amounts to a steady background noise, then
it should be regarded as a red flag; you might have mental clutter.
Increased chaos: while there will always be certain occurrences in our life
that, when they emerge, sow disorganization and confusion, this should be
the exception, not the rule. As such, if you discover that you're always
dealing with a lot of chaos in your lives, either physically or mentally, then
you might need to take a closer look at your mental clutter and see if that's
not part of the whole issue.
Increased Regulations or Condition: when it comes to mental clutter, having
an influx of circumstances can also be considered to have loads of demands,
stipulations, or preconditions on your daily routine or the activities and
events you most frequently participate in. If you've recently felt like there are
limits, regulations, and boundaries everywhere you turn, either external or
internal, then you may be dealing with a mental clutter inflow.
Increasing Willingness to Gather Stuff: if you are someone who has always
had collections, it can be hard to determine whether your collection desire has
become stronger.
The problem here is that a mental clutter build-up can lead to a willingness to
store trophies or other physical validation depictions that you have obtained
in hopes of feeling extra comfort or safety. This is a prime instance of how
the physical world can be affected by your mental state: an overwhelmed
mind produces an overwhelmed atmosphere. As such, if you have lately
began a fresh collection or began a fresh extension round on a current

collection, it can be useful to think about it.
If you tend to be pleased, usually speaking, with your place in life just lately
to discover yourself comparing what you have with everyone else, this could
be a sign that your mental clutter is rising. This typically happens as a desire
offshoot to look for larger and better items on the horizon and often points to
an underlying problem elsewhere.
Effects of Mental Decluttering
People are collecting stuff for various purposes. Some individuals believe
they're going to have to use those phrases later or perhaps their future kids
would use them. Other items collected because they are emotionally attached
to them. After all, many individuals like to maintain sentimentally valuable
stuff. There are also those who think they'd just waste cash if they throw
away their costly stuff, no matter how old, broken, or useless they already
are.
You might be holding on to a nice pair of shoes you haven't worn in years
because you think there's going to be an opportunity to wear them again. You
may continue to refuse to donate unread books that take up plenty of space in
your room as you keep telling yourself that a time will come when you will
lastly read them. There are many reasons why individuals are holding on to
their stuff.
However, the reality is that you likely made a mistake in the first place by
buying or obtaining those stuff. This can be hard to process for your brain.
Yale University researchers said two regions of your mind are connected with
pain. These are the cortex of the insula and the anterior cingulate. When you
let go of stuff you feel connected to, they light up as a reaction.
Your anterior cingulate cortex is the same brain region that illuminates every
time you experience physical pain. It sees clutter loss as something that
creates physical pain. This describes why the greater your desire to obtain it,
the more financially or emotionally you commit to something. You easily
associate it with value whenever you bring a fresh item into your life. This
makes giving it up or letting it go when it's time to do so hard for you. You
begin to accumulate more because of your psychological attachment to stuff;
you begin to take more.

Declutter Effect on the Brain
There is a misunderstanding that hoarding items does not harm anyone. The
hoarder is hurting. Hoarding is a serious obsessive-compulsive disorder
requiring a long-term solution. It has effects not only on the patient, but also
affects the individuals who live with him and those who care about his well-
being.
It can harm your capacity to process data and maintain your focus by having
unnecessary stuff around. Stress, depression, and embarrassment can lead
from your attachment to clutter. If your hoarding runs out of control, it can
also endanger your life.
For instance, you may no longer be able to move around if you fill your home
with junk, and you may be at risk of stuff falling on you. You may also find it
difficult to maintain adequate hygiene, causing infections and diseases to
grow. Also, because of all the trash, your home can get infested with rats and
other pests.
Neuroscientists at Princeton University have discovered that physical clutter
tends to compete for attention. This leads to higher stress and lower
efficiency. You won't be able to perform properly in an unorganized setting
because you'll be distracted by the mess and clutter around you.
Several mothers participated in research at the University of California, Los
Angeles (UCLA). They discovered at the end that all the participants' stress
hormones rose when dealing with their private possessions. Thus, it was
found that the physical clutter overloads the senses just as the brain is
overwhelmed by multitasking. You get more stressed out as a consequence,
Clutter only contributes to stress and waste of precious time. Unorganized
people with their life cluttered tend to feel nervous, out of control, and
frustrated. They also often have a difficult time to relax and unwind.
So, you need to declutter and organize your possessions and environment if
you want to have more peace of mind. Decluttering produces new energy,
releases adverse feelings, and creates room both physically and mentally.
Declutter - It is Just Physical
Papers, boxes of cardboard, cans, plastic bags, broken appliances and other
material products are not the only clutter in your home. Even your computer's
files can be considered a clutter. It can be as bad for digital clutter as for

physical clutter. You may be distracted if you have too many unnecessary
documents on your desktop. You may find it difficult to concentrate on
working and finishing assignments.
If you have so many items on your to-do list, for instance, you may feel
overwhelmed and confused about what to do first. If you continue to receive
notifications, your brain may not be able to fully process the experience.
Essentially, if your mind is going too far in it, its strength is diminishing. This
can make it difficult to filter data, keep an active working memory and move
between duties rapidly.
Importance of Mental Decluttering
If you've been reading this book from the beginning, there's no reason why
you shouldn't be convinced that decluttering your mind is extremely
essential; but if you believe the mind can wait until you're older, believe
again. Of course, you might think you're not in the correct state of mind at the
moment or you're in the correct conditions to work towards this effort, but
this section is here to persuade you that removing mental clutter from your
lives is something you should try to do as quickly as possible.
Relationship Between Cluttered Mind and Age
While you can definitely declutter your mind until it works best for your
lifestyle, you should be considering behaving contrary to it. Instead, consider
adjusting your life to better foster a clear and stress-free brain.
A significant reason is that having too much going on in your brain in the
form of stress, worry, and anxiety has been directly associated with aging
faster. Now, worrying about this would be counterproductive. You don't need
what this truth brings to your brain: even more clutter. That's not to say that
when it comes to finding a calmer state of mind for yourself, you shouldn't
feel at least a bit of urgency.
For one, getting more pressure on the brain was related to the process that
your cells go through from an aging view. You may not be aware of it at the
moment, but as you do, your cells age. While the process itself is a tad
complex, the point is that when emotional distress consumes your brain, in
particular, your skin cells start to mature at a faster rate than they would if

you didn't experience these stressors. For this reason, it is best to maintain to
heart the chapters in this book that have been devoted to debating the
formation of good relationships. Otherwise, when you're still 30, you'll look
in the mirror and feel like you're fifty.
Effect of Cluttered Mind on Sex
Another possibly more direct and detrimental by-product of too much worry
and overthinking has to do with your sexual organs in general. Of course, if
you are a guy or a female, the adverse impacts that too much mental clutter
can have on your sex life. Stress can trigger a reduction in testosterone for
males. This can often lead not only to a reduction in your sperm count but
also prospective erectile dysfunction-related issues. If they don't have to,
nobody wants to have to cope with this sort of issue.
If you're a lady and you know your mind is under a lot of stress, there's a
possibility you can begin experiencing issues linked to your menstrual cycle.
These issues may include your period irregularity or highly heavy periods
with unpleasant and somewhat painful side effects. It will always be
preferable to have a period that is predictable and only mildly painful to a
period that is so painful that you cannot leave the house.
Not only that, it can be stressful in and of itself for an irregular period. If you
don't understand when to expect this sort of monthly visitor, it can affect your
sexual interactions with your spouse or even cause more pressure because
you end up worried about whether your absence of a period is pregnancy. For
these sex-related reasons, it is best to attempt now rather than later to
eliminate mental clutter from your lives.
Mental Clutter Can Bring About A Greater Chance Of A Stroke Or
Heart Attack
Not to sound too dismal, but if you want to lower your likelihood of getting a
stroke or a heart attack, it is best to remove any stressful mental clutter from
your lives as soon as possible. We already understand that men-talking may
cause the sympathetic nervous system to begin running (remember, your fight
or your flight res). But that's just one component of the body that moves
faster when you have a bunch of things in your mind. For one thing, when
you are under stress, you start breathing faster. This implies that mental
clutter can exacerbate it if you already have asthma.

Besides breathing faster, mental clutter can also pump your heart faster.
When we spend our time worrying about something that might be out of our
control, we all likely felt our heartbeat quickening. Know that you put a lot of
stress on that core of yours if you enable your mind to do this often enough.
You only have one heart, and one way you can respect the amazing things
your heart does is to make it simple whenever you can.
Not only that, but your body releases stress hormones when you have a lot in
your mind and feel stressed. When this occurs, your stress hormones are
released as a manner to provide more oxygen to your body's muscles so you
can readily take action; however, this also increases your blood pressure at
the same moment. This makes you more susceptible to either a heart attack or
a stroke when the ideas in your head cause your body to increase its blood
pressure continuously.
If you're young, you might read this and think these concerns don't apply to
you; however, you need to think about the reality that when you're young, the
habits you cultivate will dictate how your body responds to circumstances
when you're older.
That's why it's essential to look after the beautiful body you have now so you
don't begin to worry about its well-being when that's too late. It's so easy.
When they are older, no one likes to rely on medication or treatment. If you
are now, rather than later, decluttering your brain, you will eventually look
back one day and thank you for creating good and positive practices.

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CHAPTER 4
Important Steps in Decluttering Negative
Thoughts
tresses, worries, anxieties, and multiple psychological ailments, such as
depression and panic attacks, grow out of the inherent willingness of your
mind to pay attention to adverse ideas which, as we mentioned when
adverse ideas became habitual, evolve into adverse convictions and practices
and therefore adverse conditions. Consistent practice of the different
approaches that we have discussed up to now will assist to declutter your
mind and free it from worry, anxiety, and negative thinking. In addition to
these approaches, consider
- Practice Gratitude
Basic physics tells us that the same space cannot be occupied concurrently by
two physical objects. You probably wonder what this is all about mental
declutter and keep your mind free from worry, pressure, and anxiety.
Well, the main cause of worry, stress, and anxiety, negative ideas cannot
occupy the same room at the same moment as beneficial thoughts.
Decluttering your mind is all about letting go of adverse ideas so you can
make more room to thrive for beneficial ones. This implies making a
deliberate decision in favor of productive ones to let go of unproductive
ideas. Gratitude is one of the finest and most efficient for mental decluttering
and positivity.
When you spend a portion of your day thinking about the stuff for which you
are grateful and appreciative— as little as five minutes— it changes how you
perceive and approach life. It moves your focus from gloom and doom to
positivity, and you feel hopeful, driven, and passionate about your life when
positive ideas saturate your mind.
- Perform a Physical Declutter
It should come as no surprise to perform a physical declutter. A significant
cause of worry, stress, and anxiety is physical clutter. Research undertaken
by the Neuroscience Institute at Princeton University showed that being in a

physically cluttered or disorganized room leads to diversion, negative
thinking, and decreased productivity. To free your mind from work of worry,
stress, and anxiety, and to live in an environment free of clutter. Declutter,
clean, arrange your living room, bathroom, kitchen, office, garage, upper
floor, and other living rooms.
Bear in mind that the method aims to eliminate excesses as you eliminate
physical clutter; remember that thing that does not add value to your lives,
takes it away in one manner or the other. To destress your life and maintain it
clutter-free, embrace methods such as minimalism and Feng Shui, and
develop a scheme to maintain your physical spaces clutter-free.
- Stop Multi-Tasking
Trying to do multiple stuff at once can feel overwhelming and impact your
productivity and well-being negatively. A Stanford University research study
showed that multitasking decreases your efficiency by up to 40%.
Spreading your focus too thin, which is what occurs when you try to do too
much stuff at once, has an adverse impact on your capacity to exercise
current consciousness, which is the most efficient approach for mental
decluttering, as we have mentioned. Mindfulness is so efficient that its
exercise alone is sufficient to assist you to experience inner peace and
happiness, overcome anxiety, stress, and cope with adverse ideas.
Stop multitasking and pay attention to one thing at a moment instead. This
enables you to live in the moment, become conscious and exercise observing
other ideas and letting them go. It also increases your productivity and
enhances your well-being quickly.
Try to maintain only one tab open and plan messages, calls, social media, and
the like while completing significant jobs or assignments of great
significance to your achievement or well-being, mute notifications and
restrict other distractions. The more intentional you are in teaching the habit
of one-mindedness to your mind, the simpler it will be to declutter your mind
and free it from unproductive ideas, feelings, practices, and beliefs.
Your Thought Process and Outcome
Whatever you believe and the process of thinking you are going through is
not just in your mind. The method is giving way to different results. The

method of thinking dominates every activity and aspect of life. You and your
lives are controlled by your mind. Because of which mental well-being is of
paramount significance.
There is a powerful connection between the process of thinking and the
result. Positive thoughts will give way to positive results, while adverse
thoughts will give way to negative results. The positivity of the process of
thinking is vital to your life's beneficial happenings. If the ideas you put into
it were negative, you could not handle a situation favorably. It is most
probable that negative energy will lead to adverse effects.
People who have cluttered minds are struggling to manage the results of
distinct circumstances. Their ideas are often so dispersed that they find it hard
to understand a scenario, and the findings are often contrary to their
expectations. The connection between the process of thinking and the result
is undeniable. Your thoughts are governed by your energies; if they're
negative, you're going to look at every result as negative and vice versa.
Make sure that through positive energies you strengthen and nourish this link
between the process of thinking and the outcomes, so that all of your life's
events are as positive as your thoughts.
Decluttering Exercises
Decluttering exercises is not just about your physical well-being. Exercise
can also have an enormous beneficial effect on your mental health. By
practicing, the energies you put into producing adverse ideas use them
wisely. Burn in a gym, or in a park, or go swimming. All of these operations
will offer you the opportunity to look around from a distinct perspective,
most probably from a favorable perspective. I suggest going outdoors. Inhale
the fresh air. It's what your mind requires. You're going to see the positivity
around you.
In many respects, exercise will benefit you; it will make you mentally and
physically fit. It won't take you a lot, just your time, consistency, and hard
work, and you're going to be able to experience the wonders that exercising
can bring into your lives.
The following are some of the most useful exercises that can assist you in
coping with mental confusion.

• Meditation. It enables you to concentrate better. It enables you to
concentrate on one thing at a time and makes you understand how important
it is to concentrate on yourself. Make time in your lives for meditation;
organize your cluttered ideas. Through meditation, you can step out of your
misty ideas. It's one of the most appreciated exercises. An individual with a
cluttered mind should include meditation in his/her life.
• Deep Breathing. This is one of the extremely suggested exercises for
mental cluttering.
It's also one of the simplest; anywhere and anytime you can do it. Deep
breathing requires practice and then don't worry if you feel you can't go any
further with the process. Relax, look around and take deep breaths, just stop
for a while. Put your hands on your stomach then feel its movement's rhythm.
That implies you're doing it the correct way if you can feel it.
Deep breathing may sound normal, but it can assist. When you're in a very
stressful position, it can offer you the freedom to look around and breathe for
a while. Incorporate deep breathing into your lives; do not use it in stressful
situations alone. Fix for this work-out a certain moment of your day or do it
whenever you feel like it. Make it part of your routine, and you'll quickly
experience a beneficial shift in yourself.
• Introducing New Habits. Do not monopolize your routine. Every individual
requires a shift; sometimes you can get on your nerves going through the
same routine. To maintain life's liveliness intact, change is really crucial.
Make room for fresh customs. Incorporate various things into your routine
and make sure you religiously follow them.
A beneficial change can perform wonders for your mental health, so after a
while, seek something fresh. Join a swimming class, learn fresh skills, cook,
paint, and purchase a coloring book for yourself. All these items will surely
assist you to cope with your mental embarrassment.
These were the few activities you could do to enhance your life and cope
with mental disorders. To declutter your mind, it is recommended that you
integrate them into your lives.

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CHAPTER 5
Reframing Your Negative Thoughts
ike anyone on this planet, there's as much time as you can to be happy.
But you still don't have joy as your main priority, like most people. Or
maybe you think you do, but in reality, you actively sabotage yourself by
falling into depression, misery, remorse and other unproductive negative
ideas.
However, it's very easy to fall into depression without joy as a goal and suffer
more than you deserve in this lifetime. This is why it is so important if you
want to know how to enhance the quality of your life, you’ll accept happiness
as your first goal and not just as a pleasant idea.
If you genuinely seek joy, you should be able to notice the negative and
reframe it, and the right thinking is critical because you have thousands or
tens of thousands of negative thoughts a day. You will wake up every day to
battle demons – dispute, despair and depression. No other way. It is spiritual
warfare and every day you must be prepared to wake up and fight.
The positive thing is having the right attitude, and you will start to feel better
instantly. Have the right outcome. Better still, everyone can use this
technology because it's not based on "objective truth." Reframing negativity
does not depend on your wealth, or on your IQ or appearance, or on
something else you want. You will make a big difference in the quality of
your life from today with the right will and application of your imagination.
HOW TO REFRAME NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
- Awareness
Your awareness is the first thing to concentrate on. In other words, be wary
of negative thoughts. If happiness is your first priority, you will take
depressing consciousness very seriously, like a gun on your head.
You will be mindful of it and, at least every day, you will have thousands of
negative thoughts. It is just a problem to capture them, to admit that you are
frustrated and to ask the right questions.

- Ask the Right Questions
Both combinations of:
• Why am I unhappy?
• What do I do to feel better?
You are the questions you pose, and you know how to make the right
questions. This is really necessary. If you ask the right questions, the right
reframe is what you want.
- Reframing
The correct reframe is the only reframe at the moment. You may not be
satisfied, but you can still get out of doubt, frustration and depression–even
when it's just optimistic.
The most valuable skill in practice is reframing or state management which is
much more successful than any form of therapy. Because counseling deals
with the past, the past does not exist anymore. The present is all that is true
and policy management regulates the present.
The past, the present and the future are not the way forward. You suffer
because you stay trapped in the past.
It's like physical pain, except it's not that bad, from fever to cancer. Once the
pain is gone, after you have tried, you can't remember physical pain.
However, emotional suffering can be restored, renewed and remembered
forever. It is supported by many forms of therapy!
Compare mind to body:
Therapy is like having a physical wound or injury which causes you to suffer
and pick and open and dig into it, thus raising pain so that you recognize
pain, and somehow "process it." Compare the mind with the body.
The reframing, in order to remove the discomfort and feel good at the
moment, takes the same actual skull or fracture that causes you pain and
takes the right treatment.
The realization that changes the game comes when you know that you get
how you feel.
Negative thinking will only harm you if you accept it.

It doesn't matter how bad your feelings are or what has happened to you, you
just decide how you feel.
You can choose positive or negative and you are actually CHOOSING when
you are negative.
Different Types of Reframes
You have to learn two types of reframes to have better positive thinking:
1. Unproductive negative thoughts that are pessimistic and
purposeless feelings.
2. Negative proposals that require practice. These are not even
the enemy's negative thoughts. They either alert you to
thought changes, or they warn about habits that you have to
change.
Reframing Unproductive Negative Thoughts
- Ignore
For low-level negative feelings, the safest reframe is always to forget it.
Forget it. Thoughts like you're a loser or sick of going to work – just like a
nervous man at the pub, you talk to them. No or I'm a f*ck off or distracted.
- Changing Focus
Change of emphasis is an ideal way to reframe negativity. The easiest change
of focus is about going back to work. When I think negative during the day,
my reframe just goes back to my goal. In minutes I'll have totally forgotten
the feeling. One perfect way to signal a shift of emphasis is to define and
continue thinking as unproductive.
Reframing Negative Thoughts Which Requires Action
- Positive reframe
For feelings that need a change of mind, it is a positive reframe that your best
move is. I hated it every minute when I was in sales from my managers to
dealing with rude customers to cold calls to colleagues. That's when I
reframed every move and every cold call to make more money, and the
money will be saved. And I use this money to fund my enterprises and to
avoid wage slavery forever.

If I changed my mind, I could not only excel but turned a big negative into a
constructive one. I was actually able to escape, and I was able to monetize my
experience by writing a book on how to market it.
One important thing to note is to check the reframes while doing a
constructive reframing. Some guys teaching NLP-based pickups teach people
to think of themselves as supermen or 10 feet as they approach women. It's
not a useful structure, because your subconscious mind would never buy.
Some guys teach the method to approach women in order to make them feel
wanted. It is a good thing, and it is a good thing that you can honestly express
your purpose but moving around in 2000 is a challenge. Nonetheless, I saw
some guys on the pickup boards thinking about their ability and making 2000
females feel desired. This is not a positive reframe.
If you meet a woman, it will be your final game to get this woman and
concentrate on the outcome. Under these cases, you have to look at doing
something to improve your sexual market interest and make major behavioral
improvements.
Ultimately, it's a safe idea to sit down and talk about the most consistent
destructive trends. If it is illness, fear of death, or low self-esteem, the
development of optimistic reframe can take place. Others will go back and
forth when the big negative feedback loops become nasty minds, which they
are.
- Behavioral change
The behavioral shift is the perfect reframe for negative thinking about
problems in your life, whether they are addictions, unpleasant individuals, or
choices in lifestyle or a work you dislike. Such kinds of negative thoughts
should be listened to and followed up by your peers. Hearing these kinds of
thoughts and applying approaches will be the bulk of your personal
development success.
One approach that might be useful when it comes to negative behaviors is to
sit down and list the 10 worst recurring issues. From a work you don't want to
what your 10 biggest problems are and action-based solutions can be found. I
did it myself and it was a huge step forward. I have actually created a system
with the Wunderlist task management app to solve those problems by setting
my mission, priorities, schedules and tasks. In my book, “How to Organize,”

you can see just how to do this.

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CHAPTER 6
Essential Strategies in Improving Your
Relationship
Negative Impacts of Bad Relationships
ow frequently do you get frustrated, furious and irritated with people in
your life? The response is important because relationship issues are the
leading cause of unhappiness in life. We replay awkward conversations
in our minds and obsess over an unnoticed slight for hours. Otherwise we are
separated from our friends and loved ones only to feel lonely, disconnected
and unloved.
We construct false mental accounts of other people, assigning them ideas and
actions which may or may not be valid, but which nevertheless feel hurtful
and compelling.
Today, without the occasional misunderstanding, you can't coexist with
anyone. Nevertheless, if you feel that most of the interactions are emotionally
draining you, then you can look for ways to change or exclude those people
from your life.
Imagine that in your life you have no fear of people. So far less will your
conscience be embarrassed? How much more time can you bring into
efficient, constructive efforts?
Although important people can be the source of mental distress in our lives,
our close relationships remain one of the essential components in life which
contribute to long-term happiness.
Can Great Relationships Bring About Happiness?
One of the longest researches on happiness ever performed is the Harvard
Adult Development Study, known as the social change grant report. Since
1937, Harvard researchers have researched what makes us happy since 268
people entered college by the end of the 1930s. They followed them through
war, education, marriage and divorce, parenthood and generation.
The psychiatrist and Harvard Medical School teacher Robert Waldinger
currently heading the study said that long-term work is unambiguous: "Close

relationships and social interactions keep you happy and safe. That's the end
of the line. Those who cared more about accomplishment or less about
relation were less satisfied. Essentially, people are wired for personal
connections." How can relationships lead to our satisfaction while at the same
time being a great source of our mental tiredness? The point is not only
relationships–they are high-quality relationships. If you work with a romantic
partner, a family member or even work partner, a high-quality relationship
involves:
• Open communication
• Healthy conflict resolution mutual trust and respect
• Shared interests
• Some emotional and/or intellectual intimacy
• Acceptance and forgiveness
• Physical touch
• Prioritizing the relationship
For our well-being and peace of mind, it is necessary to create, sustain and
cultivate good relations.
Instead of looking at other people to change relationships, the best place to
begin is within you. And when your family members, friends and business
partners need to develop their interpersonal skills, you will make a lot of
progress in minimizing tension in your life by improving yourself.
Nevertheless, you cannot influence anything— you can only control how you
communicate and respond to the people around you.
Let's look at four ways you can strengthen your relationships that can
influence your attitude directly and positively.
Four Essential Strategies To Improve Bad Relationship
1. Be More Present
A University of North Carolina study of “relatively happy, non-stressed
couples” found that the pairs who consciously exercised sensitivity observed
changes in their relationship satisfaction. The practice of mindfulness helps
us to be present with our partners, to be less emotionally reactive towards
them, and to handle stressful situations in the relationship more easily. they
have experienced better levels of relationship stress, stress management
capacity and tension.

The existence of partnerships does not only extend to intimate couples. In all
your partnerships, you should cultivate sensitivity.
What does it mean in your relationships to be more present?
Here are a couple of techniques you should practice:
Do Empathic Listening
Have you ever found certain people don't listen carefully while talking?
It is difficult for many people to pay attention because our minds are so full
of thoughts. Often our mind is more focused on the aspects of our lives, our
problems, or what we want to say next when someone talks.
Empathic (or active) listening is ready to move beyond your distracted mind
and listen to your words without judgment. Empathy is the virtue of empathic
listening because it gives the speaker a feeling of safety, affirmation and
understanding.
Active listening is not part of a typical conversation. There's no giving and
taking, conversation or talking. It's all about the other person with empathic
listening and what they try to share — with words, words left unanswered
and emotions.
As a sensitive listener, you have to be ready:
• Allow the other person to lead the conversation and decide the
subject.
• Always pay attention to what the other person has to say.
• Avoid interrupting, even if you have to add something.
• Ask open questions encouraging the speaker to do more.
• Stop premature assumptions or remedies.
• Show what you learned from the speaker.
It can appear that empathic listening just benefits the speaker, but you are in
concentrated awareness as a listener. You can't get caught in looping thoughts
or overwhelmed by anxiety or guilt while listening empathically.
You will continue to cultivate empathy for your partner, family and friends.
In your next conversation, spend 10 minutes listening actively, where you
concentrate only on the other person and what they say. It brings you closer
to your wife and also puts your disappointed feelings to rest.

Mindful speaking/speech
Negative thinking will adversely affect the quality of your relationships. If
your vocabulary is replete with frightening assumptions, self-denial,
shameful remarks or self-pity, you only convince everyone that you are a
negative person.
On the other hand, if you focus on cultivating positive interactions, you will
improve your relationships. For example, through his study, Dr. John
Gottman discovered that five times the amount of positive experiences
between partners would be negative in order to maintain a stable relationship
and a successful marriage. The results of Gottman can also be extended to
other relationships. Conflict and anger continue to drive people out.
Consciousness is often the first step to improvement. We suggest that you
pay careful attention to what you say during a conversation, particularly in
your love relationship. Put your thoughts and phrases in the mental filter,
realizing the impact your phrases have on one of the most important people in
your life.
Avoid the temptation of responding directly to words or acts of others. Take a
moment to carefully select your terms. Talk with empathy, compassion,
reverence, and seek to use a calm, non-threatening voice even when the other
person is upset or angry.
When you talk more attentively, the people around you always react in kind.
And if they don't, you should maintain self-control and inner peace.
Through practicing careful expression, you enhance not only the quality of
your interactions but also the quality of your inner world.
Loving Kindness Meditation
Kindness meditation focuses on cultivating comfort feelings for others. You
may also use loving-kindness meditation to strengthen your relationships
with particular people in your life to will negative thoughts about them.
This meditation cultivates our knowledge of other people as people who
deserve compassion and love — even when they are challenging — that can
diminish relationships and enhance your well-being. This argument is backed
by three reports.
First, Stanford University scientists found that meditation based on loving-

kindness increases people's feelings of social connection.
According to a report by the University of Utah, the practice of loving-
kindness meditation is a "decreased overall degree of perceived aggression,
insensitivity, intrusion, and ridiculousness from other people."
Eventually, researchers found that practicing seven weeks of loving-kindness
meditation enhanced the feelings of love, joy, satisfaction, appreciation,
confidence, hope, curiosity, fun and awe.
Anywhere you may practice loving kindness but begin with a short 10-minute
meditation in a peaceful place without interruption.
Listed below are simple processes to practicing this habit:
Sit down comfortably on the floor, with your legs crossed and
your hands lying in your lap loosely; or sit down straight in a
chair with your legs uncrossed, feet on the floor and the hands in
your lap.
Close your eyes and take two or three deep breaths, then start
counting every breath, from one to 10.
When you relax, remember a person to whom you would like to
give loving-kindness, and consider their positive attributes— the
light of goodness you see in them.
After spending a few minutes reflecting on their good attributes,
say to the caring one: "May you be happy," "May you be well,"
"My you be cherished." There is no wrong in subtly altering
words to reflect on the individual's needs. There are no tough and
fast rules. You may replace the name of the individual instead of
saying, “you.”
You can also add thoughts such as:
May you be free of internal and external danger
and harm
May you be secure and safe
May you be free from mental illness or anxiety
May you be free from physical misery and pain
May you be strong and safe
May you live happily, comfortably, joyfully and

easily in this universe
This meditation practice not only strengthens your relationships but also
enhances your mental well-being and keep your mind calm. It is ultimately
up to you how you adapt the procedure to your personal circumstances, but a
fundamentally transforming cycle in your efforts towards mental de-stressing
and peace of mind remains at the center.
End Comparisons to Others
One of the key causes of mental distress and emotional pain is the unfair
contrast with others:
• "Why can't I be as clever as my brother?
• " If only I were as pretty as my friend”
• "She travels all the time, and I never get anywhere."
• “They have so much money than we do”
These feelings may be out of reach, which can make us feel poorly about
ourselves as we find others to be the source of our unhappiness. "They have
so much more money than we do." By weighing ourselves against the
successes, resources or characteristics of all others, we are setting the stage in
which potentially satisfying relationships can disintegrate.
Steve and Barrie saw in their work as writers and entrepreneurs how easy it is
to compete with others who have experienced more success. "I fall into a pit
to weigh against my co-workers," Barrie says. "It damages my concentration
on the job I do, making me feel incompetent, envious and optimistic before I
get back on the foot and remember that I am on my own path that should be
different from myself." Contrast fosters so many negative emotions that it
ruins your relationships rather than your peace of mind. The more you
ruminate, the worse you feel about you and the other guy. Feelings of envy,
resentment, humiliation, remorse, embarrassment, self-loathing and rage
aren't attributes that improve or attract others.
Gretchen Rubin, author of The New York City Times number one bestselling
book “The Happiness Project,” says "Emotions such as the feeling of
loneliness, jealousy, and remorse play a major role for a happy life; they're
large and flickering signs that things are changing." We all compare each
other from time to time. But when contrast makes these "big flashing signs"
appear, it's time to act.

It takes mental energy to get rid of the comparison and the feelings that go
with it. However, shifting your responses to those that "more" will make you
free to follow your own path and become the best person you are supposed to
be.
Listed below are important three short and easy habits that will allow you to
end comparing yourself with other people:
- Practice Extreme Self-acceptance
There is no shift in how you equate, fret, and ruminate how you are, feel,
achieve or enjoy at this moment. The person you're right now is everything
you have, for today at least. Lean into it, rather than resist it. Consider it and
remember that you're all right now. It is transformative and inspiring literally
to embrace this moment of revolutionary acceptance.
- Change what you can
American theologian Reinhold Niebuhr is known for his Serenity Prayer,
which says:
God grants me the serenity
To be contented with things I can't alter
Grant me the strength to transform things I can’t
And grant me the wisdom to know the difference.
Pray for the peacefulness, bravery and wisdom that Niebuhr gives you
practical tools to make your wishes and frustrations true.
You will inspire yourself to change for the better by comparing yourself to
others, to boost your game and to improve your life. But sometimes, no
matter how hard you try, you can never equal a person's achievements. You
might never seem like a friend of your fashion model or become as rich as
your millionaire cousin.
Take decisions through the lens of your inner wisdom instead of desperately
looking for something you don't have. What are you able to change? What
would you like to change? Go back to your values and life goals to help you
define your own life and not to imitate someone else with different values
and priorities.
You will still have something to do sometimes but do your best with what

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