Can you see yourself in the thoughts below ? I replay an incident in my mind ruminating (mostly on the unpleasant parts). I am always thinking about the future trying to manipulate the outcome in a certain situation. I need validation or approval from certain people to be happy. I feel upset and blame others when things do not go my way. Only when someone will act in a certain way will I feel good about myself. I have an idea of the future, an image of myself and if the events don’t go as planned then I feel let down every single time. We may be able to relate to some of these thoughts with varying degrees of intensity.