While affairs can cause great pain, the document outlines that they may also serve as a catalyst for improvement if both partners work through underlying relationship issues in therapy. It notes that affairs often stem from broader problems and both individuals bear some responsibility, but recovering trust is possible if effort is made to strengthen communication and intimacy. Addressing problems openly rather than relying on intuition alone can help partners gain a shared understanding and get their marriage back on track.

1. AFFAIRS
 There is life after an affair
 Both partners are responsible for the affair
 An affair is a symptom of a greater problem
 Intuition is not enough. If you think your spouse is having an
affair, you need to get facts or proof
 Affairs can be a blessing in disguise. Many of my clients have
gotten their marriages back on track by doing the tough work of
facing their problems
 Women are much more complicated than men in a relationship
 Men just need affection, good food, attention and sex
 Affairs are embarrassing and shameful for both parties
 The pain of an affair is something we never get over, however, if
there is growth and progress in the marriage through therapy, an
affair can be a catalyst to improve yourself and your relationship
 Patricia Lovelace LaPage, LCSW, CGP
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 Oak Brook, IL 60523
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