1. DEVELOPING THE SKILL OF DECISION-
MAKING IN MARRIAGE
PRESENTED
BY
SCOTT ODIGIE
TO
NCCF (NYSC) BATCH ‘C’
PASSING OUT CONFERENCE
ON
7TH OCTOBER, 2012

2. REFERENCES: Heb 5:14 & 1 Cor. 13:11
(KJV)

14
But strong meat belongeth to them that
are of full age, even those who by reason of
use have their senses exercised to discern
both good and evil.

11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I
understood as a child, I thought as a child:
but when I became a man, I put away
childish things.

3. OBJECTIVE
To redefine the concept of

marriage and empower
participants to develop
the skill of choice-making
in marriage.

4. INTRODUCTION
 Marriage is as easy as anything we choose
to be a success in.
 One of our greatest challenge in marriage is
in the place of choice-making; we desire to
choose, but do not know how.
 Decision-making in life; marriage inclusive,
is a foundational skill every single must
develop in other to build a healthy and
excellent home.

5. PRINCIPLE
1. Prioritize your ‘relationship with God’
than marriage, money, beauty. This
could also be termed your love of God.
Pro. 19:14. (Abraham & Lot, Peter &
fishing).

6. PRINCIPLE
2. Understand your own ‘personal style’
of communication with God. This
answers the question of assurance and
conviction in knowing HIS ‘will’.
Exo.6:3, John 10:3-5.

7. PRINCIPLE
3. Understand your sexuality differences.
Male and female are different in the
following:
 Emotional difference (menstrual cycle
every month).
 Physical differences (muscle, breast).
 Hormonal difference (testosterone &
estrogen).

8. PRINCIPLE
4. Understand what love is not.
1Cor.13:1-8.
 Sexual feelings do not equate love.
 Love affairs in romance books,
magazines, and movies are not genuine
love.

9. CONT’D
 Love is not blind.
 Real love is not infatuation.
 Love is not having sex before
marriage.
 Courting an unbeliever is not genuine
love.

10. PRINCIPLE
5. Learn to define your relationship with
the opposite sex. Not anyone you meet
can be your spouse. Gen.2:23.

11. PRINCIPLE
6. In your choice-making, let God’s ‘will’
be your most priority rather than
materialism, tribalism, intellectualism.
1 peter 3:2-4.

12. PRINCIPLE
7. Choose your
friends/associates/partners. It is your
choice and by compulsion. Acts 4:13,
Pro.13:20, Pro.12:26.

13. PRINCIPLE
8. Learn to make and develop friendship
with the opposite sex. Avoid being
suspicious and defensive. Pro.14:7.

14. PRINCIPLE
9. Go for knowledge through literatures,
seminars, conferences, and audio-
visual materials. John 5:39, Pro.11:14.

15. PRINCIPLE
10. Look for a mentor, a spiritual father
or mother that you can confide in.
example is the relationship between
Naomi & Ruth, Mordecai & Esther.

16. CONCLUSION
 Decision determines destiny. Thank you
for listening.