A deck on women leadership based on Sheryl Sandberg's Lean In that I was lucky enough to present to a group of wonderful colleagues at my company.

1. Why do we need more women
leaders and how do we get there
Kasia Roth 2018/02/06

2. About Sheryl Sandberg
 Born in 1969
 Harvard graduate
 MBA at Harvard Business School
 Worked in the Clinton administration
 Google
 COO at Facebook
 Lean In published in 2013

3. Where we are today
The sad state of affairs

4. Women’s voices are not
heard equally
• 17 / 195 countries are led by women
• 35% of the seats in the European Parliament are
held by women
• 5% of the US top 500 companies are led by women
• Women earn 23% less in the US and 16% less in
Europe
“More and more often, I
was the only woman in
the room”
“It is time for us to face
the fact that the
revolution has stalled”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

5. Women internalize
discrimination
• A leadership ambition gap
• Among 1000 employees 36% of men aspired for a
role in the C suite compared to 18% of women
• Millennial women less likely to agree with the
statement “I aspire to a leadership role in whatever
field I ultimately work”
“When jobs are described
as powerful, challenging,
and involving high levels
of responsibility, they
appeal to more men than
women”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

6. Why do we need to change?
Aren’t we better off the way we are?

7. Increasing the talent
pool => increasing
performance
• If we tapped the entire pool of human resources
and talent, our collective performance would
improve
• Warren Buffet famously stated that he was lucky that
he only had to compete with half of the population
“When more people get
in the race, more records
will be broken”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

8. Conditions for all
women would improve
• Having women on leadership positions is the easiest
way of improving living conditions for all the women
• 2009 study reveals that sharing financial and child-
care responsibilities leads to less guilty moms, more
involved dads and thriving children
“What we need is more
women in power”
Leymah Gbowee, Nobel
Peace Prize 2011

9. Why should men build
products meant for
women?
Example from our area – ecommerce is used by more
women than men – why are ecommerce products
mostly designed and built by men?
“The quality, relevance, and
impact of the products and
services put out by the
technology sector can only be
improved by having the people
who are building them be
demographically representative
of the people who are using
them”
Tracy Chou, software
engineer at Quora and
Pinterest, women rights
advocate

10. How do we get there?
What can YOU do to change the world?

11. Two ways of making the
revolution happen
Change the institutions
OR
Internalise the revolution
1. Increase self-confidence
2. Get your partners to help you
3. Stop striving for perfection

12. Sit at the table
Be more confident (but don’t forget to smile…)

13. Impostor syndrome
• Women more likely than men to suffer from it
• Women judge their performance as worse than it is,
men as better
• This gets worse in male professions / environment
• Among a few thousand political candidates of equal
qualifications men were 60% more likely to think
they were very qualified for the office
“In addition to institutional
obstacles, women face a
battle from within”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

14. Missed opportunities
“I’m just not sure I’d be good at that”
“That sounds exciting, but I’ve never done anything like
it before”
Would a man say any of this?
“When we announced the
opening of a new office or
the launch of a new
project, the men were
banging down my door to
explain why they should
lead the charge”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

15. If you don’t have it –
fake it
• Be aware that you’re most likely more qualified than
you perceive yourself to be
• Faking self-confidence may help you feel more
confident
• Ask yourself : Would a man say/think that?
“To this day, I joke that I wish
I could spend a few hours
feeling as self-confident as
my brother. It must feel so,
so good”
“If we want a world with
greater equality, we need to
acknowledge that women
are less likely to keep their
hands up”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

16. They will not like it
• Likability is as important to succeed as competence
• Women who succeed in their jobs are not likeable –
it’s something you always need to keep in mind
• The key to survive is being relentlessly nice and
never forgetting to smile
“When a woman excels in her
job, both male an female
coworkers will remark that she
may be accomplishing a lot but
is “not as well-liked by her peers”
“too aggressive”
“not a team player”
“a bit political”
“difficult”
“can’t be trusted”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

17. Heidi v. Howard
• Students at Harvard Business School were presented
with two case studies –about Heidi Rozen and about
Howard Rozen
• Both described the same career in the same words.
Only the person’s sex has been changed
• Students declared they admired Howard but disliked
Heidi
“Success and likability are positively
correlated for men and negatively
correlated for women”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

18. They will not like it
• Likability is as important to succeed as competence
• Women who succeed in their jobs are not likeable –
it’s something you always need to keep in mind
• The key to survive is being relentlessly nice and
never forgetting to smile
“When a woman excels in her
job, both male an female
coworkers will remark that she
may be accomplishing a lot but
is “not as well-liked by her peers”
“too aggressive”
“not a team player”
“a bit political”
“difficult”
“can’t be trusted”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

19. Negotiate relentlessly…
and don’t forget to
smile
• DO’s:
• Advocate a common cause
• Explain what prompts you to negotiate (a senior partner told me…)
• Be relentlessly nice
• Use We
For women negotiating “is
like trying to cross a
minefield backward in
high heels”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

20. Negotiate relentlessly…
and don’t forget to
smile
• DON’T’s:
• Fall in the Tiara Syndrome trap
• Use men’s tactics (competitor is paying me more…)
• Present yourself as a victim of discrimination
“I know it is not a perfect
answer but a means to a
desirable end”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

21. Make your personal
choices personal
choices
• When you leave the workforce / refuse a promotion is
this really your choice?
“Imagine that a career is like
a marathon – a long,
grueling, and ultimately
rewarding endeavor ... The
male marathoners are
routinely cheered on:
‘Lookin’ strong! On your
way!’ But the female runners
hear a different message
‘You know you don’t have to
do this!’”
Sheryl Sandberg, Lean In

22. Make your partner a real partner
Get to 50/50

23. We’re nowhere near
50/50
• In the US mothers do 40% more child care and 30%
more housework (both parents being employed full
time)
“Half of the men in the
group listed ‘their
children’ as hobbies. A
hobby? For most mothers,
kids are not a hobby.
Showering is a hobby”

24. Let your partner help
you
• When husbands do more housework:
• Wives are less depressed
• Risk of divorce reduces
• Children fare better
• Couples have more sex
“When looking for a life
partner, my advice to
women is date all of
them: the bad boys, the
cool boys, the
commitment-phobic
boys, the crazy boys. But
do not marry them”

25. The myth of doing it all
Stop feeling guilty

26. Working moms are riddled with guilt
 Not working as much as their male colleagues
 Not spending as much time with their kids as their non-working friends
 Guilt management as important as time management
 Women excel at self-flagellation

27. Let’s start talking about it
Q & A’s