2. “It doesn't matter if you win or loose, it's how good you looked” -david lee roth Roth, David Lee. Interview with Martha Quinn. MTV Video Music Awards. 1984
3. Theories of Interpersonal Communication: Face Management Face: Our public self-image Facework: The maintenance of our presented self-image.
4. Preventative Facework Corrective Facework Avoiding face loss “I don’t know about that, but how bout the weather?” Restoring lost face “Oh, I’m sorry” Face Management
5. Politeness Theory Positive face need – the desire to be valued and included by others whom we care about. Negative face need – desire to be free from imposition, constraint, or intrusion.
6. Assumptions that guide politeness theory Threats to both positive and negative face need are a natural, daily occurrence in everyday human interaction. Face-threatening acts are complex, and speech acts that threaten face may proceed in a variety of ways Presumes that any rational agent will seek to avoid face threatening acts, or will employ strategies to minimize threat
10. Uncertainty Strategies Passive strategy – observe the person from afar Active strategy – manipulate the environment Interactive strategy – engaging in direct, face-to-face interaction
11. WE TRY TO MINIMIZE OUR COSTS AND MAXIMZE OUR REWARDS IN RELATIONSHIPS. Social Penetration Theory Accentuate Positives Hide Negatives
12. In SPT, we tell them what they want to hear. In URT, we tell them what wethink they want to hear. As we get closer to someone, we disclose more, like the layers of an onion.From basic info to specific personality traits.
16. Responses to dialectics Selection: selecting and satisfying one opposite while disregarding the other Alternation: alternating between the opposites, choosing to meet the needs of one opposite at a time Segmentation: the choice to satisfy y one need in one relational situation while satisfying the opposite need in a different situation. Neutralization: compromising and finding a balance of happy medium.
17. Communication Boundary Management The four concepts of CBM Formation or upbringing Coordination of boundary rules Coordination Turbulence
18. Rumors Wish Rumors Communication Isn’t Always Positive Buy the rumor, sell the fact. Wisner, Bob. Farmer's Digest. 1976 “I heard George Clooney is dating Jennifer Aniston!” “I heard Uncle Ted is buying a corvette!”
