Prenatal exposure to alcohol causes irreparable brain damage creating "swiss cheese brains" with gaps and impaired functionality. Infant maltreatment and neglect post birth exacerbates the challenges. Using 4 avatars to illustrate typical scenarios Helen Oakwater raises issues, questions and offers some reframing for parents and professionals. Bottom line. DO NOT CONSUME ANY ALCOHOL IF AT RISK OF PREGNANCY otherwise you condemn your child (and yourself) to a tougher life with learning and health issues from birth to death.
Its not just the booze. FASD + maltreatment & neglect EUFASD2016 conference London
1. How consequences of maltreatment and
neglect overlap with FASD symptoms
A workshop with Helen Oakwater
15 September 2016: EUFASD Conference
“It’s not just the booze”
@helenoakwater
#EUFASD2016
2. • Adoptive Parent
• Siblings aged 2,4,5 now 25+
• Teacher (11-18: PE & maths)
• NLP & mBIT Coach & Trainer
• Post Grad Attachment & Adoption
(Family Futures)
• Government Task Force
• Trustee Adoption UK
• Explorer & Learner
• Swimmer, Diver, Yogi
• “UNDERSTANDING”
• tears & sadness
• guilt & shame
• anger & fear
2
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4. Frame setting: Intention
‘Foetal Alcohol Spectrum Disorder’
‘FASD’ not alphabet soup terms
Pragmatic & useful
FASD: “swiss cheese brain”
(This presentation is part of a full FASD training day, so I will not repeat
or cover specific FASD material - you can join the dots)
7. Secure Attached Cycle
“NORMAL” CHILD DEVELOPMENT
Baby experiences
discomfort or a need
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Baby calms TRUST develops
Baby plays and interacts
with mother
Baby rests
Mother picks baby up,
eye contact, talks to and
soothes baby
8. I am safe
I am loved
I am cared for
I am valued
I can trust adults
I’m special
I’m okay
It’s a safe place
People love me
People care for me
There is a place for me here
I am important to them
The world is okay
ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
+ Child’s View of Self and World
10. THE INADEQUATE
PARENTS
constantly focussing on their own problems, they turn their
children into “mini adults” who take care of them
THE
CONTROLLERS
they use guilt, manipulation, and even over helpfulness to direct
their children’s lives
THE ALCOHOLICS
*(DRUG ABUSERS)*
mired in a denial and chaotic mood swings, their addiction leaves
little time or energy for the demands of parenthood.
Toxic Parenting
CLASSIFIED BY DR SUSAN FORWARD IN HER BOOK “TOXIC PARENTS” 1989
** In 1989 Dr Forward did not include drug abusers though similar issues would apply now
11. THE VERBAL
ABUSERS
whether overtly abusive or subtly sarcastic, they demoralise their
children with constant put downs and rob them of their self
confidence.
THE PHYSICAL
ABUSERS
incapable of controlling their own deep seated rage they often
blame their children for their own ungovernable behaviour
THE SEXUAL
ABUSERS
whether flagrantly sexual or covertly seductive, they are the
ultimate betrayers, destroying the very heart of childhood - its
innocence.
Toxic Parenting
CLASSIFIED BY DR SUSAN FORWARD IN HER BOOK “TOXIC PARENTS” 1989
18. Disturbed Attachment Cycle
“DISTORTED” CHILD DEVELOPMENT
Baby protests
even louder
Baby rests
Baby experiences discomfort or
a need
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Mother does not responds
to baby’s cry or else
responds inconsistently
Baby gives up. Trust does not
develop. RAGE or APATHY
develops instead…
Baby plays with self or
becomes apathetic
19. I am not safe
I’m scared
I am not cared for
I am unlovable
I’m ignored
I’m not valued
I’m bad
It’s a terrifying hostile world
People hurt you
Dangerous place
There is no place for me
I am not important
The world is not okay
POOR ATTACHMENT BETWEEN CHILD AND OTHERS
I’m alone
- Child’s View of Self and World
21. 6 Stages of Alcohol Intoxication
EUPHORIA
EXCITEMENT
CONFUSION
STUPOR
COMA
DEATH
22. Euphoria
EUPHORIA
From www.drug-rehabs.org
mild euphoria & feeling of pleasure
inhibitions decrease
excessive talkativeness
increased confidence levels
increased sociability
alcohol diminishes functioning of Central Nervous
System
lowered attention span
impairment of sensory & motor coordination
slow processing of information & lack of efficiency
Blood Alcohol Concentration (g per 100ml of blood)
BAC 0.03 -0.12
23. Excitement
EXCITEMENTinstability in emotions
impairment of perception, memory and comprehension
loss of judgement skills
lowered self-control
decreased sensory response
increased reaction time
vision and speech reduced vision acuity & peripheral vision,
slow glare recovery & slurred speech
impaired balance, disturbed sensory motor coordination
vomiting, nausea and drowsiness.
adult becomes unusually passive or argumentative
From www.drug-rehabs.org
BAC 0.09 -0.25
24. Confusion
CONFUSIONintellectual as well as psychological symptoms enhanced
mental confusion
disorientation
exaggerated emotional states (euphoria and pleasure
fades to anxiety and restlessness)
excessive grief, fear, phobia, rage, paranoia & other
emotions
muscle incoordination increases staggered gait & ataxia
disturbance in vision, perception and vertigo
apathy/ lethargy towards everything
deterioration in personal hygiene or appearance
From www.drug-rehabs.org
BAC 0.18 -0.34
25. Stupor
STUPORdecreased response to stimuli
marked muscle incoordination
urine or stool incontinence
gradual loss of motor functions
impaired consciousness- state of stupor
loss of memory
drinker unable to recall certain events or names
From www.drug-rehabs.org
Blood Alcohol Concentration
BAC 0.25 -0.40
26. Coma
COMAperson goes to complete unconsciousness or coma
reflexes completely depressed
severe respiratory and circulation impairment
internal temperature low
skin is cold & clammy
From www.drug-rehabs.org
Blood Alcohol Concentration
BAC 0.35 -0.50
27. Death
DEATHperson dies due to cardiac arrest
From www.drug-rehabs.org
Blood Alcohol Concentration: (g per 100ml of blood)
BAC 0.45+++
28. Disturbed Attachment Cycle
“DISTORTED” CHILD DEVELOPMENT
Baby protests
even louder
Baby rests
Baby experiences discomfort or
a need
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Mother does not responds
to baby’s cry or else
responds inconsistently
Baby gives up. Trust does not
develop. RAGE or APATHY
develops instead…
Baby plays with self or
becomes apathetic
32. Secure Attached Cycle
“NORMAL” CHILD DEVELOPMENT
Baby experiences
discomfort or a need
Baby protests,
usually by crying
Baby calms TRUST develops
Baby plays and interacts
with mother
Baby rests
Mother picks baby up,
eye contact, talks to and
soothes baby
35. NEWSLOWEST
Triune Brain (Maclean)
3 PARTS: EVOLVED RESPONDING TO EVOLUTIONARY NEED
ASE (REPTILIAN BRAIN) HINDBRAIN
B
Brain Stem, physical survival, breathing,
excretion, blood flow, temperature, other
autonomic functions
MOTIONAL LIMBIC SYSTEM
E
Hippocampus, amygdala, hypothalamus.
HINKING NEOCORTEX
T
Cerebral cortex, forebrain
FASTEST OLD
Seat of emotions
Seat of reason
36. What is Trauma?
Psychological trauma is generally defined by two
conditions. An individual experiences either:
Overwhelming
affect
(experience of
feeling or emotion)
They are unable to
integrate
The
feeling / belief
that they
might die
or
37. Types of Trauma
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
e.g. Shell shock
Complex Trauma
Developmental Trauma Disorder (DTD)
Secondary Trauma
i.e Witness / hear / live with
ADULTS
CHILDREN
41. 41
THALMUS
“relay station”
AMYGDALA
threat?
HIPPOCAMPUS
relates new input to
past experiences
ANTERIOR CINGUATE
coordinates emotions
& thinking
HYPOTHALAMUS
sends stress hormones
to defend against threat
MEDIAL
PREFRONTAL
CORTEX
“LOW ROAD” “HIGH ROAD”COOK
SMOKE
DETECTOR
WATCH TOWER
YES
NO
0.1sec
faster
internal body signals external source
see, hear, feel, smell, taste
YES
NO
Has
danger
passed?
?
?
Oakwater’s diagram based on
Bessel Van Der Kolk’s description
in The Body Keeps The Score
“Normal”
amygdala/brain
Functioning
45. 45
THALMUS
“relay station”
AMYGDALA
threat?
HIPPOCAMPUS
relates new input to
past experiences
ANTERIOR CINGUATE
coordinates emotions
& thinking
HYPOTHALAMUS
sends stress hormones
to defend against threat
MEDIAL
PREFRONTAL
CORTEX
“LOW ROAD” “HIGH ROAD”COOK
SMOKE
DETECTOR
WATCH TOWER
YES
NO
0.1sec
faster
internal body signals external source
see, hear, feel, smell, taste
YES
NO
Has
danger
passed?
?
?
Oakwater’s diagram based on
Bessel Van Der Kolk’s description
in The Body Keeps The Score
“Normal”
amygdala/brain
Functioning
46. 46
THALMUS
“relay station”
AMYGDALA
threat?
HIPPOCAMPUS
relates new input to
past experiences
ANTERIOR CINGUATE
coordinates emotions
& thinking
HYPOTHALAMUS
sends stress hormones
to defend against threat
MEDIAL
PREFRONTAL
CORTEX
Cortisol
Adrenaline
“LOW ROAD” “HIGH ROAD”COOK
SMOKE
DETECTOR
WATCH TOWER
YES
NO
0.1sec
faster
internal body signals external source
see, hear, feel, smell, taste
YESNO
Has
danger
passed?
?
?
Oakwater’s diagram based on
Bessel Van Der Kolk’s description
in The Body Keeps The Score
“overreactive”
amygdala in
“traumatised” brain
Possibility of “Looping” because
amygdala is ‘oversensitive” due
to excessive exposure to trauma.
Creating “Faulty alarm system”.
NO
50. 1. Regulate (you & them)
2. Relate
3. Reason
Three step process
“Dysregulated children in school
will not learn”: Dr Bruce Perry
Simple
Consistent
Open
51. What is Trauma?
Psychological trauma is generally defined by two
conditions. An individual experiences either:
Overwhelming
affect
(experience of
feeling or emotion)
They are unable to
integrate
The
feeling / belief
that they
might die
or
54. 54
Parenting styles required
Therapeutic Reparenting
Good Enough (Winnicot)
Excellent Normal Parenting
Poor Normal Parenting
Aamy & Tim
Bob
Norm
Norm
Toxic Parenting
55. Why Therapeutic Reparenting
What’s “normal”? What’s not?
PARENTING: Good enough v Deficient
CHILD DEVELOPMENT: Normal v Distorted
(DEVELOPMENTAL PARENTING)
56. “Normal parents”
“Good Enough is enough”
They understand and
witnessed their child's
past
“His-story” “Her-story”
Permanently parenting
another persons child
Blank pages, missing data
Unknown traumas, events,
triggers
Inaccurate / misleading
story or lies
General lack of
understanding
Therapeutic Reparenting “Normal” Parenting
57. Melt the trauma
Recalibrate and calm the body
Rewire the brain
Truth telling so child’s story matches their sensory
experiences and body memories
Therapeutic Reparenting
Therapeutic = Melting trauma
58. Therapeutic Reparenting
Recognizing missed developmental experiences
(broken and missing bricks)
Provide them in age appropriate ways
Parent the child you have, not the fantasy image
Reparenting = Filling in the Gaps
59. “It takes a village to raise a child,
a town to raise a challenging child
and an entire city to raise a
traumatised child.”
Helen Oakwater
What do traumatised children
need?
60. Therapeutic Reparenting FASD
Recognise, accept and parent the child you have
not the fantasy image
Grieve for your loss and shattered expectations
Become a Leading Learner
Extreme self care
Futureproof: You and them
61. Therapeutic Reparenting
Theraplay model
Structure HIGH - repeat, visual, map it out
Nurture HIGH - arousal level, window of
tolerance
Engagement HIGH - (exec functioning poor)
Challenge LOW - low stress
Futureproof: You and them
63. 63
“Insanity is doing the same thing over and over
again and expecting different results”
“You can’t solve a problem with the
same level of thinking that created it”
66. NEWSLOWEST
Triune Brain (Maclean)
3 PARTS: EVOLVED RESPONDING TO EVOLUTIONARY NEED
ASE (REPTILIAN BRAIN) HINDBRAIN
B
Brain Stem, physical survival, breathing,
excretion, blood flow, temperature, other
autonomic functions
MOTIONAL LIMBIC SYSTEM
E
Hippocampus, amygdala, hypothalamus.
HINKING NEOCORTEX
T
Cerebral cortex, forebrain
FASTEST OLD
Seat of emotions
Seat of reason
67. FREE RESOURCES - articles, links, podcasts, etc
LEARNING PLATFORM & TOOLS
ONLINE TRAINING - various audiences
FUTURE-PROOFING - evidence & thinking
REAL and honest
EXPERTS in various fields (coaching, leadership,
communication skills, trauma, etc)
LEADING LEARNER principles
FABParents.co.uk
68. How consequences of maltreatment and
neglect overlap with FASD symptoms
A workshop with Helen Oakwater
15 September 2016: EUFASD Conference
“It’s not just the booze”