2. Everyone has known a “nice girl”. She is the woman who will over compensate,
giving everything a man she barely knows, without him having to invest much in
the relationship. She is the woman who gives blindly because she wants so much
for her attentions to be reciprocated, she is the woman who goes along with what
she thinks her man will like or want because she wants to keep the relationship at
all costs. Every woman, at some point, has been there. Why does a man run from a
woman who chases him? He runs because of woman’s behavior doesn’t suggest
that she places a high value on herself. The fact that she is willing to
overcompensate to a virtual stranger immediately suggests one of the things.
He either assumes she is desperate or he’ll assume she’s willing to sleep with all
men right away or both. What gets lost is his appreciation for her extra effect. A
dream girl, and the other hand, won’t kill herself to impress anyone. This is why the
woman he really fall in love with doesn’t serve a four-course meal and won’t see
her breaking out the fancy China, either. She’ll start out cooking him a one-course
meal (popcorn or chips) no fancy doilies. Six months later, the same woman
throws together a meal and puts down a hot plate in front of him and what does he
say to himself? “Man! I’m special!”
It doesn’t matter if it is rich with tomato sauce, he’ll say, “this is the best rice I have
ever had in my life”…! Now he feels like a king. And the only difference is the
amount of time and effort he had to invest, first he didn’t get it all right up front and
he appreciated it more.
2
3. This isn’t about how to play a game or how to manipulate someone. This is about
whether you are genuinely needy, or whether you can genuinely show him that u will be
an equal partner in the relationship. It’s about whether you are capable of holding your
own in a relationship.
What would happen if you let him know from day one that you are willing to bend over
backward? He would think you are desperate, and he would want to see just how far u
would be willing to bend. It is a basic human nature.
The more malleable u would be become, the more he would expect you to bend. He will
instantly perceive you as a Duracell battery, as in, “just how far she will go? How much
can I get out of her?
Nice girls need to know what a bitch understands. Overcompensating or being too eager
to please will lessen a man’s respect; it will give the kiss of death to his attraction, and it
will put a time limit on the relationship. The nice girl makes the mistake of being
available all the time. “I don’t want to play games” she says. So, she let him see how
afraid she is to be without him and he soon come to feel as though he has a 100% hold
on her. This is often the point when women begin to complain “He doesn’t make enough
time for me. He is not as romantic as he used to be”. While the bitch is more selective
about her availability, she is available sometimes; other times she’s not. But she is nice.
Nice enough, that is, to consider his preference for when he would like to see her so that
she can sometimes accommodate them. Translation? No 100% hold. 3
4. Your time with him is telling. The nice girl sits in a chair after a week of
knowing the guy, bored out of her mind as he does something that
interests him. He may be watching sports on TV, cleaning his fishing
gear, or drinking with his buddies, she is miserable but does not say a
peep, instead, she tries to make the best of it and twiddle her thumbs
politely, just so she can be in his company. But the bitch, on the other
hand, makes plenty of peeps. In fact she is bitching the whole way
through. This is not a bad thing, because then he knows he can’t walk all
over her. But remember, a mental challenge has little to do with being
verbally combative. It has to do with your actions and how much of
yourself you are willing to give up. A man’s love comes from his
stomach,” they say. That is true, but no one said to slave for six hours to
feed him. Whether he eats out or your order takes out, the stomach is
full, and there is plenty of love to go around. Rule of thumb, if it is warm,
he will eat it. The rest is wasted effort. Women are conditioned to give
themselves away. I have yet to see a man’s magazine with an article on
how to cook a woman a four-course meal. I raised the issue of cooking
because it is one of many ways women overcompensate. This doesn’t
mean you should forgo cooking altogether perhaps it is your anniversary,
and you have been together a whole year or perhaps it is his birthday,
and you want to do something special for him.
4
5. 4. THE BIGGEST VARIABLE BETWEEN A BITCH AND A WOMAN
WHO IS TOO NICE IS FEAR. THE BITCH SHOWS THAT SHE’S NOT
AFRAID TO BE WITHOUT HIM
Margaret Atwood said, “Fear has a smell as love does” it
is said that excitement and fear come from the same
part of the brain. When a man is slightly afraid of losing
a woman, his excitement is picked.
His psyche is like a plant. It needs water but also air to
breathe. To give a man too much reassurance too soon
is the same as over watering a plant it kills it. One of the
things women have to get out of their mindset is the
notion of what a bitch is. A bitch is nice, she is as sweet
as a Georgia peach, she smiles and she is feminine,
she just doesn’t make decisions based on the fear of
losing a man. The difference between the bitch and the
nice is not so much in their personalities or in their
demeanor. It has nothing to do with how abrasive a
woman is. A bitch is bitch with her actions, because she
is not willing to give herself up. 5
6. 5. IF THE CHOICE IS BETWEEN HER DIGNITY AND HAVING
A RELATIONSHIP, THE BITCH WILL PRIORITIZE HER
DIGNITY ABOVE ALL ELSE
The bitch remains the person she is throughout her
relationship with a man., she doesn’t lose her
friends, she doesn’t give up her career or her
hobbies. She doesn’t give up all of her time or bend
over backward and unlike the nice girl she is not too
tolerant of disrespect. She also keeps her edge and
has enormous self respect; she holds the conviction
that her self-worth governs her decisions. Because
she is not afraid, ironically he becomes afraid to
lose her. Because she is not needy, he starts to
need her. Because she is not dependent on him, he
begins to depend on her. It’s like a reverse magnet.
The person who is least dependent on the outcome
of the relationship will automatically draw the other
person in.
6
7. I will conclude this presentation by re-defining
the word Bitch
Think of it as a “term of endearment”. A bitch is
not a woman who speaks in a harsh tone of voice
or nags. It is not a woman who is abrasive or
undue. She is polite but clear, she communicates
directly with a man, in much the same way men
communicate with one another. In this way, it’s
easier for a man to deal with her than with a
woman who waffles or appear too emotional. The
bitch knows what she likes and has an easier
time expressing it directly. As a result, she
usually gets what she wants.
7
8. 8
1. She maintains her independence
It doesn’t matter if she is the CEO of a
company or a waitress at a bar. She
earns an honest living, she has honour,
and she isn’t standing there with her
hand out.
2. She doesn’t pursue him
The moon and the sun and the stars
don’t revolve around him. She doesn’t
make her date with him when her
horoscope advices that his big Mercury
is about to retrograde in her little Venus.
She doesn’t chase him or keeps tabs on
him. He is not the centre of the world.
3. She is Mysterious (unpredictable)
There is a difference between honesty
and disclosure. She is honest butt does
not reveal everything; she isn’t verbally
putting her cards on the table.
Familiarity breeds contempt and
predictability breeds boredom.
4. She leaves him wanting
She doesn’t see him every night or leave
long messages on his machine. She isn’t
on a first-name basis with his secretary in
one week. Men equate longing with love,
longing is good.
5. She doesn’t let him see her sweat
She Keeps communication from getting
messy and avoids communication when
upset. When she clears her head, she is
succinct and speaks in a “bottom line” way.
6. She remains in control of her time
She takes it slowly, especially when he
wants to hurry. She moves to her rhythm
not his, preventing him from taking control
of her.
7. She maintains a sense of humor
A sense of humor lets him know she is
detached. However, she doesn’t treat
disrespect as a laughing matter.
9. 9
8. She place a high value on herself
When he gives her compliments, she
says thank you. She doesn’t talk him
out of it; she doesn’t ask what the ex
looked like and doesn’t compete with
other women.
9. She is passionate about something
other than him
When he feels he isn’t the “be all and
end all” of her existence, it makes her
more desirable. Staying busy ensures
she isn’t resentful if he is unavailable.
He doesn’t have a monopoly on the
rent space in her head. He doesn’t
get park space, and he doesn’t get
boardwalk. He gets one of those little
purple properties next to GO.
10.She treats her body like a finely
tuned machine
She maintains her appearance and
health. A person’s self-respect is
reflected in how he or she maintains
physical appearance. If he tells her
he doesn’t like red lipstick, she wears
it anyway if it makes her feel good.
