6. Shar
pen
the S
aw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Interdependenc
Seek First to
Understand
e Synergize
… Then to be
Understood
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think Win/Win
Independence
Put First
Things First
PRIVATE
VICTORY
Be
Proactive
Begin with
the End in Mind
Dependence
11. You can choose your language
Reactive:
I must
Proactiv
e:
If only
I prefer
They made
me
I will
If I had
I can be
I choose
12. S IX L EVELS
OF I NITIATIVE
6
Use own judgement, not necessary to report
5
Use own judgement, report routinely
4
Use own judgement, report immediately
3
Bring recommendations
2
Ask for instructions
1
Wait for instructions
13. B E P ROACTIVE
I can forgive, forget, and let
go of past injustices
I choose my attitude,
emotions, and moods
I’m the creative force
of my life
I’m aware that I’m
responsible
14.
15. The Habit of Personal Leadership
Write your MISSION STATEMENT
•Identify Roles and Goals:
–What are all of the roles that you play every day
–What are the goals that you have for each of these roles?
–Did you discover roles that you didn’t previously think
about?
–How did your priorities line up in reality with what you
wrote?
21. The 80/20 Rule
Products
20 percent of the products bring in
80 percent of the profit
Reading
20 percent of the book contains 80
percent of the content
Donations
20 percent of the people will give 80
percent of the money
Leadership 20 percent of the people will make
80 percent of the decisions
Picnic
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20 percent of the people will eat 80
percent of the food!
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22. Shar
pen
the S
aw
THE SEVEN HABITS PARADIGM
Interdependenc
Seek First to
Understand
e Synergize
… Then to be
Understood
PUBLIC
VICTORY
Think Win/Win
Independence
Put First
Things First
PRIVATE
VICTORY
Be
Proactive
Begin with
the End in Mind
Dependence
23.
24.
25. The Habit of
Interpersonal Leadership
SIX PARADIGMS OF HUMAN INTERACTION
Win-Win
Win-Lose
Lose-Win
Lose-Lose
Win
Win-Win or No-Deal
26. FOUR DIMENSIONS OF WIN-WIN
Integrity, Maturity
Character
Relationships
Mutual Commitment
Trust
Agreements
Systems
& Processes
Deep Understanding of Issues
& Concerns
32. The Habit of
Empathic Communication
Ignoring
Pretend Listening
Selective Listening
Attentive Listening
Empathic Listening
Making no effort to listen
Making believe or giving the appearance you
are listening
Hearing only the parts of the conversation
that interest you.
Paying attention and focusing on what the
speaker says, and comparing that to your
own experiences.
Listening and responding with both the heart
and mind to understand the speaker’s words,
intent and feelings.
34. The Habit of
Creative Cooperation
To Synergize is
•Results-oriented, positive synergy
To Synergize is Not
•A brainstorming free-for-all.
•Examining exploring, seeking diverse
perspectives openly enough to alter or
complete your paradigm
•Accepting others’ ideas as full truth.
•Cooperating
•Win-lose competition.
•Having a mutually agreed-upon end in mind.
•Group think (giving in to peer pressure).
•Worth the effort and highly effective
•Always easy.
•A process.
•Only a negotiation technique.
36. F OUR D IMENSIONS
OF
R ENEWAL
PHYSICAL
Exercise, Nutrition,
Stress Management
MENTAL
Reading, Visualizing,
Planning, Writing
SOCIAL/EMOTIONAL
Service, Empathy,
Synergy, Essential Security
SPIRITUAL
Value Clarification
& Commitment, Study
& Meditation
37. T HE U PWARD S PIRAL
Commit
Do
Learn
Commit
Do
Learn
Do
Commit
Learn
Do
Commit
Learn
38. P ARADIGM S HIFTS
A BREAK FROM
TRADITIONAL WISDOM
TOWARD
7 HABITS PRINCIPLES
Habit 1
We are a product of our environment
and upbringing.
Habit 2
Society is the source of our values.
Habit 3
Reactive to of the urgent need. Acted
upon by the environment.
We are a product of our choices to our
environment and upbringing.
Values are self-chosen and provide
foundation for decision making. Values
flow out of principles.
Actions flow from that which is
important.
Habit 4
Win-lose.
One-sided benefit.
Win-win.
Mutual benefit.
Habit 5
Fight, flight, or compromise when
faced with conflict.
Communication solves problems.
Habit 6
Differences are threats.
Independence is the highest value.
Unity means sameness.
Differences are values and are
opportunities for synergy.
Habit 7
Burnout on one track - typically work. Continuous self-renewal and selfimprovement.
39. P ERSONAL I MMUNE S YSTEM
Time wasters
Interruptions
Live the Seven Habits
Spend time
in Quadrant II
Follow correct
principles
Pressing
problems
Crises
Control own life
Maintain high
Emotional Bank
Account with self
and others
Maintain reserve
capacity
Be resilient
Empower and
serve others
Communicate
Empathically
Synergize with
others using a
win-win approach
Duplicity
Unkindness
Violated
expectations
Outside stress
and pressures
The first three habits help develop a deep base of character and
personal security . Once these 3 habits become part of who you are
you are then ready to begin building rich enduring highly
productive relationships with other people and that’s where habits
four, five and six come in.
These are the habits that lead to interdependent relationships. Habit Four : Think Win-win The attitude of seeking solutions, so that every one can win. Do this by communicating. This is done by Habit Five
Habit Five : Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Habit Six : This is the habit of creative co-operation – Synergy This happens when two sides in a dispute work together to come with a solution which is better than what either side initially proposed.
Integrity – People of Integrity are true to their feelings, values and commitments.
Maturity – Mature people express their ideas and feelings with courage and with consideration for the ideas and feelings of others. Relationships
Demonstrate consistent actions that convince people that they have a well-earned
reputation for honesty, integrity and loyalty. Their actions are consistent with their
behaviour, decisions and position.
Communicate clear expectations. Seek other ideas and listen with empathy.
Synergy
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts. Synergy takes place when two or more people produce more together than the sum of what they could have produces separately.