1. Art of White Lie
January 10, 2021
Honesty, integrity and truth are cornerstones of a loving life. All my
close connections in life have no censorship that requires walking
on thin ice for fear of at least a verbal reaction that downsizes any
love. The unimpeded flow of communication is a never ending
delight and gift that one always wants and enjoys more of. The
need to censor anything is a block to the love that can be. Of
course, some relationships don’t allow free thought and
connections, in which case it’s best to ‘harmoniously position’ yourself to them for the best
connection even if it’s just a smile.
We all find occasion to reject and resist another person. It’s a great feeling of course to not
have to go through that experience, but sometimes the ‘pains’ of the lack of smooth
communication can, motivate to find ways to rise about it where there are no clouds of rain and
storms. We all like to put up a fight against anything we dislike. But we forget that when we
decide we will resist something or somebody, either mentally or physically, we only empower
the object of our resistance, either in reality or in our own minds.
When, and if, you want to enjoy the ability to influence, always start with
acceptance. If you want to disarm another, begin with acceptance. If you want to
encourage and empower another to change, start with acceptance. Don’t make it
conditional. Otherwise it’s just resistance disguised as
acceptance, and you are still trying to control them. Call it a bit
of deception to land you both on a more congenial
wavelength. It has a sense of a ‘white lie’. White lies are always
to not hurt anyone but may make the connection on any
matter more acceptable.
I’m the first to admit that having enjoyed the bliss of being not
only on the same page as someone, but on the same line of
thought at all times. Still experiencing anyone who is
challenged by their own internal way of communication, requires
an art of navigation that can certainly be worth the outcome.
Have an open heart, but a flexible attitude especially where
communication is like navigating a roaring stream while avoiding the
dangerous rocks in the way of moving on. In a sense, the moments of rocky
communications, metastasizes or contaminates all meanings of attempted dialog. Everything is
not as it seems sometimes. Well, well, well … and especially
in the world as it is now. Even most love is tainted with revolving truth and lies, but if truth be
know, not the kind of love that anyone wants. To find love, always focus on the positive,
sensitive truth, and leave the only lies as ones with a ‘wink’. The path of the evolving spiritual is
the path of love.
Arhata~
