Ji-Hye Jean, MA, LMHC leads an engaging discussion about the effects of pornography on the brain and interpersonal relationships in order to increase understanding and cohesive family connections that can lead to recovery. Some topics include a definition of pornography, facts and statistics about the pornography industry, the difference between shame and guilt and habit and addiction; the role or therapy, group sessions, and ecclesiastical support; as well as resources for families to protect, fortify, and have an ongoing safe discussion in our homes. so we can confront this destructive substance as a cohesive unit rather than be fractured by the onslaught of pornographic media around us.

1. Fortifying Our Homes
Ji-Hye Jean, MA, LMHC

2. What is Pornography?
Explicit sexual content in the form of pictures,
varying forms of media, or reading material
that is sexually arousing or used for the
purpose of sexual arousal.

3. The Facts…
Average age of exposure: 6 years old
Pornography industry INTENTIONALLY
targets younger kids
8 out 10 families now have a child or parent
struggling with pornography addiction

4. The Facts…
2016 Statistics posted by PornHub

5. The Facts…

6. The New Thing

7. Addiction
Addiction: The use of a substance or activity
for the purpose of lessening pain or
augmenting pleasure, by a person who has
lost control over the rate, frequency, or
duration of its use, and whose life has
become progressively unmanageable as a
result
basically: emotional mismanagement

8. Signs of Addiction
• Inability to consistently ABSTAIN
• Impairment in BEHAVIORAL control
• CRAVING; or increased “hunger” for rewarding experiences
• DIMINISHED recognition of significant problems with one’s
behavior and relationship with self and others
• An unhealthy EMOTIONAL response

9. *Front lobe functioning significantly decreased
*More addictive than drugs - more hormones
released with use
*Process addiction
*Withdrawal symptoms

10. Types of Addiction
Arousal
Dislike boredom and crave the rush of adrenaline
Satiation
Seek relief from an already hyper-arousal state. Endorphins supply the
neurotransmitter boost for this style.
Fantasy
The neurotransmitter dopamine creates the “feel good” condition in this
style. Characterized by preoccupation, fantasies, and dreams.

12. Control & Release
Control
“I’m going to do everything right”
“I’m going to exercise, read my scriptures, pray, write in my journal, etc.
EVERYDAY.”
“I can totally do this… on my own.”
False sense of motivation.
Sets unrealistic goals.
Perfection mentality.
“White-knuckling”

13. Control & Release
Release
“I’m such a failure because I couldn't even make it 2 days.”
“I’m not going to be able to do it anyway so why even try.”
False motivation gone - doesn’t last for very long, weeks, maybe a
month…
“Gives up”
Shame and Hopelessness sets in
Acting out starts again (addiction cycle starts)

14. Help for Habit vs. Addiction
Habit: spiritual practices may be enough
Habit: open and honest discussion may be enough
Habit: parental accountability may be enough
Addiction: professional help from specialist is necessary
Addiction: therapeutic group important
Addiction: marriage/family therapy and change in
marriage/family system IMPORTANT!

15. Family Dynamics
FAMILY
ADAPTABILITY
RIGID CHAOTIC

16. FAMILY COHESION
DISENGAGED ENMESHED

17. Rigid
Disengaged
Chaotic
Enmeshed
STRUCTURED FLEXIBLE
SEPARATED CONNECTED
Fear-Based Fear-Based

18. Mistakes Are Ok
Re-engage
Repair
Redo

19. Age Appropriate Discussions
Guilt vs. Shame
3-7 years old
8-11 years old
12 + years old

20. Internet Filters & Parental Control
Open DNS
Net Angel
TeenSafe
Net Nanny
Circle with Disney

21. Resources for Help
LifeStar
SA Lifeline
Fight The New Drug/Fortify