5. A study of 50,000 couples revealed the Top 10 qualities of Highly satisfied Remarriage
couples:
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Satisfaction with and acceptance of the personality of your partner
Healthy communication
Ability to resolve couple conflict
Shared couple leisure activity
Strong couple flexibility and adaptability
Good financial management and shared values for handling money
Health sexuality and affection within the relationship
Positive shared friendships and healthy boundaries with extended family that support
the couple
Successful management of the complexities of living in a step family
Positive couple closeness and emotional safety.
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6. On a scale of 1(low) and 10 (excellent) grade your relationships on each of the Top
ten Qualities:
share your answer personally with your partner
Decide which item requires attention first
Create a written plan to overcome the issue
measure and share your results weekly (I.e on a date night)
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7. Some interesting statistics regarding marriage
nearly half of all marriages do not survive
An additional 25% of marriages that don’t end in divorce are DISSATISFYING
Second marriages crash and burn 60 % of the time
Third marriages crash and burn 73 % of the time
Couples bringing children into the new family divorce 50% more than those with no
children
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8. This course if offered to change those statistics and help us become a successful step
family.
The health of each of the step parents and the ability to manage the attributes and
actions on our children are the two defining attributes that make or break a step
family.
Remarriage is not only about the couples' ability to cope with change, but also about
our past and our children in the present.
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9. Remarriage is not only about the couples' ability to cope with change, but also about
our past and our children in the present.
** See couple's positioning system (CPD) @ couplecheckup.com ($29.95)
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10. Key Strengths of Highly Satisfied Remarriage Couples
1. Satisfaction with and acceptance of the personality of your partner.
2. Healthy communication.
3. An ability to resolve couple conflict.
4. Shared couple leisure activity.
5. Strong couple flexibility and adaptability.
6. Good financial management and shared values for handling money.
7. Healthy sexuality and affection within the relationship.
8. Positive shared friendships and healthy boundaries with extended family that
support the couple.
9. Successful management of the complexities of living in a stepfamily.
10. Positive couple closeness and emotional safety.
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11. Top Ten Statements Predicting Health
Items are in order of how closely they relate to couple satisfaction.
1. One partner's moodiness is not an issue in our relationship.
2. Each of us feels understood by the other.
3. We are able to resolve our differences.
4. We enjoy many of the same leisure activities.
5. We are creative in how we handle our differences.
6. We agree on how to spend money.
7. Affection is used fairly in our relationship and sexuality is healthy.
8. Neither of us is overly involved or influenced by his/her family or previous partner.
9. We have worked out parent and stepparent responsibilities and roles.
10. Each of us feels close to the other.
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12. Remarriage Stumbling Blocks
Items are in Rank Order
1They expect difficulty dealing with complex stepfamily issues(88%)
2They believe having children from previous relationships will put an additional strain
on their marriage(86%)
3Creating a stepfamily puts more stress on their relationship(85%)
4Having different patterns of child rearing in their birth family can be
problematic(82%)
5They expect stepfamily adjustment to be difficult(78%)
6They don't have a specific plan for money management(73%)
7They have concerns over unpaid bills, debts, or settlements(66%)
8They feel their partner is too stubborn(65%)
9 One or both of the partners goes out of their way to avoid conflict with the
other(63%)
10 They have a fear of another marital failure(63%)
11 One or both partners feel responsible for the problems when they argue(61 %)
One or both partners have not yet worked through the issues and hurts from previous
relationships(58%)
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13. Couple positioning system (CPS)
•Review your couple Checkup Report to see what Couple Type you are most similar
to. The chart in the next page summarizes the strengths and key growth dimensions
of each type.
•The couple Scores in the Summary of Strength and Growth Areas graph describe
how much you agree with each other in a positive way about important aspects of
your marriage.
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