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About the Author
Angie Monko is the owner of Harmony
Harbor, the Healthy Soul-ution (www.
HarmonyHarbor.com). A resident of St.
Louis, MO, Angie practices EFT (Emotional
Freedom Technique) and is a Certified
Hypnotist. As the “Soul Activation Coach”,
she specializes in helping women who
struggle with weight, self-image and relationships learn to love
themselves first, step into their greatness and then release the
weight. She works with telephone clients from all over the country,
as well as those local to her region.
Angie earned her degree from Southern Illinois University at
Edwardsville in 1990 and spent 20 years working in the private
business sector. Over the years, Angie realized she was more
interested in helping others to heal themselves than focusing on
company profits. As an introvert, she looked within for her answers.
She soon realized she wanted to help others do the same thing. One
day a friend suggested she look into life coaching. Through various
referrals, she met a coach who lived one block away from her in St.
Louis! This coach introduced her to Emotional Freedom Technique
(EFT). On that fateful day, Angie fell in love with EFT immediately,
because she knew it was her pathway to peace.
Angie has earned Advanced Certificates in EFT and Hypnosis.
She now has her own coaching business, delivering awesome
service to clients based on THEIR needs…to release weight,
increase their energy and improve their relationships with God,
themselves and others.

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Healthy Soul-ution,
Harmony’s Safe Harbor
By Angie Monko
I used to think that being overweight was the cause of my
unhappiness. Now I know it’s the effect or painful symptom of my
ingrained beliefs. I overate and used food to soothe myself and
to quiet my anxious thoughts, because I didn’t trust my soothing
ability. I also used food for pleasure and comfort. I believed that
I needed food for happiness, because I didn’t subconsciously
deserve and allow joy into my life. All of that has changed.
I’ve been overweight my entire life. Eight years ago I joined
a twelve-step program that helped me tremendously to deal
with the core causes of my food addiction. I still see myself as
overweight. To this day, I retain an extra 15 pounds, although
I’m confident this is changing. Up until I joined the twelve-step
program, I was extremely unhappy with my body and often said
derogatory things to myself. I obsessed over food and binged
on sweets and salty food, hating myself even more after each
episode. I learned that diets don’t work. Even if I get to my goal
weight, unless I’ve changed on the inside, I will regain the weight.
Yo-yo dieting left me feeling frustrated and hopeless. Counting
calories or points and weighing frequently made me feel even
more compulsive and deprived. By isolating with food, I created
barriers to connecting with my true Self and with others.
Responsibly owning my feelings was a foreign concept. I wanted
to blame others for my pain.

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I also saw in black and white, all or nothing, terms. If I couldn’t
eat or exercise perfectly, then I wanted no part of it. Scarcity
thinking was my living room, the most comfortable room in the
house, where I could bask in my “not enough-ness”. Lack seems
to mesh well with being overweight. I could never get enough
food, because there wasn’t enough time, money or love to fill the
emptiness in my heart that resulted from self betrayal.
I had to get real with where I was. My results were like the
elephant in the room. I can’t deny them. They are my starting
point. If I’m overweight, it’s because that is what I want
subconsciously. Sure, I know that I want to be slender and
abundant consciously; but if that’s not what I’m getting, then
my much-more-powerful subconscious is dictating my actual
results…often harsh, but always true. In my subconscious mind
are records of everything that ever happened to me, which create
my beliefs. They may be telling me that I don’t deserve to release
the weight and that it’s not safe or possible.
As I question my beliefs, I see my insane thinking. I realize that
I’m creating this inward battle and outward nightmare. I don’t
accept parts of me: my selfish and bratty teenager, my harsh
critic (parent) within, and the part of me who gets overwhelmed
and seduced by chaos. My emotions are a wonderful barometer
of my core beliefs; and when those beliefs are threatened, I am
fearful. When I come from a place of fear, devoid of self-love, I try
to control everyone and everything around me.
My self image also plays a critical role in my success. I’ve always
seen myself as chubby and frumpy. Being thin meant struggling

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with diets, feeling deprived, anxious and grouchy. Why would
I want that? My job is to align my conscious desires with my
subconscious desires.
I have sometimes felt like someone invaded my mind and took
over my thinking. The ego self will always tell us we’re not
enough and that it is much safer to maintain the status quo. The
ego’s job is to keep us stuck, because that is safe. We have to learn
to train and discipline the ego mind. We don’t reject the ego, but
we do relinquish it.
After looking at my belief systems, I had to decide: “Is it worth
it? Am I willing to change? Is my pain enough that I will find a
different path?” I reached my pain threshold in 2002 when I
found my twelve-step program, but then I settled into a comfort
zone. I have maintained my weight for nearly eight years. It
seemed like enough. I thought it was vain to want a slender
body. Now I realize that my “WHY” for releasing this extra fifteen
pounds is much more than getting to my goal weight.
Who will I become in the process of releasing this weight? I will
develop what I coin “The Soul-ution Mindset”. It’s no longer
about perfectionism or needing people to approve of me. I can
be successful and accomplish all I need at my current weight. So
why do it? Because if I want to embody peace, love and joy, while
being a role model for others who are seeking the same results,
I must release the fear and choose love. When I release the fear, I
release the fat. I’m not quite there yet, but I love the journey.
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my beliefs and mature. I take responsibility for my thoughts,
feelings and actions. I blame no one. I live in the peaceful
moment. I do one thing at a time, and I don’t feel the need to rush
or cram too much in. I trust God to lead me to the next right step.
My vibration determines everything that I attract. If I vibrate fear,
I attract fearful circumstances. I’ve manifested this overweight
body due to my inability to soothe myself without overeating. My
thoughts and perception create my reality. My emotions impact
my health and well-being. I might as well focus on what I want
and stop playing childish games of illusion.
I have many Soul-ution tools that I use to help me on my journey
to peace, love and joy. I use Emotional Freedom Technique, where
I tap on energy meridians around the body to clear disrupted
energy. I meditate daily. I practice ho’oponopono, a Hawaiian
system of healing in which I say to myself, “I love you. I’m sorry.
Please forgive me. Thank you.” I pay attention to what I eat and
drink and get plenty of water and exercise. Each day I perform
a five-minute energy routine and practice Tibetan yoga rites. I
write a daily gratitude journal and write about my feelings to
keep myself aware. I study A Course in Miracles and pray and
surrender daily. I practice Byron Katie principles and read, read,
read. I also am a student of Universal Energy and practice this
daily.
The Soul-ution results in my Soul Activation, remembering who I
really am, my God Self Within. For the first time in my life, I have
glimpses of, and communion with, my Soul. I am falling in love
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blocked. As the result of knowing that God is my only Source and
practicing faith consistently, I’m beginning to know freedom and
reclaiming my life. I haven’t reached any destination, because
it doesn’t exist. As I surrender to my lovely Self and accept me,
in all of my splendid ego defects and glory, I am at peace. My
life is perfect, and I am whole. I am SO grateful for this gentle
understanding!
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