Help Presentation by Vanessa Horning - Strategies for Club Development presented at Region Conference 2011.

1. HELP ME IF YOU CAN! Vanessa Horning

2. “ We cannot teach people anything. We can only help them discover it within themselves.” Galileo

3. Stress Assessment

5. What we DO comes from our thoughts and beliefs

6. IN MY IDEAL WORLD I WOULD, …

7. People spend billions of dollars every year buying self-help and motivational tapes, videos, books, joining health clubs and diet programs, seeing doctors and therapists, and hiring life coaches and business consultants – and yet so often they fail to realize their goals. The reason isn’t that they don’t want to change or can’t change, but rather that they don’t understand change or have the right tools to effect it.

8. Impact of Stress on Our Lives SIA Club Work/Career Physical/health Psychological CAUSES SIGNS/SYMPTOMS IMPACTS

9. Fight or Flight

10. “ Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space lies our ability to choose our response and in that choice lies our growth and freedom.” Victor Frankl Man’s Search for Meaning

11. Create “The Space”

12. … .breathe

15. The Horse Fights Change!

16. The Team Horse and Rider working together, can be a BEAUTIFUL THING.

17. Emotions are Learned Associations with Past Experiences (Owned By Your Horse)

18. Anything that can be learned can be unlearned . And relearned.

19. F ocus I ntensity R epetition E nthusiasm

21. “ If you are pained by external things, it is not they that disturb you, but your own judgment of them. And it is in your power to wipe out that judgment now.” Marcus Aurelius

22. Event  Perception Interpretation Emotions Behavior (Thoughts) (Actions) (Feelings)

23. Event  Perception Interpretation Emotions Behavior Response Stimulus Choice

24. We can CHOOSE to… Current Frame Current Script Reframe Rescript And/Or New Script

25. Perception & Interpretation

26. “ All our knowledge has its origins in perceptions.” Leonardo da Vinci

34. How Bad is it REALLY ? “ Anyone can become angry -- that’s easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degree, at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way….that’s NOT EASY.” Aristotle

35. Mark Twain… “ In my life, I’ve experienced a lot of terrible things…a few which actually happened.”

37. “ Judge each day not by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.” Robert Louis Stevenson