3. LIFE LESSON – START THE CONVERSATION
A few years ago I learned a major life lesson: The initiation of conversation is half
the battle, so start the conversation.
I didn’t learn this from Big Daddy, (God I miss the days when Adam Sandler was
funny!),but instead from a buddy of mine in college.
4. The concept was quite simple...
Add everyone who you had even walked by in college on Facebook. Then,
before a night out, start the conversation online! Our very own version of
‘Online Dating’- well except way more successful, fun, and completely free.
One of these online conversations would start something like the chat below:
5. The rest was history...
Okay, history is probably an over statement but this worked amazingly well for meeting new
people, firstly online, then importantly in real life.We had hit the preverbal college
jackpot!We were opening up our social circles with every night out and meeting really cool
people in the process.
Lesson - Don’t spend a drunken night saying stupid stuff and getting ever drunker while
trying to dance close to a random girl. Prepare! – break the ice and start the conversation
online! Once the conversation has started, the rest is easy.
I would explain to other people about how easy this was, telling them that they need to start
using Facebook to meet new people but no one would believe me. That’s when it became almost
like a personal quest of mine to share this major life lesson - in order to make friends in a
really effective way you need to"start the conversation" - forget online dating - this is called
6. Face to face rejection
Rejection is hard to take. People hate interviews for jobs and driving tests because these are
opportunities for rejection. There is only one thing worse than rejection - face to face rejection.
So, why in the pursuit of happiness, or the opposite sex, would you set yourself up for face to
face rejection time and time again? The beauty of this technique is that it almost completely
eliminates the chances of a face to face rejection as well as hugely increasing your chance of
meeting someone really cool. As Billy Joel famously said, “I really wish I was less of a
thinking man and more of a fool not afraid of rejection”. Well Billy, today is your lucky day.
Time to think
You know that moment when you’re like -“WTF did I just say?” - Well chatting to
someone for the first time online means you get that little bit more time to think about the
perfect thing to say. For me, a notorious panic talker, this was huge and made an amazing
difference in the quest to meet new people.
So, as you can imagine, college was going great when the discovery of this life lesson was
made. Yet we quickly began to encounter problems, not with the life lesson, but with the
8. Being ‘That Guy’
After a while, when you have been using Facebook to meet new people a little too
much, and have added quite a lot of people that you don’t really know, you start
to get the reputation of ‘that guy’ who adds everyone! This isn’t good, trust me!
9. Run Out Of People
Once number one has started to set in and you begin to become more aware of your
‘adding’ behaviour, the pool of people that you could meet, quickly diminishes.
10. What To Start With, It’s Such A Gamble
The ice breaking comments are similar to a roulette decision - there are a million
conversations I could start with this person but what will be the conversation that will
make us click. The problem being that you don’t know this person - coupled with number
11. It’s All So Random
The major stick out problem has to be that all of this behaviour is completely random,
there is no rhyme or reason for adding this person and not adding that person. This means
that the chances of meeting someone meaningful starts to also diminish and in your quest
to meet new people, you either become too choosy or not choosy enough.
12. So, one amazing life lesson, but also one system that was not made for purpose. I now
knew that I needed to not only share this life lesson, I needed to create an environment in
which it blossomed.Hello Speeksy!Forget online dating, Speeksy is a platform for
everyone, for everyday use, in one of the most difficult things in the modern world, create
new meaningful relationships.
Speeksy, a play on ‘speak easy’, is a social discovery platform that enables you to make
meaningful connections to people by starting the conversation online. It has all the benefits
that I have mentioned above as well as eliminating the weaknesses of using Facebook to
meet new people. Speeksy makes the connections between people based on their mutual
friends, common interests, and location. Speeksy takes all of this information from a ‘one
click’ sign up process. In one click, Speeksy usersare opening up their social circles and
discovering new, meaningful people, in the most efficient way. So join the conversation!
13. Speeksy is a Social Discovery Application that allows
you to stream free music playlists, browse pop culture
conversation topics and break the ice with new people
through music, conversation topics and mutual friendships.
Meet New People
14. Make New Friends on Facebook
Speeksy is a Real Time Social Discovery application
that allows Facebook users to meet new people through
common interests, conversation topics, mutual friends and
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