This document discusses the "NIGYSOB - Life Game" which stands for "Now I Have Got You, You Son of a Bitch". It is described as a two-handed game where the aim is justification, with roles of victim and aggressor. Examples provided include a jealous husband catching his wife. Guidelines are given for avoiding or properly handling situations with people who engage in this game.

1. NIGYSOB - Life Game
Transactional Analysis

2. Prepared By
Manu Melwin Joy
Assistant Professor
Ilahia School of Management Studies
Kerala, India.
Phone – 9744551114
Mail – manu_melwinjoy@yahoo.com
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3. Life Games
• All games have an
important and probably
decisive influence on the
destinies of the players
under ordinary social
conditions.
• But some offer more
opportunities than others
for life long careers and
are more likely to involve
relatively innocent
bystanders.
• This group may be
conveniently called Life
Games.

4. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• NIGYSOB is a two
handed game in which
the aim is justification.
• It must be distinguished
from the game “ Ain’t it
Awful?” (AIA).
• NIGYSOB is
commercialized in a
three handed
professional form as the
badger game.

5. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• NIGYSOB is also played as
a two handed marital
game in more or less
subtle forms.
• The best antithesis is
correct behavior.
• The contractual structure
of relationship with a
NIGYSOB player should be
explicitly stated in detail
at the first opportunity,
and the rules strictly
adhered to.

6. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• In clinical practices, the
question of payment for
missed appointments or
cancellations must be
settled clearly at once,
and extra precautions
must be taken to avoid
mistakes in book
keeping.

7. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• If an unforeseen
contretemps arises, the
antithesis is to yield
gracefully without
dispute, until such time
as the therapist is
prepared to deal with
the game.

8. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• In everyday life,
business dealings with
NIGYSOB players are
always calculated risks.

9. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• The wife of such a
person should be
treated with polite
correctness and even
the mildest flirtation,
gallantries or slights
should be avoided,
especially if the
husband himself seems
to encourage them.

10. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Thesis – Now I have got
you, you son of the bitch.
• Aim – Justification.
• Roles – Victim, Aggressor.
• Dynamics – Jealous rage.

11. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Examples.
– I caught you this time
– Jealous husband.
• Social paradigm – Adult –
Adult.
– Adult – See you have done
wrong.
– Adult – Now that you draw it to
my attention, I guess I have.

12. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Psychological paradigm –
Parent - Child.
– Parent – I have been
watching you, hoping you
did make a slip.
– Child – You caught me this
time.
– Parent – Yes and I am going
to let you feel the full force
of my fury.

13. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Moves.
– Provocation – Accusation.
– Defense – Accusation.
– Defense – Punishment.

14. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Internal psychological
advantages – Justification
for rage.
• External psychological
advantages – avoids
confrontation of own
deficiencies.

15. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Internal social advantages
– NIGYSOB.
• External social advantages
– They have always out to
get you.

16. Now I Have Got You ,You Son Of A Bitch
• Biological advantages –
belligerent exchanges,
usually ipsisexual.
• Existential advantages –
People can’t be trusted.

17. References

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